The Marriage-Minded Man...WHO is HE?
Yesterday, I wrote about a guy that won't commit. Well, in my "investigative process" I was talking to a couple that had dated for 7 years, and just got married a month ago. I couldn't resist asking him what made him decide to marry. The answer? "it was time".
Well, I couldn't let it stop with that ambiguous of an answer. I pressed on, "What do you mean by "it was time"?" (ignoring the glares I was getting from my S.O. - he thinks it's intrusive, however, I feel it's research).
He began with a loving look at his new wife. "There were factors to consider. I didn't want to be burdened with child support, and the kids are now grown from my first marriage. Even though that marriage ended, it wasn't a knock-down drag out fight. I met Mary after I was divorced. I dated around some, but nothing clicked. I LIKE being in a committed relationship, he said, it feels right to have someone that can depend on me, and I depend on her."
Well, back to "it was time" statement. I dug further and asked again what he meant by it. He simply stated, "It was time to blend our families. I love her kids, and she loves mine, they all get along great, and we really wanted to do more 'family - oriented" activities together. And, he added, "I wanted to show my kids that a man steps up to the plate, and marries the woman he's in love with. Because I met Mary long after my divorce, there was no resentment or any of that garbage from my kids. They embraced her, and like her. Same with me and her kids."
Now, this leads me to believe that there are two kinds of men. Those that WANT a partner and those that THINK they want a partner...only to the latter type, a "partner" means "part-time" and the rest of the time they want to do their own thing...it's a control issue, I suppose.
More "investigative blogging" to continue. The next idea rumbling in my head is "Why couples fight over the stupidest things..."
Make it a GREAT day!
Sending you angels,
Jane