To Hold or Not to Hold onto the Cookie Jar?
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......Here’s the scene: You meet
someone, you feel that instant chemistry, and *pow* the hormones kick in like
you’ve never felt before. He asks you to go back to his place, and oh – say
‘view his etchings’ or some equally frail excuse to get you alone. You BOTH are
pretty steamy for each other. Should you go? OR, should you decline, and go
home with your cookie jar and wait?
A very unscientific survey that I
conducted, based upon interviewing about 10 different single, unattached men
which would he prefer? One: that you come with him, or, Two: wait for another
time….9 out of the 10 said he would prefer it if you did NOT go home with him
immediately after meeting him. (For the sake of definition this means within
the evening).
Granted, most of the men I
surveyed said that he would always welcome sex. However, most were also single,
unattached, and unwittingly looking for someone special. One told me, “If a
girl is willing to go home with me the night that I meet her – this is great
for the moment, but doesn’t make me feel very special, and often I wonder how
often she does this.”
I call it the “Cookie Jar”. If
you meet someone that YOU think has potential, were interesting and you’d like
to see more of him – keep the cookie jar in tact. Let HIM ask for YOUR phone
number. Let HIM ask if it is okay to call you. And, if you really want to be
the mysterious wonder creature, tell him that you don’t give out your number,
but he can email you, or ask him for his number.
There’s nothing “old fashioned”
in waiting to get intimate with someone. It has withstood the test of time, and
ages. Fundamentally, men will respect women that have a high self-respect. When
the time is right – then you can give up the cookie jar…. but only if it feels
right to you. This is one time that you will need to ask yourself this: “Am I
doing this so that he will like me more?” “How will I feel about myself?” “Do I
really like him enough to be intimate with him at this point in the
relationship?”. Take some time, pause, and reflect about how YOU feel.
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Make it a Great
Tuesday!
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your calls today!
Sending you angels,
Jane
Angels fly because they take themselves lightly