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Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!


When you are in a relationship that is what I call "muddied" with doubt and confusion; chances are you're wondering if there may be someone else in your significant others life? Here is Jane's List for recognizing if someone else is in your relationship.  For simplicity, I'm using "HE" instead of "HE/SHE", so don't be offended. This list applies to both genders.

10. He changes the routine of calling you.

9.  He's too busy to return a text message or voice mail.

8.  He doesn't try to calm your insecurities about his ex.

7.  Last year you got roses this year you got a card and a snicker's bar for Valentine's Day.

6.  When you take something to his house, the dish is immediately cleaned and set on the table so you won't forget it.

5. He'd rather sit at home with you and watch T.V. than go out.

4. A variety of other beverages start to appear (Kahlua,  Bailey's- and neither of you drink these).

3. Other  friends casually ask (as if they already know the answer and are waiting for 'the scoop') if the two of you are still together.

2.   He won't answer his phone when he's with you.

1. And the number one  clue that someone else is in your relationship: He's too busy with "projects" on weekends to see you, and too tired on Saturday night to go out with you; (because of the exhausting work he's done on his 'projects') so it's best you both stay home he'll call you in the morning...and it's late morning around 11am when you get the call.

If you recognize any of these, suspect that your guy/gal is probably entertaining someone else. I'm sure there are more, but these are MY top ten signs! Don't wait for all of them. Step back from the relationship, and focus somewhere else. It doesn't mean that it's over, but do you really want someone that is cheating?

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Yes, I've been a 'blog slacker', and I apologize. I put a lot of effort into my writing, and sometimes the creative juices just stop flowing. Make it a great day! I'm available for your calls.

Sending you angels,
Jane

Published Tuesday, July 22, 2008 12:51 PM by Jane Wilcox

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Tuesday, February 26, 2008 6:09 AM by Rosalea

# re: Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!

Great to see you back blogging Jane for I missed your insight.  This is a great list!

Rosie
Tuesday, July 22, 2008 6:59 PM by Lady Rose 2001

# re: Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!

Brilliant!  Great post.  I've also found that it's time to worry when he asks, "Why?" when you ask a simple question.

Being grilled about timelines, too.  "When did you call?  What day?  What time?  Oh, I remember now - my cell phone ran out of juice."
Tuesday, July 22, 2008 8:41 PM by Jane Wilcox

# re: Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!

LR, I also believe I should have included the 'Irritable Boy Syndrome' - when NOTHING you do is right!
Friday, August 08, 2008 2:52 AM by eikaiwa girl

# re: Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!

When you ask a question, he will reply you have so many thoughts on your mind. let talk about it when were together, but he never answers lol.
Friday, August 08, 2008 3:43 AM by Sunshine

# re: Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!

How about when he gets a tex and won't let you read it because Opps! he erased it by mistake. It was his buddy....yea right!!
Friday, August 08, 2008 4:45 AM by Barbara

# re: Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!

Great job, very well stated but I wish I knew all of this before hand. I'm 46 yrs old and at the time I was 39 yrs old and never in my entire life did I go through a breakup where there was cheating and lying going on. If I knew then what I know now and believe me I'm an expert now, I would have dumped him first.
Friday, August 08, 2008 10:56 PM by Tinkerbell's Magic4ever

# re: Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!

I believe this blog is RIGHT ON the MONEY! Thanks for reminding me of why I broke it off,left and stop calling him. Thank god I'm free now. I have so much more peace in my life. It's amazing how much I've changed, in a positive way of course. Thanks for the support.
Monday, September 15, 2008 3:42 AM by Martina

# re: Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!

They also like defending themself and they say that you have negative thoughts. Every things you will say or tell them they will either laugh or change the subject. There are lots of ways of finding out when someone else is in your relationship."Step back from the relationship, and focus somewhere else". This is a good advice Jane, but sometimes its hard to accept the fact when you've fall for only one person.
Tuesday, September 16, 2008 2:44 AM by sofia

# re: Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!

u suck big time at your advice get another day job.u really need it.good luck wishin u all the best.







Wednesday, October 08, 2008 6:16 PM by BattingAlone

# re: Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!

Hey... I'm guilty of 6 out of 10 of these excuses any given night of the week and I'm not cheating on my other half.

Sometimes I find I just feel like I need a break from the everyday hustle and bustle of life and I want to be alone to recuperate and think. Now I could be wrong, but I'm betting there are others out there who feel the same way!
Tuesday, October 14, 2008 2:32 PM by ladytech2002

# re: Top 10 Signs SOMEONE ELSE is in YOUR Relationship!

I am in a situation where my Husband has been cheating on me for 10 months now, he fell in love with the other woman and she's turned out to be a gun packing hot mama from the pen!! Now he's trying to get over her and leave her. LOL  My Dad's buying me a house and I'm OUTTAHERE!  I just wanted to add that YES every one of those signs are right on the money, and that's from someone who just went through it. Maybe if it's only 6 out of 10 you should investigate before you leave though, that other person had a point, not ALL people who do some of those things are cheating, in my experience it was ALL the signs and they were like a red NEON sign!

Signed,

Done Crying and FREE

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