When YOUR Happiness Gets Interrupted
Start rattling the dice, you're in a relationship and there are plenty
of games that come included with it. These "gamers" are actually
"relationship spoilers" and will stop at nothing to ensure that YOUR
happiness is interrupted.
Let's begin with outside influences. Your best friend hates your
boyfriend. This one can be tricky. Don't plan on passing "Go" or
getting any of "Get out of Jail" cards for free. She's manipulative and
hates the fact that your boyfriend is now monopolizing your time.
Pretty soon it's a tug of war and YOU are the rope. Who wins? Actually,
no one. It's up to you to not ignore your BFF just because you have a
new man in your life.
Another outside influence: HIS best friend wants you. *ouch*. He IS
cute, but not the great guy you're with, and isn't it kinda creepy in a
competitive sort of way that he's hitting on you?. How to get out of
it? Be honest. Tell your guy, "listen, I know that XYZ is your BFF, but
I'd prefer not to be around him because he's hitting on me, so you
spend your time with him but leave me at home. I'll be fine." (This
will go over really well - especially since HIS BFF probably has a
history of doing this).
I was reading another Advisor blog the other day and I thought: "Gee,
did she live MY life?" I went out of town on a girl-trip ONE night. I
expected my guy to go have fun, too. I mean - fair play, right? Well, I
came home and the house was a mess - empty beer bottles, stuff
around.... then I saw it - a bra. And I was so angry - not at HIM
(because, you see I trust the guy. We've been together for what seems
like forever, and I know the person he got a ride home from- at least
he's smart enough not to drink and drive) I was angry at the person
that "staged" my home to make it look as if something had "happened".
Oh yes, the games people play.
If you're happy, and you know it: clap your hands, and be prepared for
the less-than happy ones surrounding you to interfere. They will. Understand it and please
don't allow it to spoil YOUR relationship. Pray THEY find happiness without stealing yours!