Why is Commitment SO difficult?
Avoiding a commitment surrounds many in a relationship. The main reason
is that "commitment" , itself, is confused with "ownership" and
"restriction". Once the commitment is made, the energies shift. Why?
People don't "own" people. If true love exists in a relationship, there
is no fear.
Dr. Wayne Dyer said it best:
"Love and Fear cannot exist in the same space
any more than Peace and Chaos can".
Think about this. Why aren't you getting the commitment that you want?
Is it because you want ownership of a person? Is it because this will
bring you the security that he/she won't wander off to someone else?
Will this commitment bring you peace - especially if you insist on
forcing the issue?
Commitment isn't necessarily "security". If he/she wants to go out
without you just to have a guys/gals night out does it make you feel
rejected or upset that he/she doesn't want to include you? How do you
feel when you are out, and he/she is casually flirting with someone
else? Does jealousy come into the picture?
Why even have the need to define the relationship if you are enjoying
each other? If you are participating in intimate relations with
someone, you can ask each other to honor that you won't be intimate
with someone else; however, is this a 'commitment' or are you wanting
security and ownership?
True love is a space of freedom. Loving relationships are not built on insecurities. Loving relationships offer you the opportunity to be yourself, enjoy a partner, and to BE a loving partner to someone.
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Food for thought on a Tuesday. Make it a great day!
Sending you angels,
Jane