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YOU "GET REAL" Dr. Phil....!!!!

Dr. Phil lost me as a fan. Well, I never was a HUGE fan, but I found his show to be somewhat amusing, educational at times, and even entertaining at others. However, his self-promotion of his newest 'sell-out' "Get Real"....oh, gimme a break. GET REAL???? Preparing YOU for life's challenges. Well, Get REAL yourself, Dr. Phil - NO ONE is ever "prepared" for the challenges that you outline in your book.

Gee, he outlines some critical responses that women go through when their man suddenly has a mid-life crisis (not to mention a girlfriend that is as old as his oldest daughter) and bullet items elementary emotional responses. *Fear - well, DUH. *Financial Security - again, DUH. *Loss of self-esteem - AGAIN, DUH! *yawn*. And he honestly thinks anyone can be "prepared" for this????

Dr. Phil, YOU get REAL. I don't care what the situation is that suddenly changes ones life - NO ONE and I mean NO ONE is "prepared" to handle it with grace and dignity. MOST of us curl up in a fetal position, experience some depression, and then figure out what to do. Some will seek therapy to cope, others will read your stupid book and know that you must've been under contract to pump this "work" out in haste before the Christmas season. It reads like Psych 101 (or pre-101. The key points are things you learn in high school).

So, GET REAL Dr. Phil. I mean really. Prepared for life's challenges? Ya, right. When life throws you a curve ball, you either duck or get smacked in between the eyeballs. Most of us get smacked. And why? It's ALL divine. It's all about some lesson that we need to be pulled through to encourage growth of our soul, spirit, and mind. Challenges are BLESSINGS IN DISGUISE. They make us stronger - not bitter (although most experience bitterness initially) - until we realize that the challenges and hurdles presented to us by the Universe actually make us BETTER.

Get REAL, Dr. Phil - stop pumping out books that anyone can google and find the same information.

One closing note. I always say this to everyone who finds themselves alone on a holiday - especially Christmas because this is probably one of the most difficult holidays to be alone on (and I've spent so many of them alone that I can speak from experience). PLEASE remember: IT'S JUST ONE DAY. It's 24 hours of festivities that you can handle  if you curl up with a good book (just don't get Dr. Phil's "Get Real" book). It's 24 hours that you are allowed to stay in bed all day in the fetal position and feel sorry for yourself if you choose. You are allowed to go through as many Oreos as you want, bags of chips, and ice cream. It's OKAY. Give yourself permission, and know: it's JUST ONE DAY. One. Uno. Un. ONE. OK?

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Jane

Published Wednesday, December 24, 2008 6:07 AM by Jane Wilcox

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Wednesday, December 24, 2008 5:33 AM by Trinity Connection

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Here here Jane.  As someone who has spent the last 5 christmas holidays alone, it is just one day, but a day to treat yourself to whatever it is will make the day better for you, eat, drink and cry your eyes out if that is what you feel like doing.  Last year I started digging over part of my garden on christmas day, it's just another day, having said that it's one day closer to getting stronger.  Blessings.
Wednesday, December 24, 2008 6:04 AM by Jane Wilcox

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T.C. It's a hard day, and this I know. But the flip side is that when it's over, hey - we survive it! Then, there are those after Christmas sales! Yippie. So, you can purchase all kinds of things at a fraction of the price and tell the Universe, "Next year I won't be alone". All told, there were 10 Christmas's that Jane spent with Jane. The first ones were hard, thus the ice cream. The next ones got easier, and I even discovered that donating time, and/or money to charities helped a lot. I did the Salvation Christmas Angels and this was more joy than I can tell you, so it's become a part of my Christmas since 1990. Christmas is what we decide it to be. I'm baking cookies today! Gingerbread men. Maybe some will be headless ;-)
Happy Holidays to you!!
Wednesday, December 24, 2008 9:04 PM by Lady Hope

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I myself use to watch Dr Phil a lot, and even purchases his book on family as I had my fiances daughter here for a while. Her behaviour was beyound the book examples lol and didnt help at all in a real life situation for me. I know though he has helped many, for that I am grateful.
I know one of my best friends sends her kids off on Christmas, per her custody aggreement, and its really hard for her. I try hard give her a call and be supportive. The only advice i can give is just take it one hour at a time and try to do something that you can immerse yourself in so the the time goes by quicker. Or do have that cry day as suggested lol, why not. REad a book and listen to music, take a nice hot bath...things you are not always privy too. IF this is going to be an every year thing, why not volunteer at a mission or something to get out of the house. Someone somewhere needs a volunteer!  OR go to a nursing home. Just an idea. Ive always wanted to volunteer for a holiday dinner for those less fortunate but cannot due to physical restraints. It will pass your time and get your head in a different place. And....you can share it with your kids later.
Thursday, December 25, 2008 7:49 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Dr. Phil just has a narrow and arrogant mind. He really thinks that he has all the answers. I never liked his show. It is similar to Jerry Springer to me. His confidence is what feeds his success not his knowledge. He is proof that if you believe to be a success you will be one whether you deserve to be or not.
Thursday, December 25, 2008 7:51 AM by justaskdrdonna

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Also. Very few people can help someopne beyond their own personal experience because there is that normal human bias and judgement gets in the way. It takes lots of self work to be able to really help someone. Dr. Phil is never going to work on hisself because he thinks that he is right.
Thursday, December 25, 2008 12:14 PM by Clairvoyant Liz James

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Not a fan of Dr. Phil at all.  I am however, a big fan of sleep, good books and dog gone it..... ICE CREAM!!  I wish I could lay in bed today:((  Got to do the family trip.  But with my new Grandbaby, it should be a delight.

We could always lynch Dr. Phil, KIDDING of course.  Have a great day everyone.

:))
Margaret
Thursday, December 25, 2008 10:37 PM by Jane Wilcox

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oh, no, Margaret - all in favor of the "lynching" - metaphorically speaking, of course. And, Donna - you got it right - he thinks he's ALWAYS right...hasn't lost the "need to be right"... and to this I say *yawn* whataver.... point is that there is NO WAY this so-called "self help" book of his can prepare ANYONE for the curve balls that life pitches to us. Sorry, but were any of us prepared for divorce? or, worse, the death of our father? Um, that would be NO. And, no book can do this. PERIOD. He's sold out to the corporate whatevers that say "pump out a book"...... merry, merry!
Friday, December 26, 2008 12:30 AM by Lady Hope

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AZangel your right he has sold out. When you said that it put a burr under my saddle. lol. I think he means well. lynch him with chocolate pudding and cotton balls. Pretty!

Oh my gosh Ma M, ice cream is my favorite. We are not having it in the house as we try to diet...love love love ice cream..I like it when its cold out, when its hot out..its like the best food in the world. Whoever created ice cream should be a saint! Man and its been cold here, -22 with wind chill, my nostrils stick together when I breath, love it! LOve the snow! Didnt they use to make like maple snow ice cream in the old pioneer days, you would know Margaret..right ? )snicker snicker( evil like)
Friday, December 26, 2008 12:33 AM by Lady Hope

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I still kind of like him tho, but I bet he has lots of nose and ear hairs! He just looks like he does, I be they hire fairies to cut them for him.
Saturday, December 27, 2008 5:50 AM by Jane Wilcox

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I was talking about this with a friend of mine, and she was like "preparing???" That's like saying, "ok, you're getting married but here's how to prepare for divorce...." That just seems wrong. How about something to make marriage WORK (Oh, I forgot, he has those books, too)....
Saturday, December 27, 2008 12:24 PM by GIFTED11

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Jane, Your right nothing or no one can prepare anyone for "crisis" or the hard bend in the road. Dr Phil, well there are so many Dr.Phil's. It is sad but true..People will listen to his go arounds because they are desperate and also because Oprah way back when endorsed him. He got a lucky foot in pudding to get to where he is, eventually it all falls away when you start to look at what is the truth to the situations. The "Ouches" are the blessings because without them we all would just be going on and on in circles with no growth- but they do hurt but- only for awhile..
Your wonderful with this blog Thank you..
Hugs,
Donna

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