"I'm calling to see when I'm going to meet my soulmate."
The calls are frequent. "When am I going to meet my soulmate?" "When am I going to meet 'the one?'" "When is my special someone coming?" And while every call is appreciated, generally the answer is not, "January 9, 2010 at 3:30 PM." It's actually a very, very complex question and cannot be answered in three minutes. And much of it is the result of mistaken beliefs rooted in new age feelgoodism based on romantic notions and misinterpretations of Greek mythology or Cayce.
Yes, there are actually individuals who believe that a special companion has been earmarked for them and only them, and it is their destiny to meet that person and live happily ever after. Their lives are going to be transformed and the two shall forever be as one. Would that it were that easy.
This question is not the best question to
ask a psychic. First, as I stated, it's not that easy. Believing that
suddenly one day you're going to drop your purse on the street and a
guy is going to pick it up for you, you're going to look in each
others' eyes and music will swell up in the background -- that's like
believing you can do a money manifestation and suddenly a lawyer is
going to call and inform you they've just discovered you're Howard Hugh's
long-lost niece. The vast majority of people are not karmically bound
to one person.
First, most people don't really understand what a soulmate is. A soulmate can be a romantic partner, a spouse, a child, a coworker, a close friend of the same gender. In the most generic sense of the term it's simply someone with whom we have a karmic background, whom we've known before, and who plays a significant role in our lives due to an agreement prior to this incarnation.
In a romantic context, a soulmate may be the last person in the world you'd want to meet. Why? Because frequently soulmate situations lead to dysfunctional relationships due to the fact that there is a karmic debt to be paid. For example, maybe you weren't the best partner in the world last time around, and now it's your turn. Maybe the person's mission is to help you grow through challenge. But more often than not, there is some kind of karmic interaction that is less than pleasant.
Sometimes this question can be dangerous. In more than two decades
of practice, I have had to repair much damage done by so-called
psychics who told someone a person was their soulmate or that a
soulmate was coming. "Well, yes, he maxed out my credit cards, cheated
on his first two wives, sold my cat to the university for research and
every time my daughter has a friend over he wants to know if she's over
18, but I'm stuck with him because he's my soulmate." And I've had
plently of clients literally pass up numerous opportunites with
potential mates who would have been good for them because they'd been
told that they would meet their soulmate two years down the road or the
people they were meeting didn't fit a description they'd been given.
And then there is the question as to why it is so important? So what if this is the first incarnation in which you've met this particular soul? Is that necessarily bad if they fall in love with you and you fall in love with them? You initially had to have met your soulmates for the first time in one life or another, didn't you? And you formed a bond that went beyond one lifetime. It can happen again.
Here's the bottom line. If you're calling a psychic to ask when you're going to meet your soulmate, the real issue is that you have not had a fulfilling romantic relationship, have a pattern of relationship failure, or for some reason you've been making bad choices. Isn't it far better to find out what the problem is than to have an expectation that may or may never be fulfilled, or, if it is fulfilled, could be disastrous? Isn't it far better to diagnose the issue and talk about solutions than to potentially waste years of your life hoping beyond reason for a fairy tale ending?
So again, while all calls and questions are welcome, for most individuals a question like, "When am I going to meet my soulmate?" is actually a question that brings a satisfactory answer. On the other hand, a question like, "Do you see any relationship opportunities coming my way?" is a lot more productive. And questions like, "Why have I never had a lasting relationship?" or "Why do I keep repeating the same pattern?" can literally change your life.
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