Care To Take a Dip In The Man Pool?
Let's go swimming!!!! Which pool would you like to swim in, the wading pool or the nice double Olympic-size pool (and I'll even throw Michael Phelps in the mix)?
Now I'm sorry to say, the little wading pool belongs to the women of the species, although we have a multitude of pools, small though they may be -- say about the size one might find in Barbie's Dream House.
Now the Man Pool is immense, one huge pool, where a dude can do the breast stroke (pun intended), and do laps till he's all worn out, or swim in circles for years before he's back at the beginning.
Now of course I'm talking about the pool of available prospects.
Let's use an example. Say you're a beautiful, accomplished, educated, professional 40-year-old female doctor. Who are you going to date?
Although the world may be teaming with available dudes, women tend to want someone they consider on their level or above. While the poolboy may look good, and may amuse you for a while, you tend to want an accomplished, educated, professional dude that you can relate to.
Although these days age isn't as much of a factor, we usually tend to want someone around our age or older. When we are presented with younger dude, issues arise regarding appearance. Face it, sadly, our society is so appearance-conscious, it takes an extremely self-confident woman not to worry whether dude either is or will be dissatisfied with her appearance as she ages. I get the calls to prove it. And strangely, the women are far more stressed about it than their younger dude is.
The dude of our fair Dr. Maiden's dreams will tend to be her equivalent or above in all categories.
Now grab your water wings, and let's take a dip in the dude pool.
This time, let's make it Dr. Dude, with the same parameters, hunky, accomplished, educated, professional. Who does Dr. Dude want? You could drown in his dating pool!
Just like Dr. Maiden, his world is also teaming with available prospects, but here's the dif: in his case, he's inviting them all in -- with scuba gear, no less. He's got everyone from the 20-year-old receptionist who barely graduated high school to the 40-year-old doc down the hall.
The part that sucks is, it's his choice. Does he want the nubile, young receptionist, or Dr. Maiden, our heroine in this story, who he can communicate on the same level with?
Now before we go changing his name to Dr. Pig, these women aren't exactly resisting his charms, or his money. And after all, we do have the same choices, however unsatisfactory they are to us.
Part of it is also genetics. Dudes are much more prone to pick a young, beautiful woman than we are to pick her male counterpart. Why? It's built into their, ahem, homing device to find a woman of the species to who can produce good, healthy junior Dr. Dudes, just as our preference is to seek out a good provider.
So what's a girl to do? Absolutely nothing.
As unfair as it seems, I wouldn't change a thing. Do I want to spend my life with the poolboy? Nah. Poolboy might be a nice place to visit, but I wouldn't want to live there.
Keep your standards high, and don't ever settle for less than you deserve -- nothing but the best for you, baby!