Life According to Laurie

Thank you for this.  This is the perfect analogy to something I went through with someone whom I thought was my friend and how she threw it in my face that I have someone and you don't.  I had a hard time with how everything was happening so fast with her and her new boyfriend whom she met on "plenty of fish".  She wanted to share their text sex.  I said no thanks.  A while later she told me that he didn't have much money and that he wanted to move in with her.  These two people are both divorced and have young children.  I do not speak with her perhaps because I tried to tell her as a friend to be careful.  I guess she didn't like that.  

Thanks again for this.

Venus trines Jupiter today and this is the astrological recipe for craving sweets and chocolate!

Laurie, you always make enjoyable perfect sense.
If I did this once, I did it a hundred times. Will I ever learn?

I had a milky way for breakfast, lol.

Leslie, well, I always say there are no coincidences.  I really do have a sweet tooth and an addiction to chocolate!  It is far more satisfying than a bad relationship, lol!

Thank you, F&A.  Make mine a Snickers!

I'm wondering why it seems as if women are more prone to doing this than men are.  We rush relationships as if we've got a timetable from hell, and perhaps that's why we do it.  We feel our biological clocks ticking.  We see our girlfriends coupling up.  We feel the stigma of being the ONLY SINGLE ONE LEFT.  So we not only settle, we choose unwisely.  We force things even though we know, deep down inside, that it just won't work.

All because we're too damn scared to be alone.

Thank you, Shirley, for your comment.  One thing I always tell people when they start talking about their friends having someone and they don't -- "Would you want him?"  Nine times out of ten, we wouldn't.  

ManilaHag, it's one of the mysteries of the world to me.

I think some of it goes back to the fallacy that we're just not fulfilled or complete unless we have a man.  I wish women would realize that it's better to be great alone before you even attempt to be great with someone else.

Too many women tie their self worth into being part of a couple, as if we're less of a person because we don't have a man.  It's something very prevalent in Asia, where a single woman constantly needs to fend off the unspoken notion that there's probably something wrong with her, why no decent man has snapped her up yet.

When in truth, there's something wrong with her if she jumps into the arms of the wrong guy.

Laurie this is just a perfect analogy.  I love it and I hope you know that in my youth I served a lot of "half-baked" cakes during my life adventures.  I caution my clients and sometimes plead with them that any relationship worth having takes time to grow and it has to be nutured and coaxed before it takes its true form. I hope everyone reads this post today for it is very enlightening and so are the comments.  Thanks for sharing with us.

Rosie

Thank you so much for sweet comment, Rosie.

I think all of us have had a half-baked relationship at one time or another.  Even the smartest woman in the world can be hit by the stupid stick when it comes to love, and wanting to be loved is a basic human instinct.

Laurie, loved your analogy, especially when I stopped to reflect that most of us don't even reach for our grandmother's recipe book; we haul out that Betty Crocker just-add-eggs&-water box. Quick-n-instant gratification. Even Frank Sinatra said "let's take it nice and easy...aaaaaaalll the way. But no, We want the "cake" to do its thing, not too much effort on our part, and come out!POOOF ! DONE & PERFECT!!!! And then the surprise when it disappoints, tastes a bit cardboardy. Because we didn't look for, specify ahead of time the ingredients. We didn't hold out for quality or time invested. The yeast let us down. In effect we sold out.

Good solid loving relationships take time and quality input.
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HOWEVER: I do adore Sara Lee cakes...with my darling husband.    :)