I'm getting more and more calls lately from women wondering exactly what their Dude of Wonder is doing online all the time.  Many times, it turns out he's just playing games -- but indeed, these are not the kind of games you'll appreciate. 

 
For some reason, it seems more and more, women are becoming more sexually aggressive towards men.  I don't mind women with sexual freedom -- far from it.  But it seems instead of sexual freedom, some women are actually selling themselves into sexual servitude.
 
I don't believe they're going after men in this way because they want sex, but instead, because they want attention.  And what better way to get a man's attention than by flashing him on webcam or offering cybersex.
 
Unfortunately, this just goes back to the same old story:  "If I have sex with him, he will love me."  Well, no.  It goes more like this:  "If you have sex with him, he will think you want to have sex with him," period.  And whyever not?  He thinks he's stud of the world with all these women after him and you're just the lucky recipient.
 
I have a few male friends who have recounted stories that have astonished me.  They've gone online, either chatrooms or dating sites, and had women all over them, fighting over them, sending nakie pics and offering sex.
 
So it's safe to say -- a lot of them like it!  Not only do they like this steady stream of available women giving them instant ego boosts by treating them like they are the greatest stud that ever lived, they are becoming addicted to it.
 
I can't really blame them, jump on the computer, put up a picture that could be 10, 20 years old, or even phony, and have a quickie.  It's a computer.  They can jump on, claim to be all the things that they've never achieved in life, and have some girl in awe of them.
 
It may be great for men, living a fantasy on-line, but it's a sad commentary for women that are willing to disrespect themselves in such a manner that they will offer themselves up on a platter to a stranger, in hopes of finding love.
 
Women, if we have a physical bond, we quickly develop an emotional bond.  It's not true of every man, but they are just inherently different than us.  Sex is a release.  They don't equate it with love like we do.
 
Ever watch The Bachelor or one of the even lower grade shows where women are vying for the guy's attention?  I watched The Bachelor the other night (I'm a reality show junkie) and I just kept thinking, as he asked each of the three girls if they wanted to spend the night with him, "Ewwwww. I KNOW what you've been doing with your Dude thing."
 
Would you sleep with a man knowing the night before and the night after he was with two other women?  I seriously doubt it. Yet each woman readily agreed to do so.  Why?  Because the carrot of love and marriage is being dangled over their head -- well, plus a few TV cameras. (We won't talk about the fact that Bachelor Dude is so gorgeous even your author may have melted). 
 
I sort of equate it to the mink industry -- which being the animal lover I am, I don't like.  As long as women continue to buy mink coats, they will continue to breed and kill minks.  As long as women continue to give it up to men at the slightest inkling that they might get a little attention, or a hope for love, men will continue to misunderstand and think it's perfectly okay.
 
But who is doing this, who is encouraging it?  The women.  Who can blame the men for taking what's being offered to them.  They don't know that we want more unless we tell them from the get-go.
 
I'm not telling women to put on a chastity belt and wait till you have the ring on your finger.  But please do realize that although sex sells, sex does not equate to love.  Want your serotonin level raised?  Eat a piece of chocolate.
 
Oh, and save the mink -- and your self-respect -- and go lookin' for love in all the right places next time.