Well, it should be!

 

I'm not ashamed to admit that patience is one of my life's lessons.  I have a personal saying, "I want it all and I want it all NOW" -- which incidentally, my daughter recently pointed out they made a song out of that saying and it's on some commercial on TV.  Hmmmm, so I must not be the only one.  Yes, that's right, I have lessons to learn, just like everybody else. 

Now speaking of life's lessons, did you ever wonder why you keep running into the same people and the same situations over and over?  The way I see it, we all have our lessons to learn, and they keep repeating and coming back and slapping us across the face until finally, we say, "Ya know, that hurts!  I don't like it and I don't want to do it anymore."

But how?  Let's take an example.  Say you always end up in relationships where you are relegated to No. 2 status -- no, I'm not saying you're treated like caca, although that may be part of it -- but say he always puts his mother or his kids or his ex-wife, or present wife or boss or the dog first!  Not that it has to be all you, all the time, but when it's never you, this is a problem.

Just like any problem, the first step to solving it is recognizing it.  If I were standing over you slapping you in the face, you'd be pretty well able to recognize that problem right away.  But unfortuantely, guys don't walk down the street with signs on them saying, "I'm a Mama's boy," "I'm a workaholic," or "I have an abnormal connection with my dog," so how do you stop the madness?

It's just a basic human instinct to want to be loved, so often, we're willing to accept certain things in order to attain it, no matter how faulty it may be.  But really, is it worth it when Mom is sitting on the couch between the two of you every night or the dog is sleeping on the pillow and threatens you with physical harm when you come close to the love of your life?

I also have this "It's hell, but it's my hell" theory.  It goes like this:  "I sure don't like this kind of relationship, but it's happened so many times that at least I'm familiar with it; I know what to expect, what's going to happen, and although it's not healthy, I find a certain level of comfort from it."  But the clue is in the first sentence, "I sure don't like this . . ."  If you don't like it, DON'T DO IT.

So, what's the big secret?  Frankly, there is no big secret.  All it takes is recognizing the pattern, deciding you don't like it and wanting something better. And if you meet a great guy, everything is going great, but you notice he has to has to ask his mommy permission to go out with you, instead of saying, "Well, maybe I can work around this" or "Maybe he will change," this time you see it as a BIG RED FLAG and decide you don't feel like being slapped anymore.

Your pattern or lesson may not be that you are No. 2, but maybe verbal or physical abuse of some fashion, guys that don't commit, have sexual problems -- whatever it may be.  But until you break the pattern, and learn the lesson, it's going to come sneaking back and slapping you across the face, harder and harder, till you say, "OUCH!"

Okay, so my patience lesson I talked about in the beginning?  I'll work on it today.  I'll patiently sit here and wait for you to call for a reading to discuss your particular lessons or come on in here and discuss the lessons you're working on in life.

Drums fingers impatiently on keyboard . . . . . . . .