Do you just love the way your dude loves himself?  Are you both in love with the same person?

 
Does he monopolize the bathroom, take longer to get ready than you do and never met a mirror he didn't like? 
 
Baby, you're in love with Narcissist Dude.
 
I hate to tell you this, but no matter what you do, how much you do, how wonderful you are, Narcissist Dude is still going to be more involved with himself than he is with you.  It's a losing battle.
 
You can be dying and he's going to be wondering how his hair looks -- literally.  I have a client who had to be hospitalized, called her Narcissist Dude from the hospital and he told her to call back later because he was tired.  Sad part is, he loved her, just loved himself more.
 
Another friend had a less-than-well-endowed guy who she nicknamed Big D (and I'm not talking dude here), and he not only believed it, he walked around like a proud rooster.  The only thing big about him was his ego and his sense of entitlement.
 
The narcisisst does not usually treat his partner very well.  He can be cruel, putting you down in order to make himself look even better.  Appealing to his better nature or sense of fair play will only make this dude worse.
 
Another sign of the narcissist is many are perfectionists.  They can put on a pair of shorts and a T-shirt and look like they just walked out of the dry cleaners. 
 
Notice their car is not just a vehicle, but a reflection of them, their outdoor outfit, with all the perfect accessories, including the Maui Jims, Serengettis or Raybans.  Why they even think the GPS woman is in love with them, too, giving new meaning to a woman under the dash.
 
But I guess I have to admit to the worst example.  When I got married, Ex-Husband Dude recited his vows in such a way that he promised to love, honor, cherish and devote himself to -- tada -- himself!  Yep, we both devoted our lives to the same person. I have it on tape.  Can't say he lied.   
 
Have you found yourself in love with a narcissist? 
 
If so, please, stop right this minute jumping through hoops to get his interest. There's not a thing wrong with you, it's him.  The only way you can get Narcissist Dude to listen to you is by giving him a compliment.  If you put him down, he'll look at you in astonishment waiting for you to say, "April Fool!"  If you tell him he's wrong, he won't believe you.
 
He may love you very much.  And who wouldn't love the president of their own fan club.  Think of the good taste you have. The only way to survive through a relationship with Narcissist Dude is to develop a thick hide and a good sense of humor.
 
It's like the old joke:
 
How many narcissists does it take to change a light bulb?
Just one.  But he has to wait for the whole world to revolve around him.