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~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~
It can be a tricky and sticky situation to be a counselor & advisor. There are lines we must always consider, some may never be crossed, some may be crossed for brief moment and some...well they can not even be considered for crossing, as they are the lines that define professional & personal.

I am witness to one of those times now as a dear friend of mine is at a  very low point in her life. She feels lost, confused and very alone.

Is she alone? No not at all. She has a few true and dear friends that love her just as she is, yet even their support and existence are not enough for her at this time.

She still feels alone.

The professional side of me realizes this is a time for her to go within and discover the true source of her feelings.
These feelings come from within herself, not from outside sources.

In her physical reality, her friends are there cheering her on, believing in her and doing all they can to support her.

The personal side of me realizes that she needs to do some real soul searching and discover the source of her isolation and confusion comes from her, not from me, or other friends, or her family.
It is apparent to me that even after I offer my hand & heart to her, she still feels she is all alone in this world.

I have shared my support, love and unconditional acceptance, this is all I can do. I now must let go for the time being.
I must give space & time the opportunity to lead the way.

 For I know that being comfortable with who we are, just as we are, is a lesson we all must learn in our own time and  of our own doing.

Sure we have supporters and people who believe in us, but if we do not truly believe in ourself  deep within, the support from others will only give us so much.

To stay  and be an active participant as it is now, goes against my true self.

 If I continue to participate in this I feel I am actually contributing to the problem.

My feelings of love and unconditional acceptance have not waivered and never will, however I now know....it has come time for me to leave the task to her, for this is her lesson, her journey.

I will always be there, however being there sometimes means letting go for a while.


Light & Love,
Dr Daragh
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Published Monday, June 02, 2008 5:33 PM by Light and Love
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# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Monday, June 02, 2008 4:43 PM

Letting go can be hard, very hard and it only comes when you are tired, and so worn out by  trying to hold onto or control something or someone that you never had that. Most of us have gone through that at some point in our lives and while not easy to stand back and allow someone to go through that I find that when you do they will contact you when they are ready to. Thanks for sharing this
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Monday, June 02, 2008 4:47 PM

Dear Dr:

Like Joan wisely states, letting go can be the hardest thing we can do.  Realizing no matter how much we love and care for another it is their responsibility to walk their path and we cannot do it for them.  I am keeping you in my prayers for I know this is a hard decision for you to make.  
Rosie

Rosalea

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Monday, June 02, 2008 4:51 PM

Sure does! Wisely written. I feel cliche' saying it, but never any accidents. My motto has recently become and gosh I try to live it..."don't take life too seriously, we are leaving as we came, cannot take it with us when we leave, play well together and by gosh, include playing well with yourself. Find that joy  you truly are!

shars peaceful deliverance

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Monday, June 02, 2008 4:52 PM

Thanks Joan.
It is very hard to sit back and watch someone you love dwell in darkness, especially after offering light to assist them. This is what I learned from this over this past weekend....I am not truly helping by lighting the way...letting her be is what I can do to be most helpful.
I never tried to control for I do not have that energy and I try to avoid it at all costs!
I guess I discovered I was actually contributing to the blocks....which was how I realized....time to let go!
Thanks for your insight Joan, you are always welcome to add your 2cents here :)
Light & Love
Dr Daragh

Light and Love

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Monday, June 02, 2008 4:57 PM

Rosie,

Yep...Joan says it pretty well as usual :)
Thank you for your prayers...I gladly accept them and appreciate them beyond my ability to express in words:)

This was difficult, however not as difficult as it was holding on and trying to offer solutions!

I feel free and uplifted which is exactly why I chose to share my story....letting go is freeing :)

Thank you for being you Rosie, and sharing you with me :)
Light & Love
Dr Daragh

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# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Monday, June 02, 2008 5:01 PM

Sharlyne,

Thank you for your supportive and kind words :)

I must say you are right about being the joy we each are, for once I decided to let go and create space....I feel so much better, free and yes joyous again. This was heavy and I needed to release!
Ahhhh this is the way I like to live and feel each day~ free to be me :)
Light & Love
Dr Daragh

Light and Love

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Monday, June 02, 2008 5:56 PM

Letting go of a person or situation is always hard, in love or friendship, I have had to choose that many times for many reasons and while it may hurt, (because the worst thing someone can do is ignore you) most of the time, it is more about the other person than you when they pull back, sometimes it's because they are not ready to deal with you or themselves, most of the time they come around.. I am sorry you are hurting over this, but like they say, this too shall pass :-)
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Monday, June 02, 2008 6:39 PM

Joan,

Thank you for your true friendship & support :)
I do feel hurt but I know this must be.
I do feel good about my decision and choice, which is much better then the way I felt staying in it.
I feel I have honored myself and this person by doing this.
I know...let go and let God :)
Blessings to you always Joan!
Light & Love
Dr Daragh

Light and Love

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Tuesday, June 03, 2008 3:43 AM

Maybe this will empower you to feel a bit better. A very wise friend once told me that to help too much, is to take away that life experience for that person. This also reminds me of the ol adage, there is always a reason...I live by that.

I know for myself, at times in my life I have been in a dark place and the fact was I required being alone in order to come out of it. As you stated..it is her decision to work it out and if she is getting too much help, not support but help, there is a difference, it can be enabling. This can cause a person to be so comfortable with where they are they cannot move forward.

On another blog, delia somethings..sorry, I was talking about how difficult it was for me to remove myself from a friend's life who was living in an abusive marital situation. I felt very guilty about that. Many years later I know it was indeed the right thing to do, if not for my own sanity lol, my empathic side was going bonkers! I have had a few friends in this type of environment. One complained daily and I finally said..ok I have offered you legitimate ideas to assist you yet you continue to be miserable. Therefore I need to request you never complain to me about it again. I cannot change you, you can change you. When you start action, let me know I will be there for you.

Lady Hope

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Tuesday, June 03, 2008 3:45 AM

let me add, and you know what? That person was in my life to teach me about boundries and limits. To protect myself and know I could not do anything for her, that the answer was within her.   Again there is a reason for everything.

Lady Hope

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Tuesday, June 03, 2008 12:01 PM

Lady Hope,

Exactly!!!!!
I learned more about boundaries and my need for keeping them come hell or high water!
I thank you for sharing your personal story and I understand your words & meaning 110%!!!!
Thank you for sharing and for being supportive :)

Light & Love
Dr Daragh

Light and Love

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Tuesday, June 03, 2008 10:02 PM

I must agree on this: As I am a, well, I don't know, a tendency to get too involved I feel my own energy drain.  It's difficult to cut these ties but necessary.

I can on and on without resolution.

Thanks

Ancestral Wisdom

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Tuesday, June 03, 2008 10:39 PM

Ancestral Wisdom,

I hear you :)

Life has a funny or not so funny way of presenting lessons we each need. It has been several days now, and I feel more at peace within   then ever. I know I have not mastered this lesson, however I do see improvement. So maybe the next time I find myself in a similar situation I will not hesitate & wait so long to let go and let God~
Blessings to you always :)

Light & Love,
Dr Daragh

Light and Love

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Thursday, June 05, 2008 11:56 AM

There is a visualization you can use. I got it from a psychic here on keen, but do not remember the person's name. She suggest you can visualize the cord that person makes with you, as connected to both and you can then cut that cord with scissors...visualizations really help. Perhaps you can visualize some healing jelly on both of you afterwards. ok this is a thought in process.

Lady Hope

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Thursday, June 05, 2008 12:23 PM

Lady Hope,

Thank you for your suggestions!
I use visualization and teach it to clients. It is a very powerful tool...as thoughts are as powerful as actions, people often forget that simply because thoughts are not seen :)

I am sending this person nothing but good energy, for they sure do need it even more then ever now.

It is difficult to watch someone stay in a victim energy and thus creating even more troubles for their life.

I read somewhere that many people use their circumstances as an excuse... then there are those who when they find their circumstances binding or limiting, they then go and create the circumstances they desire.

Life is hard and it is always presenting challenges....

choice is ours...do we grow or do we stay as we are when we are facing difficulties & challenges. Choices....choices...choices...

I am comfortable with my choice in this situation...difficult to make yes....BUT a lot less difficult  then to stay in it !

Wishing you a great day :)
Light & Love
Dr Daragh

Light and Love

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Friday, June 06, 2008 11:20 AM

Well said...the Art of Letting Go...scary but liberating.  ~MiChelle

Spirit Refreshed

# re: ~Sometimes the best action we can take is to let go ~ @ Friday, June 06, 2008 5:23 PM

Michelle,

Letting go is an art~ thanks for adding that insight to this post :)

Light & Love
Dr Daragh

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