If you ever fuss with friends,
co-workers or family, and especially if you're going to be with family
this year over the Holidays, you're going to be very glad you found
this. :)
When we're
irritated or angry, it's very easy to believe we're completely in the
right and the other person is completely in the wrong. However, I've
decided the odds are 4 to 1 against it, especially in conflicts with
friends, coworkers and family members. (See the possibilities below.)
Take a look at the possibilities. See for yourself.
- You are 100% right, they are 100% wrong.
- They are 100% right, you are 100% wrong.
- You are both partly right and partly wrong.
- You are both right.
- You are both wrong. (my personal favorite)
When you view this full size,
you can see two teensy tiny little clover blossom bugs. One is near the
top of the blossom, the other looks like an adorable upside down alien,
near the bottom. If they were people instead of bugs, in no time at
all, one would be bragging to the other that their spot was the best
spot on the flower. The other would defiantly disagree. Which of course
would be an example of number four on the list, "you are both right."
Both spots on the flower are the best spots, because it's strictly a
matter of opinion.
I learned the four to one rule from
reading for you girls. But I copyright it because it took five very
different readings in one day to cause me to see it. Then last week on
"House" I noticed he mentioned two of them. That struck me as
coincidental magic because, as those of you I've read for know, I've
gotta lot of Dr. House in my nature. :)
One of the most amazing things about a
certain good friend of mine is that after a disagreement, we can both
sit back not like adversarial lawyers, but more like convening Judges
and disect the disagreement together. Some bits and pieces of our
disecting conversations are:
"I was wrong there...." "You think so? Really? Explain, I missed it."
"You shouldn't have said....." "You're right, and not only shouldn't I have said it, that's not even the way I feel either...."
"You were so funny when you said...." (giggling with delight) "yeah and I about died when you said....!!"
Anytime you have a friend or loved one
that can have conversations with you like that after a disagreement,
that is a person worth keeping.
We all know people who are never, ever,
ever wrong (to hear them tell it!) and I wanted to remind myself and
you too, please, always remember the 4 to 1 rule. The odds are 4 to 1
against you being completely right and them being completely wrong. One
more thought, next time you notice someone admitting they weren't the
only one in the right, completely fair, or that (challenge of all
challenges) they were even completely in the wrong...... REWARD THAT
PERSON. Especially if it's you. People that can admit they were even
partly wrong are rare jewels indeed.
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| rfk53 |
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This was a great call! Lollie is quick and to the point.
Very accurately depicted what is going on. |
| eskridtc |
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A sweetheart - love her readings! |
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crazy4e |
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Thanks! This is my second reading with
her, over a year ago she correctly
predicted my ex and I not going back
together at least I changed everything I
am and sure enough that's what he
asked of me and I met someone new a
year after as she saw. She did see
positive cards with F, relationship, love,
but right now he is depressed, which is
true, bc of an injury, and also he doesn't
feel he is attractive enough for me. He
will even put up with my occational bad
temper! |
| mommoo |
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Phenomenal to say the least. Keen: You have a real Genius
here!! XOXO u Lolls!!! U my dear are the best!! |
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