I've been reading cards since I was 22. I'm now 54. In 32 years, patterns appear. Here is a difference I've seen in the cards many, many times between men and women. As with all rules, there are exceptions, and like most rules, the exceptions are few and far between. But these are a few rules of thumb I've gathered so far....
- Nine times out of ten when something goes wrong, women blame men - no matter who's at fault or to what degree.
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- Nine times out of ten when something goes wrong, men blame bad luck - no matter who's at fault or to what degree.
Put yourself in a man's shoes. The love of your life sees almost every mistake either of you make as 'your' fault. Ouch. That can't be easy. Takes a lot of love to keep looking over that kinda thing.
Yes, I know, the flipside of that is that it takes a lot of love to look over it when a man screws around and then blames bad luck. And I don't blame you a bit for leaving that kinda guy over that kinda 'bad luck.'
Still, my friends, boyfriend, grandsons know when I make a mistake I grandly pontificate, "Well as we all know whenever anything goes wrong it's always a man's fault, NEVER a woman's fault and if there's a man within 5 miles of me, clearly, this is HIS fault, and since YOU are the closest, good news sweetie, this one is YOUR fault today. Taah dah! There, now i feel better." They're always glad I'm just joking. :))
But all jokes aside, it really is a delicious sweet treat to have your significant other often let you off the hook so easily. And if you're getting it and not noticing enough to enjoy it, you're only hurting yourself..... well, and him... oh yeah, and your relationship. :) Which reminds me of two other rules:
- Focus 5% on the mistake and 95% on learning from it.
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- Focus 5% on who to blame and 95% on how to heal.
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