Love or Dud, is he/she a keeper? 10 warning signs of an abuser.
Is your new love a dud or a keeper?
So it's your first date and you wonder
if this person is a dud or a keeper.
How can you know before you invest a
lot of time and energy?
You can avoid wasting your time and
energy by looking for these tell-tale signs of an abuser or someone who will be a
difficult mate.
The following early warning signs are clues to watch
for:
1) Chivalry may be a wonderful trait,
but over controlling is not.
Do they make plans
without asking you what you want to do?
Do they order your food for
you without asking what you want to eat?
Worse yet, do they ask you
what you want to do, then do something completely different than your suggestions?
2) Are they rude to waiters,
valets, cashiers or strangers?
If they are you can be sure
that they will be rude to you in the future.
3) Are they mean or impatient with
children or animals?
Cruelty to animals is a classic sign of an abuser.
4) Do they start using the words 'us'
or 'we' refering to plans for the future when you first meet them?
This is a tactic of many con-men. It's meant to make you feel like a
part of a group to cause you to trust them, before you know them
very well.
5) Do they seem to blame everyone
else for problems? Do they complain or talk bad about their ex
often?
6)Do they fail to take responsibility
for their mistakes?
7) Do they show signs of jealousy from the
very beginning?
8) Is it 'love at first sight' or do they
call you 'the love of their life' right from the start?
Watch out if they seem to be moving to
fast.
9) Do they idolize you and put you on a
pedestal? Do they expect things of you that are beyond your
capabilities?
10) Do they belittle you or others, even in
jest? Do they make you feel bad about who you are, or suggest ways
that you can improve?
These are only a few warning signs of a
potential abusive relationship. If they show more than one of these
signs save yourself some heartache and decline future dates.
Good luck and Much Love,
Teri