~~WHEN DO WE MAKE THAT DECISION~~
IN THE MORNING FOR SURE...
There comes a time when we say that we are "sick and tired" of the complex circumstances in our relationship. We really want things to work between ourselves and our mates so we start thinking, where did this person go..
Well before you decide to runaway from the situtation, take 7 days to think.
Don't make any decision, just think. Think about all the good stuff, all the difficult things, if you mate's charater will truly change into something more posititive for the two of you. Or will they be the lover, husband/wife, best friend, financial partner, so on and so forth, that you need.
After 7 days of thinking, not making any decisions, get up the morning of the seventh day , take your shower. get out of the shower , walk over to your mirror, look yourself in the eye, and make the decision that you can live with for the rest of your life. Whatever you decide, it will be one that you can stick with .. and sometimes sticking to the decisions that we make help us move forward and change our live to the point where that next love of our lives is waiting for us just around the corner. Having the resolve to change our lives ourselves feels much better than having our mates make such decisions for us .
Example: I had a 15 year off and on again relationship with a man that i had lived with for six of those 15 and in those 6 years he ranway 4 times.. I would just go to work and come home and he would be gone. He would mow the yard so i wouldnt have that chore for awhile.. one time he even nailed the windows shut so no one could get me. ( we lived in a bad neighhood at the time) I loved him dearly and I always took him back. But then I met someone new and married him and as things would have it that fell apart and low and behold back comes this man i lived with for a few years.. trying to be friends. well i chatted with him several times over the phone.. and my heart would race. I knew i had those feelings for him,. that with the thump of my heart it was starting again. So i took seven days and thought . i listened to his topics of conversation, i listened to all the things that had gone on with him. Then, i realized that he really had not changed. He was still the same guy at 41 running from responisibility that he was at 25 running back then. So I got up on the morning of the seventh day and looked myself told him, ," I wish you luck for your future but I just dont see your future in mine." I looked myself in the eye in that mirror that day and let him go.
MAMA'S QUOTE OF THE DAY: "Sometimes baby, you just let them go"