Whats a man anyways?
Most people who know a little about astrology know that Mars represents male energy and which in turn focuses on issues of legal, education, authority anything that focuses upon power and success. Where as in Venus usually represent feminine energy such as love, communication, compassion, friendship etc.
As I have been sending out information since December Mars is retrograde until January 30, 2008, and I think it’s a great time to discuss Mars, which to me are MEN. Being a keen speaker since 2002, I have come across many people from different cultures, religion, and diverse background and even though 70% of my clientele are women I do have 30% men. Surprisingly, they seem to have many of the same issues hence looking at it in a different prospective.
Somewhere I read that women mature much faster than men ok being women perhaps I tend to believe that since I have studied feminist philosophy for a long time, however, I believe that men and women have the same emotions but different way of showing it.
Today, I was listening to a radio talk show in my area and they were discussing how some women have ruined their holidays with their men and after careful thought they have come to realize that perhaps they expected too much but their pride won’t let them apologize to make things better. Intern the host said, why is that these things do not happen to mature women? And the other responded by saying, “because mature women know when they have a good man, and if you want pretty Ricky will only allure women who are immature and whom they can control.” Of course, I began to laugh and decided to share that with my partner, and his answer was, “what’s so funny about that?” This opened a rhetorical debate and forced me to write this.
Please remember this is not meant to bash women or justify men’s actions but giving us women a prospective to look through similar glasses as men and help us understand why women and may think differently or do they?
To begin I must start with the concept that most people idealize that “it’s a mans world.” I say not but ok, let’s agree for a moment. The accepted mythology of our diverse life tells us that men are independent whereas women are dependent, men dominate whereas women yield, and men make history whereas women are the support. You know, “behind every great man there is a women.” Some men never break free from this paradox and women some women also. Being a mother of two wonderful boys I teach them the opposite not to idealize anyone but the higher power and whatever a man can do I can do even better, and by proving and failing too. This is because even though we are so very different there are something’s that women can not do and I am accepting of that life to me is not a competition of whom is better or who is not it is about equality.
Whether men are gay or straight, hard or soft, wild or vulnerable, feelingful or thoughtful these are all secondary concern to them. When men’s center anxieties about masculinity on satisfying the women (I wont go into jest of this), on making money on accumulating power or even on exploring their feminine sides they trivialize manhood. Men spend most of their lives in being extroverted actions first turn inwards towards the unknown territory of the soul; they reach the desert the vast of nothingness. Before rebirth can come the painful awareness becomes the shadow that they are dead and before that they become numb. Whereas, women may see rebirth differently and respectfully as compared to men.
Bona fide love is a dance with three movements as author Sam Keen explores:
- solo.
- counterpoint
- coming together.
It embraces solitude, conflict and intimacy even leaving one out will create conflict and it will destroy the relationship. In any relationship people should able to stand alone, together and respect the struggle with each other and rejoice their interdependence.
Men do need their space as much as women need affection. Men do need to earn as much as women need a family. Men do want to be mocho as women want to be mothers.
So I say to the universe, bring Mars on and I will embrace it with love and joy and let every women understand while we feel our men are callus, cold or even detach it is just our perception when we take a trip to the spa or a saloon. Let him have his own time and grab yours because I can tell you when he comes back from that so called “football game or night out with the guys” it will be more gratifying than“when you are pampering your self and looking so fine” it will blow his mind and beside you will feel much better than he does anyways.
And guys have loads of fun we respect your manhood and let the girls go out and enjoy talking about how wonderful her man is.
I hope you all had a smile about this if you want to know more about man hood I would really suggest reading a book by Sam Keen called, “Fire in the Belly On Being A Man” it is awesome!
Namaste
Maharani