Drive your car
My ex boyfriend was terrified of my driving abilities. Every time I got behind the wheel, he would cringe and look as white as a ghost. LOL I think about it now and I laugh...I mean what did it really matter to him anyway? Unless he took my hands, put his feet on the pedals, it wasn't his responsibility. As I was driving to my brother's house yesterday I had this image of our body and Spirit being a vehicle, much like my own car.
You see, we are all in control of what we do while in our bodies. We make choices every day. What am I going to eat? Should I call Shelly? When should I work out? Should I even work out? Whatever the decision, we are accountable. This is a hard concept to realize. So many people are willing to let another into their vehicle and take the wheel:
*Why hasn't he called? I am so miserable!
*It's her fault he's not coming back to me.
*She's not the girlfriend I want her to be. Why can't she just be different? I'm upset!
There are many other situations like this, but you get the point. All of the above situations are examples where a person has decided to hand over their personal power to another and waste their energy either dwelling on a situation or trying to change it. Rather than being accountable, the individual has decided they have no role in their own perception of misery and play the blame game. On the surface, it's a fun game! Why? Because you don't have to take any responsibility for your actions. What many fail to see is that playing the blame game only hurts.
Being an adult means being accountable--plain and simple. Get out of the victim role and see that if life isn't what you want, you had a role in choosing the situation, creating the situation or pinning a certain perception to the situation. In many cases, the victim is responsible for the three previous roles. I realize that accidents and illnesses happen, and in these cases, it's a matter of perception. Will you be beaten down because life handed you a "bad" hand? Or are you going to break through and make the best of the dark moments. Ask for divine guidance and work with the universe. Being a victim does nothing but attract more people and situations that will keep you in this victim role. Stand up and be accountable.
I am guilty as charged when it comes to placing blame on others. I can't even count the number of times I was a victim and insisted things should be a different way. I couldn't realize that the only person I was responsible for was myself. After years of victimhood, I got a wake up call. It was refreshing. I started to love myself completely and look at the world with fresh eyes. The veil of crap was lifted, I found forgiveness for myself and others and now I work diligently to stay out of the victim role.
Do yourself a favor and realize that you do have power. You can co-create your life with the universe and you are entitled to the best life possible. Don't hand your personal power over to another and waste your energy by dwelling. Remember, we cannot control another. Be the driver of your own vehicle and leave everyone else to manage their own.