One of these things is not like the other: Ego versus the Highest Good
In life, we are always presented choices. There isn’t just one path, one person and one way to do anything. I hear, “Is she coming back?”, “Do I take this job?” “What should I do?” almost everyday in this business. What I do, is take the probabilities and find what is in your highest good. I had a client ask me, “What is ‘your highest good?’” and I realize that I need to define that. Our “highest good” is what keeps us on our path…growing, learning, walking steadily towards our soul purpose. It’s when Spirit is most delighted because we are moving forward and not backwards. Don’t worry, even the most enlightened of folk will backslide. We are all humans and we are here to learn. Nobody gets everything right the first time.
Is there just one possibility to keep us on this path? No. This is when my job becomes fun, and sometimes, quite frustrating. I can see, “Yes, he is coming back, but you will be disappointed. There are two other possibilities out there are that are more in your highest good.” As humans we hear, “He is coming back…” and glaze over the possibility that Spirit is presenting us. We have “Door A”: the reunion with the ex boyfriend that will lead to disappointment and no further growth or “Door B”: The choice between two men, who will give us the type of relationship we need and assist in our learning process. What to choose? The highest good? Or the same old-same old?
Career matters are no different. I have a client who is so incredibly talented and I could see her writing and directing films. Turns out, this is indeed what she is on the path of doing, but she is disappointed because the funding is not there and audiences haven’t received her films whole heartedly…yet. I couldn’t see any reason for her to be discouraged about funding or her audience. I just kept hearing “Go…go…go” from her guides. They wanted her to enter a particular contest, even though she said she was so worried about it. She had all these alternative options built up internally and I had to ask, “How would you feel if you gave up on your film making?” and she stated she would feel like a part of her had died. Even though she is on her path, she couldn’t see that what she is doing is indeed in her highest good. Of course she would feel like failure because she walked away from her heart’s desire. It felt good to say, “Yes, this is your path and you will be supported. Don’t worry.” She had already chosen what was in her highest good but couldn’t help but take a peek behind the other doors. “Door B”, in her highest good, always the best option.
I’d be dishonest if I said I never ever picked “Door A” in life. Goodness I have picked the stinkiest choice because I allowed my ego to tell me what I wanted in matters of love, career and personal matters. Advisors told me what was in my highest good and I would ignore it. I am no less guilty than anyone else when it comes to this. I know what it’s like to want something so bad that it’s impossible to see the possibilities out there. My job gets tough when I have to tell someone that they will get what their ego wants, but they will, once again be disappointed because the situation isn’t going to turn out the way they had planned. In these times I hope the ego doesn’t filter out the “but”. Remember the “but” and remember that our job is to always guide the client down a road of empowerment.
When presented with choices, always remember that what is in your highest good may not be what you asked for, but it is what you need—a gift from Spirit. Don’t be upset because things didn’t work out the way your human ego planned. Take a look at the situation, let it go with grace and have faith that what is in your highest good will come.