The Energy of Indecision
Anyone that believes in the Laws of Attraction knows that everything is energy; our thoughts, feelings, money, my computer, the glass of water next to me…everything. A wise advisor once told me that “waiting just creates more waiting” and I’m certain she beat those words into my skull until they became such a part of me that often, when presented with a decision or change of course, I find them melodically echoing in my ears. She was right. Until a decision is made, until something actually moves or changes, nothing happens. I can sit here and write on this laptop but if what I want is a drink of water, continuing to write on my laptop isn’t going to get me a step closer to that water. What does? Making the decision to focus my attention elsewhere (on the glass), making a move (putting down the laptop and moving my arm), and holding firm in the decision (bringing the glass of water up to my mouth to drink). These steps are easy, right? However, throw in a little emotional investment and it becomes challenging.
In my life, I am presented the same decisions as clients are. Trust me, we advisors are not exempt from all of life's twists and turns. We are only human. We experience everything that our clients go through as well. Me, I’ve probably done it at least three times LOL Career, love, new cars, moving, friendship… all areas of our life provide opportunities for us to take potential energy and get it moving.
I’m a trained biochemist and I absolutely love that job. In fact, I often find myself spending my weekends doing scientific work because I find it to be so grounding and rewarding. I have really been unclear about my career path this whole time. I always wanted my PhD…then what? I had a list of the type of opportunities I wanted my career path to present: I wanted a career that would present me with enough financial stability that I would be able to work part time from home as a spiritual advisor/teacher. Great! I’ve started on that! Wonderful, but what about the science aspect? Hmm… it was very unclear to me, until the words came out of my mouth. This summer, I attended a meeting in my area and one of the more respected scientists in my field asked me what I was interesting in doing. I blurted out, “I would love to train undergraduate students to be great graduate students.” I said it, it felt wonderful and since then, I have seen the doors open in front of me career-wise. Opportunity after opportunity has presented itself and they are all in alignment with what I absolutely love. I even have the opportunity to help establish a new program at my university in an area closely related to my research. I am so delighted. Even opportunities in my research that I never could have imagined have been placed on my path. I love my work as an advisor and feel so blessed that I can serve this way. As an adjunct to this work, I was given an opportunity to work with a friend on teaching others how to manifest. I absolutely LOVE teaching and if I can show others how to co-create with the universe, it is a bonus!
Love is another area where I often see energy stagnancy. So many people are unsure of the love life they already have or are unsure of the partner they want to attract. I hear stories about a person hoping their lover leaves a spouse to be with them even though the situation has been the same for many years. I hear, “I don’t know. He’s fine I guess.” I get the client that wants me to tell them that this abusive man is going to grow up. Me, I am not at fault either: I was the serial waiter. I adore my ex boyfriend because he taught me so much and “DO SOMETHING!” was no exception. I was with him for 5 years, things bothered me, I didn’t know what I wanted. Did I want him? Did I want to go? He was having the same thoughts. The only difference between him and me is that I decided, with some much appreciated help, to get my act together and do something. Like all things—you, your kids, a tomato, a puddle of water--if energy sits long enough, it’s gonna get rotten and stinky. I got clear about the type of relationship I wanted and an advisor guided me to make a list and just send out my wish. Something about that seemed so natural so I knew it was the right thing to do. I was also advised to learn to pull my energy away and get clear in my boundaries. I took that to heart, because deep inside I knew it was true. I had been putting all my focus and energy on the wrong thing—him. Wow! I cannot even begin to explain the ripple effect that followed. Things started to change. It became more apparent to me that he and I were no longer on the same path and to be honest, even though I trust he’ll grow up, I was not willing to wait for that to happen. I felt empowered and strong. Yes, our relationship ended and we haven’t gotten back together, but that doesn’t matter to me. It’s more important that I got everything in motion so that I could tell the universe I was no longer unclear about the type of man I want. If a situation is unfavorable, something must be done. Sitting by the phone waiting for him/her to call isn’t going to change anything. Going out with your friends to a movie because you don’t need that phone call changes everything. Small steps seem like baby steps, but in this world movement and decision bring opportunities.
It’s so easy to be indecisive, but it doesn’t do any good. Decisions put energy in motion and pave a clear path to your intent. This is when all the magic happens…and really, it’s not magic…it’s just energy.