There is no "ME!"...
When things seem to be funky in our lives we tend to ask the same sets of questions:
*Is it me?
*What did I do wrong?
*How could he/she do that to ME????
*What can I do to make it better?
*What can I do to make ________ happen?
The reality is this: There is no "them"....only US! That's right. We are all on this planet, our Spirit in a human body, to learn and grow together... See what I said: Together... not separate, not apart. I like to point this out because when the winds appear to be blowing your sails in the wrong direction, realize you are not alone. You can go to the grocery store and my bet is that at least 65% of the people in there feel the same way you do about your particular issue. I also bet that 99.9% of them feel the same way you do regardless of the issue: fearful, lost, worried, concerned, upset. About what? Something. It is ALWAYS something with our human ego. What about that other 0.1%? Well, those people decided to check their egos at the door and bring themselves into the present. It isn't about "Why is this happening to me?" it's about "In this moment, I am grocery shopping. I will deal with that crap later."
I went to a workshop on Saturday and the speaker said to all of us: "Emotions live in the past. Intellect lives in the future. Spirit lives in the NOW!" It was so absolutely empowering. You see, we are all Spirit beings underneath our human exterior. With our Spiritdness, we are collectively unified. We all desire the same things from this world: Love, acceptance and a chance to work through our garbage so that Spirit can evolve. If we are not learning, we are not growing and we might as well just tell God to take back the gift he gave us (our human form) because we are doing ourselves a geat disservice by NOT being appreciative of that gift. Dance in the rain, don't look for the nearest shelter! Every time you evolve, it helps the rest of us. Growth and empowerment are incredibly contagious!
You have to love your intellect, the part of you that keeps you separate. Indeed, there are human egos on this planet that live in negativity--murderers, for example-- and your intellect, not your Spirit, will keep you safe. If not for that intellect, you'd have a hard time putting your God-given gifts into a form that human ego comprehends.. This life really isn't about losing the intellect, but taming it. When we are asking, "Why did this happen to ME????", we can tame our beast, and move toward a place of absolute knowing: "Why did this happen?" remembering theres is no "them"...only "us". It might even be wise to change it to "Why did this happen to us?".
So, in the face of hardships, remember that you are NEVER alone. We go through this life together in order to assist one another and ultimately assist Spirit. Embrace the gift of your human form and intellect, but when it gets out of turn wondering about "Me, Me, ME!!!!" tame it by remembering that there is a lesson to be learned for the ultimate growth of US.