Who has your power?
There's a plague of dis-empowerment sweeping the world.
This occurs when we worry about what another person is feeling,
thinking or doing. Rather than focus on "me", we dump all of our energy
into a situation we cannot control. Isn't that silly? When you think
about it--can you really ever truly control another? NO! So, why dump
all of your energy into that matter? It doesn't benefit you in the
least bit to focus outside of yourself. Instead, it just puts you in a
position where you define yourself by others' feelings or actions.
Common scenarios of this include:
* Why hasn't he/she called?
* How does he/she feel about me?
* I wonder if I do ____ if it will cause him/her to do ______.
* How can I make him/her love me?
Of
course, the above are just a few common scenarios where a person so
easily hands over their personal power. Your energy is best conserved
for you and your situation. Rather than moping about something you
cannot control, buck up! Empower yourself! If you are not happy with
your current situation, figure out why. Are you listening to others'
thoughts and feelings about what you should do? Do you seek consistent
validation from others so that you can feel good about yourself? Are
your dreams defined by what another person thinks you should do? Where
are you in this equation? Do you even exist? Or are you just a robot
that lives by the program of another's thoughts and feelings?
Self-esteem
and acceptance issues are the number one reason we find ourselves in
this place of "need". We are not confident in our judgment. We lack the
faith that no matter what happens, we will be provided for in every
way. It's human to have these feelings every now and then, but it's
debilitating to your spirit to dwell on this sad state of affairs. Let
it go, realize you are the only person worth your energy and focus.
People,
situations and experiences will come and go from your life. You remove
all of that and you still exist. Who are you? What are your dreams?
What makes you happy? What is true to you? The next time someone hands
you a seed of doubt, look that person, or the situation, in the eyes
and say, "I respect you but this feels true to me."