A close friend had contacted me recently and I honestly have to say I was quite puzzled by her dilemma. To me the answer was clear.... What's the point or better known as WTP in this glorious age of the ridicules acronym.

Her dilemma was just this. Years ago she was dating a bad boy on a pretty steady basis, then as it happens every so often....POOF, the bad boy is gone. No explanation, no it's not you, it's me, no I need time.... no nothing. It was as if he had fallen completely off the face of the earth. The confusion we women face under that circumstance is monumental. It can downright tear a girl up not knowing or understanding the whys of it all. In my own personal opinion, I think the men that pull this garbage are very immature and cowardly, but I can be pretty brutal with my thoughts at times:)) Nor am I afraid to speak my mind. I've been there, so I do understand the effects it has on us.

The dilemma posed is this. This lovely lady has moved on and has found true happiness with a man who is fully committed to their relationship and they are to be married quite soon. She has security and no doubt that she will be well taken care of for the rest of her life or as long as the love may last as may be the case. That is.... if she doesn't screw it up first. Now reenter..... ex-boyfriend badboy. Claiming redemption from the past error of evil ways. So naturally he is shaking her tree down once again. Men's radar system can be so predictable at times that I just have to shake my head in wonder.

She went on to explain to me that she was actually thinking of sleeping with this man who so callously dumped her with no explanation, rhyme or reason. Those who know me, know I gave her that ever so needed reality check. Relationship tough love is what I call it. My friend had said that if she didn't do this, she was always going to wonder "what if it could have been him". Well ladies and gentlemen..... she is lucky that I am clairvoyant. I told her exactly what she could expect Mr. Bad boy would do.

Of course she had the usual........."are you sure???? But what if you're wrong????" Oh sure I can be wrong, I am human after all. But I had to ask her why as well as many questions after that. This was a man who just...... disappeared. I mean.... who does that? Especially to someone you say you care about. Then I have to wonder just exactly why my friend would even harbor the idea of sleeping with this man again. Complicated further by her fiance'..........da da DAAAAAAA..... and the plot thickens.

Now; not only is this a very real scenerio......... it's not the first time I've heard it. I seriously wanted to open up my friends brain to see what could possibly make her think about wanting to be with the invisible man once again. I pointed out to her that she would be at a major risk to lose a man who not only loved her deeply, but will be giving her a very secure life. I could not help myself from wondering if this wasn't all about her ego.

We must have spoken for at least an hour and I gave her every facet of the situation and all of the very possible repercussions in each case scenerio. Then I laid it on the line to her. Look "Chicky..... bottom line is, he walked away from you without one word as to why, now you're set to marry another, and this man is a very good one. Bad boy walks back through the door and you're ready to chuck it all for a one time roll in the hay????" Now this was floating like a lead balloon and I told her as well. She finally saw the man for who he really was and decided against sleeping with him again. I was relieved and I know in the long run she will be too.

I don't know, maybe it's just me..... but I find it fascinating and puzzling at the same time that any woman could ever think about, even thinking about cheating on a man who is absolutely wonderful to them with a bad boy who walked out once before without a word. Just what exactly would make a women do this??

Peace out friends,
Margaret