Do you have some guy or lady in your life that gives you difficulty? Do they always keep you on your toes because you are never quite sure where you stand with them Is there always that looming question, "When is it going to get normal?" or "When can I rely on that person to be more of what they need to be?" or "When will my relationship be a soft place to land?" Allow me to save you money on dozens of psychic readings and give you the answer: NEVER.

How pesimestic of me. Right?

Let's evaluate the truth here.

Ask yourself the following questions:

If you have such a volatile relationship with someone now, will you ever feel 100% comfortable with them?

Even if you get what you want from them, can you trust them to be there for you 100%?

Do you think that you can solicit change from them? Can you make them change? If you can, will you respect them for being changeable to meet your needs?

What things about them make them so charming that you are willing to give up what you want in a mate to take them on? That is if you are looking for that "soft place to land".

What else are you giving up that you want in a mate?

Are you trying to fit a square peg into a round hole? Do you think that this peg is going to feel comfortable in their new hole?

The bottom line is that there are some people that will never be reliable, some people that only serve themselves, some people that have no empathy, some people that don't have time, some people that are mentally ill, some people that are players.

Eventually even these people get married. Do you wish to be on the receiving end of their odds?

You are a child of "God", you deserve love and companionship and a soft place to land. You might not realize that by trying to rationalize the other persons behavior. You might not realize that because you have been abused by this person. Yes, abused...your time, your energy and sometime even your money and resources.

What are some rationalisations for this behavior? Well, justifiably a death in the family, events that render a person depressed or if a person is chemically depressed, etc, etc. But narcissism isn't something that change a person. Self importance does not equal self preservation.

As a kid, I was told that everything was karmic debt. Call it paid and move on. I was told that there was some lesson in this. Graduation and learn not to do it again.

It is simple self respect and self preservation that must eventually kick in.