In the last several of months I'v had countless clients that have gotten on to "dating sites" such as eHarmony, Match and Plenty of Fish. If you have been on one of these sites and you would like to know if you are having the same types of experiences that others are, please see the "issues" list below:

1.   99% have been stood up more than once.

2.   99%   have had a date canceled, but they find that the person that canceled is "on line now" during the time that the date was to occur.

3.   85%   have found that they guy has lied about how he looks by posting an old photo, or has lied about their age.

4.   90% of are constantly "looked at" by the same individual, but that individual doesn't make contact-ever.

5.   80% have found out that the person wants something different than they are putting on the site.

6.   25%  found that the person isn't divorced (yet) or that the person is in a relationship with someone else.

7.   50%  had better luck on a dating site 5-10 years ago.

So what does this all add up to?

1.   It's not you. I have absolutely beautiful, intelligent and honest clients...so guess what? It's not you.

2.   Loads of men are just window shopping and some women are, too.

3.  Some of these people are these sites are afraid to have a real relationship and they would rather have a cyber relationship.

4.   There's a reason that some of these people are on line. They fail at having relationships in real time or being able to meet people in person...so do you really think that they are much better at it in the cyber world?

5.   You may be on a site that is free or really cheap, so there's no value in the site or their need to act.

6.   The Universe is protecting you from idiots, it's not that you can't get a date, but if they aren't following through, feel fortunate you are learning this early.

7.   Some people only get on these sites to help their egos.

What should you do?

1.   If you have to get on one of these dating sites, make your intentions crystal clear, keep the information about you down to a minimum, and only post two very recent photos.

2.   Don't feel like there's something wrong with you.

3.   Find a better dating site.

4.   Never show interest in anyone first.

5.  Go out and find other ways of meeting people in real time. Cyber dating, text messaging, emailing...etc, etc, it's not communication, it's not being able to have a real relationship, it's not good interpersonal skills.

6.   Be crystal clear about what you are looking for...for yourself and for the Universe to answer your requests.