There are several ways to try to solicit change out of a situation. My favorite is to let go. It works the best and it seems to work quicker, too.

Why should one let go?

  • Do you think that you're better then "God"? Maybe he/she/them have better ways and avenues than one might think. Actually, this is the absolute truth. One can make a down right mess of things if they are trying to go it alone.
  • Micromanaging or micro-manifesting anything can start to make one stark raving mad.
  • Instead of trying to control issues, one must try to control one's self and not others. Isn't it much more pleasant to let go and think of things one can control; such as one's body, what one wants for supper, what color one might paint a living room, or what type of a tree one might like for Christmas.
  • Crawling inside of someone else's exact thought processes serves no purpose. There is no benefit. It's nice to know if another is interested, etc.
  • Trying to figure out where someone is every hour of the day will make one as mad as a hatter. Another advisor told me, that she's not a remote viewer nor does she care to be. I concur.
  • Trying to change another person's believe systems, actions or feelings is another exercise in pointlessness. It's call wasted energy. Spend energy at the gym, at the park, cooking a lovely meal, knitting woolen mittens...
  • Gratitude and acceptance is so key in making a blissful life for one's self. I have frequently had clients that tell me that they haven't anything to be grateful for. My answer to this is, well, you must have a bank card to be calling Keen. Allow me to be of assistance in this regard:
    • Have you eyes to see a lovely museum piece or a soccer match?
    • Have you ears to hear Mozart, Prince, Shorty Short or Van Halen?
    • Have you lungs to breathe sweet air and feel better?
    • Have you legs to walk to the shopping or into a sports arena?
    • Have you a tongue to taste fine wine, a New York Strip or a dish of ice cream?
    • Have you a nose to smell scents of roses, freshly baked bread or perfume?
  • Here's the interesting thing about all of this, one really doesn't have to do anything except enjoy what life has to bring. It is in those moments that everything that one wishes for comes into play.
  • Imprisoning one's self in poorly used brain power can create havoc. It's a prison. Truthfully most of us mere mortals have lived in that prison from one time to another. I, myself are no exception.

So what can one do to LET GO?

  • Write down the problem(s) that are the stressors and send it to "God". Why not? Put a postage stamp on it, address it to "God" or whatever you call the higher power and put no return address information on it and put it in the collection letter box for the letter carrier to pick up. It will end up in the countless piles of letters addressed to "St. Nicholas", "the Tooth Fairy", etc. The difference is that "God" hears your pain. Who knows, maybe St. Nicholas does too.
  • Get okay with whatever the outcome may be.

Recently I watched a friend die. She had been ill for many years and her last 6 months on earth were very painful. She had a terrible obsession with how people perceived her and she built her world around this little horrid, but extremely expensive baskets, and lying to people about her relationships. To control things worse, she lied or told nasty stories about everyone in order to make her feel like she was controlling what people thought of her (yes her not the one she was lying about or telling nasty stories about).  It was partially the cancer and it's treatment working havoc on her brain at that time, but there was some extremely small kernel of these things prior to her illness.  Okay? What's the point?

The point is, that when the chips are down, when the lights go out and when you have breathed your last breathe, does whatever you are obsessing matter?

  • Ask yourself when this will stop mattering? Will you be miserable for another year, another month, another fortnight? What?
  • Find beauty, bliss, laughter, love in everything and everyone. (I don't mean that you should have people walk all over you.)
  • Draw lines in the sand, boundaries.....Are people crossing the line with you? Have a bit of self respect, tell them, the universe, "God", etc that you want something better for yourself. If a person or a job isn't providing what you need now, it/they never will. Trying to change it, monitor it, etc will make you again...as mad as a hatter.
  • Give "God" or "the intelligent force that create you" a break. Stop telling him/her/them how to do their job. That's so irritating when people tell others how to do their job. Anyway, what right do you, being under the age of 2,000,000 years have a right to say anyway?  "God" has seen it all and he/she/they know how to go about getting you what you want. I don't care how my mechanic does his job. "Just fix the breaks Bryan, please spare me the details." Why? Well, fortunately I have had the same reliable mechanic for many years and that family has owned that business for over 50+, but how insulting for me to even assume I know what he's doing. If Bryan isn't failing me, I seriously doubt "God" will.
  • Have a little trust. Again, shall I trust Bryan, my mechanic, to do the job better than "God"? For example, I don't call Bryan every 15 minutes and see how things are moving along, I don't pray to God on an hourly bases about how Bryan is performing his job, I don't ask God to help Bryan change his not-so-bed-side-manner. (I've never seen Bryan get worked up about anything in 15 years...nothing, so he doesn't react, doesn't mean he isn't a nice guy), I don't ask God to interpret Bryan's behavior towards me or why Bryan doesn't react. So if you are doing this about anyone, you're obsessed, need to think of meds here. It's not healthy. It isn't about your spirits being intertwined. Do demand God to give you a play by play and leave the mechanic to do his job?
  • Get to the belief that you probably don't have the answers and neither does every fifth advisor on Keen. Let it unfold and trust that it will.
  • Say to yourself, "I want X or something better for me than X" Insert a job, a lover, a new beautician, a vehicle...whatever.
  • Understand the unbelievable freedom and joy that comes with handing your issues to God. He/she/they want something interesting to do on the job, give them the occupation. It's what he/she/they do best. Utilize "God".   Bluntly we are like this: My three year old wants to do the tidying up and so he pushes the mop and knocks down paintings from the wall, knocks over brick-o-brack or nick-knacks, he kicks the water bucket over and he makes a real mess trying to help me  tidy up......

So guess what you're doing?

Are you tidying up a bit for God?

Oh what a mess this is!

  • Allow and accept peace, love, understanding and free will into your life. Believe that you are good enough, because guess what? You are good enough, actually you're better!