The Relationship Game
Love & ?
We all deal with this and as a practicing intuitive it is the hot topic everyday. 90% of my readings are based on love. It makes the world go round, oh yes! It also makes us dizzy after we stop spinning.
Let's take a good look at love. In order for love to actually work both people have to be in it, completely. It is a game of chance. Yes or no? Maybe. First I feel, you need to know who you are and what you want. Don't obliviously start a relationship expecting that person to fill your every need when you don't know what you want, who you are and best of all you don't even love yourself. You can start swimming now because you have already sunk that ship.
No one person can fill your every need. So please don't expect them too. You also cannot fill that one person's every need. You partner up together as a team not as a life saver. You support each other, yes. However, you have other friends as they do and people who care as they should and better. Girl friends and guy friends. Don't expect a miracle, it doesn't work that way. Even in a marriage. Love is a beautiful thing but in love we can be independent and still loving at the same time. We can be supportive and not suffocating.
Be sure you know what you want before you proceed. Be clear. Do not expect more from someone than you are willing to give. Get it right with yourself first and foremost. YOU always have to be #1 and then take on the relationship. The healthiest relationships that I have seen and noticed are those where two people come together as two separate individuals doing well and enjoy as one. They do not loose themselves. They are friends always, lovers later. They respect themselves first as well as each other. They fight fair. They tell the truth with respect.
They laugh. There is more laughing then crying. If you find that all you are feeling aggravation and sadness the majority of the time, you may want to think again. Someone once told me that a relationship is never supposed to be so difficult, it should just flow. I concur. Even with distance, it should just flow. Yes, there will be ups and downs, that is expected and normal.
" I would rather cry without you then with you". My tears would eventually stop without you then if I had to be tormented with you. You want a healthy relationship. Even though we love, that does not mean that love is one in which is a healthy one. We have to learn the difference. Love is a magical emotion. Romantic love in all it's glory is majestic! Make sure you are open and have things in common. You most certainly do not have to have everything in common and you shouldn't or I would say that would be boring.
Each person brings to the table individuality which is very refreshing. Allow your partner to grow as they should allow the same curiosity to you.
There you have it. My take only. Not the official rule book but I sure hope it helps.