When we need to let go..
Sometimes, as part of taking care of ourselves, it becomes time to end
certain relationships. Sometimes, it comes time to change the
parameters of a particular relationship. This is true in love, in
friendships, with family and on the job. Endings and changes in
relationships are not easy. But often, they are necessary.
Sometimes, we linger in relationships that are dead, out of fear of
being alone or to postpone the inevitable grieving process that
accompanies endings. Sometimes, we need to linger for a while, to
prepare ourselves, to get strong and ready enough to handle the change.
If that is what we are doing, we can be gentle with ourselves. It is
better to wait until that moment when it feels solid, clear, and
consistent to act.
Knowing that a relationship is changing or is about to end is a
difficult place to be in, especially when it is not yet time to act but
we know the time is drawing near. It can be awkward and uncomfortable,
as the lesson draws to a close. We may become impatient to put closure
on it, but not yet feel empowered to do that. That's okay. The time is
not yet right. Something important is still happening. When the time is
right, we can trust that it will happen. We will receive the power and
the ability to do what we need to do. Ending relationships or changing the boundaries of a particular relationship is not easy. It requires courage and faith.
It requires a willingness on our part to take care of ourselves and sometimes to
stand-alone for a while. Let go of fear. Understand that change is an important part of enfoldment. Love yourself enough to do what you need to do to take care
of yourself, and find enough confidence to believe that you will love
again. To know that you are worthy of love.
We are never starting over. We are moving forward in a perfectly
planned progression of lessons. We will find ourselves with certain
people - in love, family, friendships and work - when we need to be
with them. When the lesson has been mastered, we will move on. We will
find ourselves in a new place, learning new lessons, with new people.
Today, I will accept where I am in my relationships, even if that place
is awkward and uncomfortable. If I am in the midst of endings, I will
face and accept my grief. God, help me trust that the path I am on has
been perfectly and lovingly planned for me. Help me believe that my
relationships are teaching me important lessons. Help me accept and be
grateful for middles, endings, and new beginnings.
I cannot take credit for writing this because my beautiful, talented 21 year old Daughter wrote this herself. She made perfect sense. So, I wanted to share with all my clients as we have all been at this place one time or another.
May you be blessed!
Always,
Michelle