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"But I gave him everything he could ever want".

Oh yes the famous words (questions). I gave him what he wanted, why did he leave me or why does he not appreciate all this? Why does he treat me this way?

Because you let him. Now, let me explain. You cooked him dinner and I mean a gourmet meal, you did this often. You gave him the hottest sex he could ever want, often! You cleaned his house, ran his errands. Maybe you even made his lunches and surprised at work.

You dressed sexy, God forbid he see you without your eye make up on. Now we wonder what happened why is he blowing you off? Did he ask you to clean, cook, run errands or do sexy things? Nooooooooo. He dated you and sometimes we want so badly to to please our new guy that we just throw everything at him and expect him to behave the way we would want him too. He asked you out, you had fun, right? It was going rather smoothly for a few months. You enjoyed his company as he enjoyed yours.

The fact remains he never asked you to do anything but go out with him. Yes, both parties should be compatible and enjoy eachother's company, otherwise why date? Dating does lead to wonderful relationships that can last forever. Don't assume you can win him by doing all these things. As you date you know that as it grows, it must be a give and take. You cannot get angry and ask why he pulled back when you did so much for him. He didn't ask you too.

Remember he has a Mother and a girlfriend is not a Mother, nor is a wife. You are an equal partner. So keep it simple, I promise he can do all those things for himself. When you move forward and it is "exclusive" you will both do things for eachother. Don't throw yourself at anyone. He won't want to feel obligated nor would you want him to stick around because of all you did. We should never feel obligated but rather inspired.

Wishing you joy!

Michelle

Published Wednesday, August 27, 2008 2:34 AM by Michelle Caporale

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# re: "But I gave him everything he could ever want". @ Saturday, September 06, 2008 4:29 PM

fantastic!  ur the best, great advice.

Joy

# re: "But I gave him everything he could ever want". @ Monday, September 08, 2008 2:25 AM

My question to this will be. Did he clearly say himself that he wants all these things you dedicated yourself to giving. Sometimes you might be blowing the trumpet too loud about what you can do for him, whitout checking with him if that is the song he would like to hear at that volume you blowing.
Let's refrain from treating men as the "To-befixed" Projects. Sometimes the way we talk about them makes me wonder if we consider if they have feelings.

Sam

# re: "But I gave him everything he could ever want". @ Monday, September 08, 2008 4:15 AM

....Most times in a reltionship,physical attraction comes to play a key role before gettin to know the opposite sex.If you listen very well to your date, there are things he or she would expect you to do without asking. But often times you might not be attracted to the opposite,so he will just want to be friends with you and nothing more. so there is nothing that you would do that will make him come to appreciate you.This is why one has to ask the question ''What kind of woman would you like to spend the rest of your life with?" From his comment you will be able to tell if you fit into his choice of a life time partner or not.

Henri

# re: "But I gave him everything he could ever want". @ Monday, September 08, 2008 9:38 PM

Great comments and I really appreciate them. Neither sex is a fixer upper project. To be more clear I should say that this would apply to both men and women. I have heard Men do the same.
I am pointing out what seems to happen at times when we do not step back to see how we behave.

Isn't love grand? LOL Well, actually it is when the right person comes along.

Love the comments, Thank you.
Michelle :-)

Michelle Caporale

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