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Ms Lisa M

Reality Check 101 and Spiritual Growth: It all begins and ends with you!

Cancer Men
Zodiac: Crabby Cancer Ah, yes, cancer men. You can't live with them, can't live without them. I could outline what is circling them this week/month, but eh, that's tedious and honestly, quite boring. What I will do is tell you exactly what to expect and how to handle it.

Cancer men love being in love, and they often mistake infatuation for love. They idealize a great deal and they actually see things, most of the time, through rose colored glasses. And, when things start to unravel, they quickly try to control it and push it back to where it once was.

They can be, what appears to be egocentric , when really it has a lot to do with masking their fear and insecurity about something, and they tend to over-think things, become sullen, then retract into their crablike shell leaving you wondering "wth?".

Cancer men are moody and can change in an instant. They seek out validation everywhere. They want attention constantly from the object of their affection, and praise, and they will either try to get this attention through sending roses to your work so your entire office thinks they are amazing; working overtime at work so their boss thinks their amazing; or being their child's soccer coach so the community thinks they are amazing. What most cancer men don't seem to know is if they just had faith in themselves and who they are, they would see they already possess what it takes to be amazing. When a cancer man is secure, and is confident, he is rather charming, doting, devoted and intensely loving.

A CANCER MAN IN LOVE

A Cancer man in love is like watching a romantic movie in black and white. They have a tendency to fall hard and fast, and when they do, watch out. If you're the object of their desire, expect flowers, candy and a mix CD delivered to your house personally. They like to see your reaction, they want validation. They can be a bit overwhelming and aggressive when they truly want you. They also have a tendency to morph into whatever it is you are. They like to be exactly what it is THEY think a woman wants, and needs. It's as if you're being wooed by Cary Grant, and you are quickly swept up. They can keep up this facade for a very long time. It's not that it's fictitious. It is real, and it is genuine. They really do want you. But keep in mind a Cancer tends to fall in love with what is before them, believing it's love, and quickly, they can change if they've rushed too quickly or they realized it was an illusion.

Now, I know there are exceptions here, and we must always remember there are other factors in a persons zodiac sign, such as their rising sign, their moon, etc...but the basic Cancer male zodiac nature is to settle down, and find security and stability. But, they are glutenous for attention, validation and praise. If he takes out the garbage, for the love of goddess, praise him. If he fixes the toaster, praise him. If he makes macaroni and cheese, praise him. Or, you're going to see your loving, romantic, accommodating Cancer male retract, withdraw and pout.

There's ain't nothing worse than a pouty Cancer. Do not let his mood shifts affect you, for as quickly as he sulks and pouts, he can pull out of it. There are some Cancer's that will go all out to get your attention when they are moody. They will slam doors, bang countertops, etc, but the majority just grumble. Don't try to yank them out of this mood. They can't be pulled from it til they are ready.

Cancer men are also quite guarded. They will appear to be stingy, selfish, and sneaky. The fact is they don't trust too readily and they have a high level of suspicion. They work hard for what they have and they aren't too quick to hand things over. But, when this man falls in love, or cares for others, he willingly shares and is generous. Unless he is suspect of your agenda. He's constantly paranoid as well. He is always thinking someone is out to get him, take from him, swindle him and use him. He's made these assumptions due to observing the world around him and due to past experiences of his own life and others. Again, he's highly intuitive, so he is a bit leery.

Cancer men are also highly intuitive. Their natural intuition is powerful and they can read people rather quickly and well, so long as they don't allow their insecurities and fear to get in their way.

If you are in love with a Cancer male I will tell you what you need to do to have a healthy, happy relationship with him.

You need to be respectful. Never embarrass your Cancer lover or reprimand him as if he's a child. This will make him behave like one should you do so. He will retract, recoil and if pushed enough he will attack and hit you harder than you hit him, going for your jugular.

You need to praise him and shower him with affection. But you must be able to read when he wants affection. This man doesn't like clingy people, yet he clings, so figure that one out. You have to know when to touch and when not to. He's usually demonstrative and will reach out when he is seeking affection, there's a clue.

You need to be honest. Not brutally honest, but direct and never lie. If they catch you in a lie, it will be difficult to rebuild his trust again, and he will always question you.

Even though you want to praise and shower him with love and affection these men like a bit of mystery. They like to be the pursuer. Don't change your plans last minute to accommodate him and his desires. He always wants what he can't have and if he finds out you're going out with the girls he may try to throw a wrench in it and get you to be with him. If you do this once, he'll do it to you a hundred times, as this man is jealous and possessive. He's great at masking it, and comes across as indifferent, but make no mistake he is definitely jealous and possessive of that which he holds dear. Be just a bit out of reach and let him pursue you and create an air of mystery.

Never take anyone else's side over his, at least not in public. Stand as a united front and maybe discuss your disagreement in private, but never, ever speak out against him to others. This is a huge deal breaker with him. He finds it disloyal and that is a no-no.

He's private and he is also someone that only shows others what he wants them to see. He can be a man of many masks and personalities depending on whom he's around at the time. Keep an eye out for this because if you are disgusted by a person who isn't truly himself then this man will probably anger, or confuse you.

If you are just starting out with this man, and still dating others, don't tell him, he is not one that likes competition in love.

Don't expose too much to him in the beginning. You want him to be who he is, not what he's created just to impress you.

Be neat, clean and tidy. Cancer's, in general, suffer a bit from OCD and they cannot tolerate a messy, disorganized, or cluttered home. Their home is their castle and it must be comfortable, presentable and cleansed. If it isn't you will see them take charge and clean. Cancer men are not beyond washing dishes, doing laundry or scrubbing a floor. They are perfectly willing to share the tasks.

They love women who are feminine, but also a lady who can be one of the guys. These men, though they love the comforts of home, are active and enjoy many activities where you can accompany him. He likes to play sports, or at least watch them, and he will want you there, cheering him on. He likes a girl who isn't so hung up on her appearance that she can't throw on some jeans, pull her hair into a pony tail and just get up and go. He admires beauty in a woman, but he also likes natural beauty. He also likes intelligence.

If he has made it clear he doesn't like one of your friends, simply don't mention her in his presence. You need not drop her like a safe, but don't expect them to get along because he can, and will be rude, if forced into into this position.

If you don't like one of his friends, tell him, but don't insult him. Cancer men are pretty loyal to those they care about. Just so you know.

Don't tell him any secrets. Though he's good at keeping his own, he will only keep your secrets for as long as you two are happy and together. Once the relationship is over he'll run his damn mouth to anyone who will listen. He's horrible at keeping other's secrets and is like a chick when it comes to gossip. He loves to hear other's dirt.

WHEN A CANCER MAN IS NOT INTERESTED

Cancer men seduce and they seduce those they aren't even interested in. They like attention (I'm saying this again) and they will be romantic, polite and sweet. But, if a cancer man is not interested in you, he's not beyond sleeping with you for sport. He may find you attractive and desire you sexually, but he's clear that is all it is. He makes it clear by not calling. And when he does "just show up" on your front door, he is not wanting idle chatter, he wants sex. He leaves before the condom is off and he rarely looks you in the eye. He's not good at hiding his agenda unless he's wanting to impress you. He won't care what you think of him if he's not interested and he has no problem flaunting his other relationships in your face. He won't take you out, or spend any money on you whatsoever, and he will never give you a time as to when you will hear from him or see him again. He will leave you breathless and wanting more, and will ignore you until he is aroused again and there are no other options around. This man has no problem walking away from a woman he feels nothing for. And he won't even avoid you or evade your presence, he'll simply ignore you without remorse. He can be cutting and brutal if you corner him, worse than a Leo, in my opinion.

Don't try to get his attention by making him jealous. He'll see right through it and he will laugh at you, and if you are obnoxious about it, he'll point it out and humiliate you. Don't try to appeal to his kind heart, he will feel badly that you are hurting, but it won't change his actions. You can't guilt this man into changing his mind. Don't try to buy this man either, because he'll take the watch you give him for his birthday and wear it for his date with one of your friends. You can't manipulate this man.

If he has ended the relationship know one thing, he doesn't like to be alone. You may not see him with other women, or hear of it, but rest assured he's either prowling or already has his sights set on another and he's working it. Cancer men tend to find other lovers, or other interests and bait and secure a new relationship before they leave the one they are in. They have that strong of a disdain for being alone. If he ends the relationship it is over. He's pretty sure he wants out. I'm not talking about a blow out where you both say mean things. I'm talking about if he has packed his stuff and left, he's definitely gone. BUT...and this is a big but, even though the relationship is over, it doesn't mean he won't stop by again for some slap and tickle should his new love interest fall flat, or he finds a lack of out there. Don't sleep with him. Don't think he's back. He's only making a pit stop. Once a Cancer man ends it with you, consider it over, because if you think he's stopping by at 2 a.m. because he can't get you out of his mind, you're wrong. If a Cancer man wants to reconcile it won't be in the form of a booty call. He will try to reconcile along the same lines as he did when he was wooing you in the beginning with the flowers, candy and intimate dining.

Blessings, Lisa

Published Friday, May 17, 2013 4:58 AM by MsLisaM

Comments

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, July 19, 2011 1:00 AM

sounds like most guys who are really insecure kids inside...

Mondrian

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, September 06, 2011 6:14 PM

Wish I would've seen your post two weeks ago. It would've helped me. I learned from a previous unsuccessful relationship with a Scorpio/Libra, to be extremely sensitive and sincere. I was patient, placed his feelings above mine. No insulting pet-names to him (not that I would), kept times open just for him, never showed interest towards another man-made it clear I was a one woman man, played a little hard to get, talked nice about his family, raved about his talents, complimented him with specific examples, I let bygones be bygones.
We met in May. Started out with casual, cordial communications at work. He hinted that he was interested. We connected on twitter. That continued until we began exchanging personal emails, every day, every other day, every three days. That turned into working closer together, more flirting by email every day, every other day, etc. Then we began talking over the phone daily. I said something over the phone that he thought made him feel guilty-he said so, and I haven't heard from him since. He made a dinner date with me, ignored it when the day arrived, didn't cancel it, and didn’t acknowledge it at work when I saw him, hasn't answered my telephone calls or returned them. Hasn't answered my email. I see him at work, he says hi or bye and that's it.
It's obvious he doesn't want anything to do with me. My problem-after being nice to him and helping him and others, sometimes at his request, I think it would have been decent of him to just say goodbye. He doesn't have to agree to stay in a situation with me that he doesn't want. I'm not asking that. I'm just asking that he give me a clean break, closure, and an adult discussion. Why would he not want to "close-out" nicely? I treated him respectfully and was very giving at all times. I think adults who gave freely of their time should tell the other person when they no longer want to be in a situation. I tell men who I don't want to be in a relationship with that I no longer want that.
To just walk away and not say a word!!! Why? No closure from him hurts badly. I can accept his changed mind. He didn't have to be so mean to me, I didn't deserve it.
HIM-Sun-Cancer, Moon-Scorpio, Venus-Virgo, Nept-Sagittarius, Nrth Node-Scorpio Uranus-Libra, Pluto-Libra, Saturn-Cancer, Mercury-Cancer, Mars-Taurus, Chiron-Aries, Jupiter-Aries, True Lil-Aquarius, True Nrth Node-Scorpio.
ME-Sun-Sagittarius, Moon-Gemini, Venus-Sagittarius, Nept-Scorpio,Uranus-Virgo,Pluto-Virgo, Saturn-Pisces, Mercury-Scorpio, Mars-Virgo, Chiron-Pisces, Jupiter-Leo, TL-Picses,TNN-Taur

iluvdesserts

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Sunday, September 18, 2011 11:36 PM

Everything is so true.

We got into an arguement the other day because he said we needed to talk about somethings. I'm a Leo, from my point of view I think I give him a lot of affection. Were long distance but I always try to tell him how much he means to me as much as possible. He obviously doesn't think its enough.

I'm worried there might be someone else.
The day we got into an arguement, he was crying and said he couldn't be with me anymore but he also said he couldn't end the relationship. My stubborness would have ended it but I care for him too much to and I'm realizing that more when he distances himself from me.

I'm worried he will end the relationship with me because it seemed like he put deep thought in the idea of it. How do I find out if there's someone else.

Jennifer

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Saturday, October 08, 2011 1:42 PM

i like a cancer male and i told him because he practically forced me this was over fb and all he could say was your only human he is a pain in the bum tbh i thought because he ust to be a royal marine that he would at least have the balls to talk it out but no i ust to love this man he made me feel save when i was young and i loved to cuddle him,but right now im on my own my family have turned in to selfish horrors who dont care bout me my friends are only intreasted when it suits them and theres this cancer man who ive adored all these years and he is turning his back on me while i need him most my life is so pointless i dont want to be here anymore it seems to me that only the bad people get rewarded example my sister who has acted like the devil as got everything she could ever need but thats life ay its a bitch sometimes but anyman who does that to you no matter the sign u just have to give up i have to i did it before and crawled bk but no matter what no matter the pain and isolation one has to walk away i no that now:(

li

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Monday, October 24, 2011 1:53 AM

You nailed it!!! I was confused by a cancer male, but you just deflated his mystery and now I feel better since kicking him to the curb. You're exactly on target-no dinner, no dates-just a quick "can I come over". I recently grew tired of his "dragging feet" "push/pull" attitude and ended a 2yr waste of time. I wasn't clear about my decision but sister you nailed him down!!! Thanks so much..a new fan!!!

Sonya Caraway

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, October 27, 2011 9:15 AM

I dated cancer man for 6.5, and everything you wrote here about this sigh is sop true, only it takes very long time to learn.... This is a very touch person to get along with... You cant ever know what they are thinking or whats on their mind... It was driving me crazy!
Before you start a relationship with cancer male, just think twice... All I am saying...

Jenny

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, November 17, 2011 11:00 AM

Miss Lisa is more than right.  I read this and I thought this can't be my Cancer guy.  Yeah, well it is and was.  Jerk of jerks and he told me but I wanted to see something else.  Get out now, save your money, time, and your mind!  Good sex is not worth everything they take from you.

KCL

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Saturday, December 24, 2011 9:06 AM

Sad

cnm

# a cancerian lady and dating a cancerian man @ Saturday, January 28, 2012 6:04 PM

im a cancerian and so is he... i know him for 2 years now and we started by just being friends. he is adorable and understanding.. he listens to my problems..he advice and.. the conversation never runs dry...
a month ago, he told me he liked me and he want to go deeper from just being friends.. at first i thought its a bad idea because i want him as a friend... not a lover.
he got angry when i told him i just wanna be friends and decided to "not see me again".. but the next day i apologize and accepted him as my bf.
its been a month now that we r together but im still unsure about this relationship. as a cancerian myself, i am sensitive and need constant reassurance but he is not showing any of that else than the idea of being my bf excites him. he never talk about our future and only has plans for himself...his friends comes first and i will be second... sometimes when we argue, he always defends himself and somehow i have an instinct telling me that hez lying......cancerians get together do have issues... and its like a ticking bomb if both sides are in the lowest point of their mood swing. good luck if ur dating a cancerian man because its gonna be a roller coaster.

DarLing

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, April 04, 2012 10:00 AM

This is rich on th money, sm

shanta

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Monday, May 07, 2012 11:12 AM

this is soooo true. I wish I would have known this before I wasted four years of my life with only a wet a** and broken heart.Thank GOD for delivering me from evil:)

sonya

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Sunday, June 10, 2012 12:37 AM

OMG!  You just nailed my situation with a Cancer at work!

"WHEN A CANCER MAN IS NOT INTERESTED

Cancer men seduce and they seduce those they aren't even interested in. They like attention (I'm saying this again) and they will be romantic, polite and sweet. But, if a cancer man is not interested in you, he's not beyond sleeping with you for sport. He may find you attractive and desire you sexually, but he's clear that is all it is. He makes it clear by not calling. And when he does "just show up" on your front door, he is not wanting idle chatter, he wants sex. He leaves before the condom is off and he rarely looks you in the eye. He's not good at hiding his agenda unless he's wanting to impress you. He won't care what you think of him if he's not interested and he has no problem flaunting his other relationships in your face. He won't take you out, or spend any money on you whatsoever, and he will never give you a time as to when you will hear from him or see him again. He will leave you breathless and wanting more, and will ignore you until he is aroused again and there are no other options around. This man has no problem walking away from a woman he feels nothing for. And he won't even avoid you or evade your presence, he'll simply ignore you without remorse. He can be cutting and brutal if you corner him, worse than a Leo, in my opinion."

OMG AGAIN!  He is playing mind games with me because he wants attention, not because he doesn't know how to deal with his feelings for me...(I had convinced myself of this because of stuff I read on other sites).  

I am Taurus/Gemini cusp (born May 21)and I find myself confused in love relationships so often I didn't know how to take Mr. Cancers attitude.  I was thinking he was trying to approach me "sideways", acting nonchalant because he didn't want me to know the extent of his feelings, etc....  Now I realize the truth...  

Thank you for helping me see the truth and, for once in my life, allowing me to stop before I end up torn to pieces. Thank God I didn't pursue and sleep with him.  I would have never gotten over him (and it is going to be hard hard leaving my friend behind, but I will do it now).    

leelee

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, June 12, 2012 10:41 PM

I wish I'd read this years ago. If you're an Aries, this man will wear your soul out. I was optimistic and thought I was up to the challenge of him. Nope. He will wreck your spirit.  Run. Just please run.

farai

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, June 14, 2012 11:32 AM

this i a piece of shitt man

adah

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, June 14, 2012 11:38 AM

all girls in this world deserve a good man not a piece of shitt like this, selfish childish and who the hell they think they are lol haha

adah

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, June 15, 2012 1:52 PM

This was great... I wish I could know more... I just can't afford a reading...

Racheal McGaha

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, June 22, 2012 12:25 PM

Yes cancer man will wreck your spirit if you let him. The one I came across totally fits the description above. He was unbelievably charming at the beginning - it is easy to fall in love with a cancer man! But watch out - soon he will confuse you and drive you mad with his moodiness. He is touchy and egoistic, I never could get to trust him. Bad experience overall with a beautifully romantic man. I never want to date this kind of man again !

Maya

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, June 26, 2012 9:25 AM

Im a libra woman who met and married my cancer after 5 years of dating. I found out that he lied and cheated.  We split up and he eventually came back and wanted to fix the problems. I took him back but never fully forgave him. I tortured him and eventually kicked him out. I regret that now.  We are apart and are presently working on our problems in counseling. My advice to anyone considering dating a cancer man is to make sure he is a good one.  Because if you get one with bad family upbringing, they will have tendencies to lie, cheat and steal and have an extremely negative outlook on life.  This in NOT an ideal partner for anyone of any sign.  But if you find a good one, keep em because the moody-ness is worth the home environment they are willing to create with you.  

M Love

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, June 28, 2012 1:59 PM

I Have Been Talking to a cancer man for 2 months now. And he is someone that i have known for about 4 years and we sometimes talk on the phone but most of the time we just text each other. He is with someone else but tells me he is not happy with her, And im married i have been married to my husband for 3 years now and we have been together for 8 years and he is a libra. And we have been going through so  much and im not happy we don't have sex anymore i love him but im not in love with him anymore. I really do like this cancer guy but i think he just want sex he keep saying he wants to see me and it seems, like when i don't pick up my phone or return any of his  text messages He will keep calling and texting me. So when i do give in and text him or call him he won't pick up the phone or send me a text message back. Its like he is playing this game with me and when we talk  he tells me he wants to see me its not in a way as if he wants to take me out to dinner are to wine and dine me he is telling me he wants sex because his girlfriend don't give him the type of sex he wants and he also told me she don't Know how to cook and she don't want to learn, and when we do talk he sound so sad everytime we talk. Now the situation between, me and my hushand is that i treated him like a king until we started clashing and he stop giving me the attention and love that i desire that he once did in the beginning of being together. Im a aries female but im a homebody i really don't like partying i like to cook, and keep a clean house a neat freak ..he he , i love to hug and kiss alot, But im also very independent and strong and love the finer things in life.... I must a mit i do like when he chases me. he he

Mimi

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, June 28, 2012 2:20 PM

I will Once again let my soon to be ex husband know that i need my space and that we should separate. And im going to back away from mr.cancer, two things cancers and libras have in common they can't let go even when a situation is not rite for them they just can't let go. They will hold on for dear life,, I don't know what this cancer guy is up to but i will not stick around to find out. I rather be single and happy by myself.... And focus on my self rite now....

Mimi

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Monday, July 02, 2012 4:49 PM

this is so true omg im currently dating a cancer man but i guess he only wanted sexx, he was noice and everything smfhhh

delilah

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, July 10, 2012 4:46 AM

Nooo how sad, i thought i had met my perfect match...just started seeing a cancer man, I am a cancer myself...him and I have a great connection..Here i sit tonight wondering why no contact after the greatest weekend together and chatting continuously on the phone each day...now today and tonight nothing !!! Hmmmm

Tee

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, July 12, 2012 9:55 PM

I broke it off with him weeks ago and all of a sudden he's interested again and texting and wanting to come over.  It's really like dealing with a petulant child. (He's 40- something. ) I just don't respond cause what's the point?  It's just an invitation to be treated like shit again.

farai

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and duon'ts @ Friday, July 13, 2012 2:18 PM

Wish I had known this earlier, feel so used.. :0(

I'm an arise and got fiercely involved and am totally heartbroken now, since I'm being royally ignored now... Feel bad cause this cancer man has a rich girlfriend for last 5yrs and she thinks he is the most loyal and giving guy.

Don't know how I got in this mess..  :-/

ada

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, July 13, 2012 8:05 PM

Maya... is your cancer...a pilot?  Are we posting about the same guy?

farai

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, July 17, 2012 1:55 PM

Lmao! Sum funny ppl on here!..let me tell ya my story n dont feel bad cuz im much more stronger n wiser!..im a aries !..yes o no!..he a cancer man! Let me tell u hw much i liked him..i would of gave him anything n never wanted anything back but love n respect..this man n i dated for 8 months..smh big big no no!..we fought everyday about females he have alot of female friends n he too dam friendly..one day i said enough is enough i was done..when i say when a cancer man into he will yell pout,talk shit,cheat spy on ur page text u all day with anger!..until u give in n take him back..he was all about his needs as in money sex n a  roof ova his head..if he aint got his own n u dont either he will run to sum1 who do!.they are sneeeakyyyy but to bad im a aties once i feel something wrong i ask him all the questions n i never bit my tongue..funny thing is with cancer man they are like kids  u must must treat them like u treat ur kids....i think there cool but not as a lover..not all but 99% of them!..my cancer ex still in my life he think im take care him..but im not!..we talk but we never be close friends nor lovers..they so stressful to be with!..waste of space...not all just 99% of them..hey its a fact!..

sin

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, July 18, 2012 8:49 PM

now i am lmao!  thanks for the post, sin.



farai

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Sunday, July 22, 2012 10:34 AM

OMG!!.. I can't believe how accurate this is... I swear I wish I would have came across this 4yrs. ago..smh... it was a very stressful, confusing, emotional rollercoaster, tiring, point in my life.. I mean I really allowed him to do thee most... the end result I'm stuck with a lil boy who looks just like him.. that has absolutely no connection or contact with his uneven father.. (the Cancer Male)

Ms. Affy

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, July 27, 2012 9:09 AM

This is so true !

I am an aquarious woman and i have been dating a cancer man for a year and a half. Like you said everything at first was amazing, he showed me with gifts, always gave me affection, in other words portraying what he wanted me too see of him.. obviously that stage passed and its kinda dull now.. i understand that we are no going to be lovey dovey for the rest of our lifes .. but i have been making efforts and writting him letters and quote notes on hi facebook wall or in his lunch.. but i find he dosnt return the favour :( and at hat he dosnt give me feedback on what i say in these letters he just ignores them like it never happened..i have to bring it up contenuously for him to finally talk about it .. is there a problem or is this jut the way he is .. or is this just a bump in our relationship in so confused ... i dont think anything is wrong but it would be nice to see him try and put a litte bit of thought into something for me once in a while .. what do you thinK?

KAYE

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Saturday, July 28, 2012 11:28 AM

sometimes somethig good is worth fighting for but not to the point will its taking more outta u then u are putting in i dont think its that ser to beging with whoever or whatever sign u are im with a cancer man now and something about me had him hooked to the point where i know all his moves before he does them only thing is he cant figure me out i give to him just what he gives me you have to put that out there cancer men are bullies and they do like to be in control but the deeper secret to this person is they dont really want to be in control they want to see if u can take control and when u do they days will get brighter cancer man are like children nomatter how old they are they want to know that u are the one they can and will me very mooded but im a very detached person so whenever hes in a bad mood i sit with him while i can then i call it out just as it comes to me and he loves that about me im not afair to teach him becouse they really know but they dont know all u ladys have to do is know your worth whatever u sit back and let them do they will know your  worth becouse they aren't the only ones that may have lost somebody thats good for them becouse if u are a good person at heart then u know what u desire and if u let a man no matter who they are make u feel as if u need them then u desire it make better chorices lady

treyshawn

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Monday, August 06, 2012 7:49 PM

I spent 8 years with a cancer. 4 of which were unforgettable. The other 4 pure torture. Its amazing how they can take you to unknown heights, get tired and drop u flat on your face. They can build a wonderful life with you and decide to walk away and leave everythinv behind for a good lay. Do they come back? Hell yes, over  and over again. Im not sure if they ever really leave. He will bring his crab a$$ around everytime he think that you might be happy or that some one has your attention just to sabotage whatever you have going on, only to leave again. They expect honesty but wouldnt be honest if his life depended on it. Hes an insecure narcissist whose whole objective will be to belittle you and fool you into believing that you will never find anyone better or to manipulate you into believing that hes the ultimate provider. What a crock of bull. They always make themselves out to be the victim knowing that whatever they got was what they deserved. His a master of disguise. Hes whatever he believe a woman want but hes nothing short of a empty soul and a cold heart. Im not going to lie, they are start out being prince charming and this may go on for years before the selfish childish prick in him emerge so if u have a cancer, enjoy him but keep your poker face on. The minute u lay your cards on the table, your bluff will be called. Make him your your boy toy because he will be a good lay if nothing else but keep your options open because there wont be a happy ending to this fairytale

regretful B

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, August 10, 2012 1:15 PM

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# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Sunday, August 12, 2012 2:18 PM

This is truly amazing and true I am a cancer woman and I have a cancer brother he was born 6/24/69 I was born 6/27/70 we are completely different he is stingy greedy obsessive controlling abusive and always has an agenda for everything our relationship has siblings has suffered alot all what he stands for I am the opposite thank the heaven above for it cause if I were like him I wouldn't endure myself in his relationships he is definitely what you described you must have dealt with a male cancer before.

starlett

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Monday, August 13, 2012 10:29 PM

heyy..i was in a relationship with a cancer guy it started like this..he was the one who approached m ethrough facebook first with the help of my and his common friend den slowly slowly he started flirting i told him directly dont flirt wid me den sumthn hppnd and i gave my num 2 him i was at my maternal uncle's house at that time ..dere he used 2 call me nd msg methe whole day den we met first tym dere..den in our secong meeting dere only in ghaziabad thogh i live in greater noida and he too he came all the way 2 meet me dere den he proposed me in our second meeting i didn't said him nethn but afta dat v used 2 tok so much on phn while proposing i was able 2 c tears in his eyes..den finally we came in2 a relationship evethn was so gud he use 2 love me so much nd even i.. but aftr few months he started ignoring me my phone callls, my msgs, den once he said me that he is not in a condition to have  a relationship and it all got over....i tried to contact him many times but he always ignored...once we met and i bursted out all my frustation on him and said him many things which were quite hurting..but after that i apologised also..my problem is i love him so much till now not able 2 forget him its almost 1 year 2 our brkup now but i till love him miss him..tell me what to do and is there any possibility that he'll come back to me?????

urvashi

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Monday, August 13, 2012 10:35 PM

and the point is that even m a cancer girl

Member002371

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Monday, August 13, 2012 10:35 PM

and the point is that even m a cancer girl

Member002371

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, August 22, 2012 8:57 PM

I think with any man, you need to put yourself first &take things slow. That way you get to know him & when you put yourself first, you wont worry about him or what hes doing. Men in general will try & get away with what they can. Make a man work for you & if he doesnt, love yourself enough to leave a loser behind.  :)

Ldt

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, August 28, 2012 9:39 AM

are there any happy relationship stories involving cancer men?? maybe the reason their affection and charm wither away is because the girl stops giving him adoration and the love he needs.. Its obvious they are so excessive with the love because that is exactly what THEY NEED. I dont konw im just rambling.. im with a cancer man and seeing his ugly side for the first time after the honey moon phase is turning me right off. he seemed so perfect it made me really wonder why none of his other relationships worked out.. he tells me they were all crazy .. yeah okay.. whatever.. you are the only thing they had in common.. . hes just very controlling and told me he hit girls before, and is somewhat secretive, but the sweetest guy normally.. and treats me better than anyone has before.. the lady above me gave some really nice solid advice. also the other one to keep him as a boy toy only. hhaha i dont know.. are we talking about cancer men, or just all men in general.. my gemini ex was wonderful, but lied and cheated as the day is long.

bee

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, August 28, 2012 2:47 PM

I'm a cancer woman dating two cancer men. Cancer man(A)is the one I want. He acts like the not interested cancer man giving off mix-signals. The past six months. Cancer man(B)is the one I don't want. He acts like the interested cancer man, but rude and disrespectful. Once cancer man(A) learn about cancer man(B) now he is wooing me. Cancer man(A) don't know I broke-up with cancer man(B). I couldn't take anymore of his rudness, disrespectful, and controlling ways. Cancer man(A)was always interested, but he thought I was weak and needy and only wanted him...WRONG! Love yourself first ladies when it comes to all men. Always have options a man don't like being second to any man. If you are married having an affair please end it. That's not loving yourself. You are feeding the other man's ego and hurting the man who truly loves you.

Lady T

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, August 28, 2012 8:00 PM

I was with a cancerman for 2 years. we're both married. Lisa hit it to the core about my cancerman. They will be very charming when they want to woo you, to get you then will secretly have other girls on the side. They are really very glutinous for affection. Once I said goodbye and moving on, he tried to come back again especially if he thought I had my eyes for somebody which is not true at all. Secretly jealous and possessive but denies it all to the core.Its a roller coaster ride, a headache, a big mistake...He doesnt show his affection towards me but seems to expect from you. No gift, no call or text to check how I am...Will just text if he wants a lay or his other love interest falls short...

scorpio

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, August 29, 2012 10:53 AM

Ladies Ladies....

I am a cancer man 37yrs old.  However I am a Leo cusp as well..but I find myself more Cancer than Leo.  And I find this original statement a bit insulting.  It's true Cancer men need to be needed....we love it....BUT....we don't do it for selfish reasons...of course we love to satisfy our lust for attention.  But who doesn't like to be praised once in a while?  We woo women because  and wine and dine because once we have found someone we feel is worthy  of the affection we have to give, and time and effort it takes, then the sky is the limit....We are completely driven by our emotions...logical thinking never comes into play...we do what we feel...regardless what are "supposed" to do"   So when we "woo" and shower affection on you it's because thats what what feel at that moment, nothing contrived or pre meditated ...it is nothing but genuine and from the heart...not everything we do is not for pats on the back.... We do it because we love to shower affection and give to the people we love...are we sensitive? YES....Sensitive in love, yes!! We hate competition from other men...that is a truth that can not be debated...even if the other man is a movie star and nothing but a fantasy...we can't stand that....We loved to be loved....So just love us, continue to love and show your love for your cancer man, and he WILL in turn show you love like you have never experienced...We do so in our own time though....so no...we do not pretend to be what you want until we have you in our claws, and them turn in to the crab and expect all from you, as we stand by and take it, and not give back...thats not how we work....the reason we hide in out shell, is because we feel that we aren't getting enough in return...so why shower, and wine and dine, and tell you how wonderful you are, when time after time we get no response? Sure I tell me girlfriend that I think shes incredible, and loving and caring, and she responds with 'AWE honey you're so sweet"  and thats find, return the compliment once in a while, let us know you feel the same....thats all we need....and to her credit, my girlfriend does that....lets talk about ending it....YUP....when we end it, it's over....but our lust for attention will drive us back, 2AM "can I come over" calls...I'm guilty....if you can handle a booty call, and not expect anything else, then great who doesn't enjoy a spontaneous steamy sex session?  if you can't handle it...say no...But as far as how to "handle"   a cancer man....I take extreme office to that, we are not to be handled or delt with with....We are sensitive, and caring, and most of all LOYAL...IF you commit, so will we, with no problems...We will always love you above all else, and let you know that too....Guys are guys, and maybe we do it in our own way...but...if you ladies aren't be loved the way you want to be, it's not cause he's a cancer, it's cause he doesn't know how, he doesn't know what you like...tell him...we love to know that we are on the right track, no guessing or mind games, say "I love pepperoni pizza"  and guess what? you'll have a hot pie on your table in no time.....leverage what you learned about the zodiac signs of your partners with the fact that they ARE men...and Men and Women are just wired differently....take it all into consideration....can you handle that?  if men and Women took the time lean about each others traits, and zodiac signs, and the way each other is fundamentally wired, relationships would be soooooo easy...Cancer, Gemini, Scorpio, or whatever....Anyway...MY $0.02

Cancer man....  

HR.

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, August 29, 2012 4:24 PM

I am a Pisces and let's face it, if you can't get along with a Pisces, who can you get along with.  It's said that we are one of the most self-sacrificing signs of the zodiac and, yet, Cancer men are a real reason to carry a loaded gun!  The Cancer that I must admit I love has been someone that I have known since I was 16 and he was 21.  He hit on me way back then and tried to be my first but I wasn't ready for that.  Later, we met again and that magic moment happened.  As a Pisces I was IN LOVE.  First he said that he wanted to start dating then he said that I spoke harshly to him and that he never asked me to date him.  I have been there for him like you wouldn't believe.  He went through a dry spell and my Pisces a** helped me financially, spiritually....you get it...over and over again..."come on, you're a winner...you can do it....things will work out for you..."  Then, he was suppose to pay me back some money and acted like he forgot so I had to tell him about himself.  We haven't spoken in a while (he stopped responding to my calls) but I recently saw him.  He had shades on laughing and talking to people.  I boldly walked up to him, squeezed his hand, and was surprised that he lifted up his shades and looked at me for a few seconds before he asked me how I was doing.  He looked tired and drained.  Then later, he walked up to a group of people and hugged them to say goodbye.  I was standing by and he hugged me and asked me how I was again.  Confusing....he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, he loves me not....All I can say is that you have to be a praying person and be like Moses who heard God speak through the burning bush telling you that this man is the one for you.  If not, go find a Scorpio.  One thing about them is that you know where you stand without the games...and by the way, the sex with Scorpio is better (I think)

Shay Shay

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, August 30, 2012 4:47 PM

hey ive been dating a cancer for 2 months and im going crazy.... in the begining he used to open doors for me and take me out and we used to see each other once a week.. Now things are a bit different.. we see each other once every two weeks and I always have to be the initiator. I feel since he had a lost in  his family hes taken back a bit.. But i know he knows that i like him and im practically not throwing myself at him but showing him enough that i like him. n the last time we actually discussed if he liked me he said he did. So im not sure how to feel. At times i just want to give up and not try anymore. what should i do??

Tania R

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, September 04, 2012 11:26 AM

ha wish i had read this post a few years back. could have saved a heartbreak...cancer man... cant live with them. cant live without them *deep sigh*

Ashley

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, September 06, 2012 2:52 AM

I am currently seeing  a cancer male. I am reading and all i can say was, "damn, so right", ... He hardly speaks, and whenever he does his sentences are limited to 3 words max.. "Hey, hey babe, Not Really babe".. We had a blowout, because I wnated him to be more affectionate. I got the cursing of my life, his words struck a nerve but his points were true...now i just decided to let him be.. if he wants to say something i guess he will and vice versa.. I know he's a wonderful guy even before I started to find out more online about the attributes of  cancer male..Your article is spot on..

Annie S

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, September 06, 2012 1:44 PM

Man,

Cancer men are getting a real bashing here.  @ Annie S. Cursing you out after being asked to be more affectionate, is not a cancer trait....It's a DICK trait...RUN!!  RED FLAG RED FLAG!!

HR

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Sunday, September 09, 2012 4:50 AM

i trust in my feelings for a cancer man i do not damn care of this information..any how thanks.but they are loyal and this is enough for me.

sobia rubab

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, September 13, 2012 2:23 PM

I (aries) was dating a cancer male for 8 months. We were living together for a month, when i decided to move out. (i was really confused, even if i loved the time with him) It's been  one and a half month ago.
Now I want him back. In the last few weeks we've been through very bad fight (i was very mean-he said) and last saturday we had the worst argue ever. Now he sais, he doesn't know what he wants...but I guess, only want to drive crazy.

Mary

Mary

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, September 14, 2012 9:57 AM

I need some advises...I sent him a long mail. He replied immediately. He wrote, that he loves me, and he thinks a lot of me. Every night when he goes into bed, he is looking at his phone and in the morning the same, to check if I texted him or not. We are living now 1200 km away...and he said, he can't have me back when we are so far away from each other. If I would ask him, if he wants to be with me, he said he would say yes...but not now. It's too fresh and his heart still aches.
What to do???
I'm wondering if the thinks of me why isn't he texting me or drop me a call? If he really loves me, why can't we be together again?

Mary

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, September 21, 2012 10:46 AM

"Cancer men tend to find other lovers, or other interests and bait and secure a new relationship before they leave the one they are in."

It is so true. I knew one cancer guy always in relationship with two women. Ended up now, he is 50+ with no marriage and no a child now.  

Dear sisters, please do not ever sleep with cancer man before you know him.  Otherwise, he has ability to tear your heart into pieces.  

Jennifer

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, September 21, 2012 12:31 PM

This absolutely the most on target description of a cancer man I've ever read.  I have been him for the past 20 years with kids and now he's walked away.  I totally understand him now and thought perhaps things could work, but now I know for sure it can't.

Karen K

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Monday, September 24, 2012 4:23 PM

I am with a cancer man ladies they are soooo confusing ts like being in a book ur on page one then 46 then back to oone and so on..but its onli been a year and I have totally realised bein an aquarius I love my own space and independance but every woman needs love so if you want to keep him gve him lots of love, attention, compliments and let him in everyway think he is the boss itl shut him up..lol also let him be moody say nothin leave him be he loves to fight jus so he can hit u hard with harse words let him be..he'll come back outa his sheel soon enuf :) good loyal men so protective ..if u love him take my tips and I promise u he'll never leave :)

misshelen

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, September 25, 2012 7:24 PM

What I'd like you all to know is no matter what sign your man is (or woman) as long as you have self esteem, confidence, don't doubt your beliefs, express your feelings and opinions honestly & not emotionally and refuse to play childish games then you can either make a healthy relationship work, or you can spot the red flags instantly and get out before much time is invested.  The best way to read this article is to know YOURSELF, what you can do/give, and what you can't/not give.  If you find yourself molding and shaping into ANY relationship, changing who you are, sacrificing what YOU need, and crying more than laughing, then it's a clear sign the relationship needs work, or you need to get out.  This is true with any sign. I wrote this article, and I stand by it 100%. That being said, never give up what you want in love to try to fit a square peg into a round hole.  MsLisaM

MsLisaM

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, September 26, 2012 5:52 AM

Still in trouble....I sent him yesterday the most beautiful love confession ever (it took me 3 hrs to write!) and he answered: "don't know what to answer to you...with this letter you leave me without a way of knowing how to talk to you."

What does this sh.t mean????

Mary

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, September 27, 2012 2:34 PM

This is too funny.  Well ladies, now you know what's it is like to date yourselves.  We level the playing field for the rest of the guys that deal with women (whom are all cancers like it or not) every day.  Moody, covert, won't give you a straight answer to what's on their mind, etc.......sounds like every woman I've ever met.  We're just like you females in a males body.  We got your number, we are the Goddess son.  So the question is, are you "woman enough" to handle us?  Mine is.  Aries/Aries/Sagg btw.

Demon Dave

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, October 03, 2012 9:34 AM

im a virgoan, and my cancer man has cheated on me before, but you can tell through his eyes that he regretted it. that being said. I'm an overthinker and I want to know what the future beholds (pure virgo), how do i know he's loyal to me, especially he's in a band touring France right now?  

loraine

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, October 04, 2012 6:39 PM

Found my cancer man online. I didn't give him the time of day at first, he was so persistent. After getting to know him I thought he was really cool. The first meeting was after two canceled dates. It was great, we hit it off well. He was a gentleman I thought and not a psycho. Very, very successful man. Single because he says women cannot deal with his busy schedule, and family drama. I thought I could (sometimes still think I can), but after four months we met three times, texting mostly, and always initiated by me. He'll respond, but never initiates. I wonder what happened? Did he loose interest? Is there someone else? So many open doors. The only answer I'm getting is he's "busy". I get he's busy, but a five minute phone conversation is better than a whole day of texting single words.
After reading this I realize what he's about. He's Definetly not sending flowers and  candy. He likes the attention I give him. And like others have said we read other sites that says he's home dying to call but because he's a crab he's scared and hiding. So I reach out to him to comfort, but all that's happening is that I end up having a relationship with my cell phone.

Cindy

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, October 10, 2012 3:31 PM

I really like this guy. I'm a virgo and he's a cancer. He broke up with his girlfriend over the summer and i don't know if he's availible or not or if the realationship is even over. My friends say I schould ask him out but I don't know if it would work out. I don't know if i should give up on him or try even harder. What should I do?

LML

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, October 10, 2012 3:35 PM

Ioraine, if you like this guy and you truly believe he is sorry you should give him another chance. But if you are still mad at him he doesn't deserve you and rub a new boyfriend in his face. (NOT REALLY)but you deserve to be happy and make the best desition for you. follow your heart:)

LML

# re: Cancer Men: Need help @ Wednesday, October 10, 2012 9:47 PM

I'm a teen that's in love with a cancer teen boy we live in another state but I always wanna c him &I ant cuz I'm ill with chrons diseases. Anyways  he has been going through  alot& I just wanna b there for him.& we don't know how . He knows im always in his heart. But I want to b there physically. What do I do?

Ciarra

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, October 11, 2012 7:57 PM

CeI didn't like this. Accommodating you and taking care of you is for tgem? Do you know how stupid that sounds? We do it because we like to make the person we love happy.Of course we would like others to make us happy sometimes too but it's totally genuine.cancerians are relationship ppl and like to be with someone. If he's just sleeping with you maybe he's heart broken and protecting himself and taking it out on you or maybe he's in love with an ex.we have a hard time letting go and we love hard.Cancers aren't bad.

Anonymous Gal

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, October 12, 2012 4:54 AM

*I didn't like this.
*them
sorry about the typos blame my Android lol. If a cancer is playing the field it won't last too too long, we need stability and roots. Might wanna check his moon and ascending.
Also Virgo-Cancer is amazing!!!! They can deal with our mood swings with no problem. Leos work well too.

Anonymous Gal

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Monday, October 15, 2012 3:20 AM

i wish i would have known this b4 i wasted 3 years of my life with this liar! cancer man are shit

maria

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, October 19, 2012 5:00 PM

Interesting read-
In love with a Cancer- again.

I am a strong woman, have my own profession, have my own life.
I am a Virgo.

Known this Cancer man for almost 4 years- only friends.

Out of nowhere - it was like lightening bolts between us. I know it is not just me..now- whether he can act on it or not- I have no idea.
It is like Electricity..when I am around him- we both lift each other up.

He is the Cancer-  push away when he needs space- pull me in when he needs attention.... Or when I want his.

We are only friends.

We both have complicated pasts.

I identify a lot with what is being said here- but not all.

As friends- which he has always been to me- if I ever needed support - he has been unwavering and given advice- devoted- been protective and sincere.
Never turned his back on me when I needed help.

Very complicated-

I do think he plays games- but find him  also to be one of the finest people I have ever known.

I am the one who has fallen and want more- he gives all sorts of signs and then pulls away- we get closer each time. He considers us just friends and said so- but gets closer , more flirty- can see him looking at me, he either hid it before or it is now more obvious - he is totally checking me out.

It is complicated- he is divorced with teen kids- and a mentally ill/ psycho ex- no exaggerating there.
I am separated with kids of my own- younger.

I do love him- as a friend , and desire more.

I am however tiring of the game

I have no interest in hurting him- I do not think he intentionally hurts me- I do think he is a mixture of game player and gentlemen.

Unfortunately for me- I am a Virgo - I won' t play games even -if I know I could catch him or other men in the past-
I just cannot do it - when I say cannot- I do not want to and am unable not to lay out my true feelings....

I suppose that is one of my greatest flaws


I imagine this will be - sadly an Unrequited Love- I am passionately in love with him.

I also think he is decent and good- I cannot and will not intentionally hurt him.

I am pulling away though- for me.

I will always be his friend- came very close to trying to seducing him- a couple of times
-  just could not do it

I want someone to Love me for me- not because I let them think they caught me.

I realize it is me- and him too. I imagine we will always be friends.


I am close to his entire family

Odd

Any comments would be appreciated- positive or negative.

Sarah

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, October 19, 2012 5:01 PM

Interesting read-
In love with a Cancer- again.

I am a strong woman, have my own profession, have my own life.
I am a Virgo.

Known this Cancer man for almost 4 years- only friends.

Out of nowhere - it was like lightening bolts between us. I know it is not just me..now- whether he can act on it or not- I have no idea.
It is like Electricity..when I am around him- we both lift each other up.

He is the Cancer-  push away when he needs space- pull me in when he needs attention.... Or when I want his.

We are only friends.

We both have complicated pasts.

I identify a lot with what is being said here- but not all.

As friends- which he has always been to me- if I ever needed support - he has been unwavering and given advice- devoted- been protective and sincere.
Never turned his back on me when I needed help.

Very complicated-

I do think he plays games- but find him  also to be one of the finest people I have ever known.

I am the one who has fallen and want more- he gives all sorts of signs and then pulls away- we get closer each time. He considers us just friends and said so- but gets closer , more flirty- can see him looking at me, he either hid it before or it is now more obvious - he is totally checking me out.

It is complicated- he is divorced with teen kids- and a mentally ill/ psycho ex- no exaggerating there.
I am separated with kids of my own- younger.

I do love him- as a friend , and desire more.

I am however tiring of the game

I have no interest in hurting him- I do not think he intentionally hurts me- I do think he is a mixture of game player and gentlemen.

Unfortunately for me- I am a Virgo - I won' t play games even -if I know I could catch him or other men in the past-
I just cannot do it - when I say cannot- I do not want to and am unable not to lay out my true feelings....

I suppose that is one of my greatest flaws


I imagine this will be - sadly an Unrequited Love- I am passionately in love with him.

I also think he is decent and good- I cannot and will not intentionally hurt him.

I am pulling away though- for me.

I will always be his friend- came very close to trying to seducing him- a couple of times
-  just could not do it

I want someone to Love me for me- not because I let them think they caught me.

I realize it is me- and him too. I imagine we will always be friends.


I am close to his entire family

Odd

Any comments would be appreciated- positive or negative.

Sarah

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Saturday, October 20, 2012 1:36 AM

I also have fallen in love with a Cancer man although I am married. He is a colleague, and we have a friendship, platonic relationship. However he is very mysterious, fund and nice and he made me fall for him.
I am a Sagittarius, so I always speak up my mind, I am very sincere - with both my loving husband and my colleague.
I sent to the Cancer man an email explaining all my feelings and did not ask for any reply from his part. However, he said he wants to answer to me so this Monday we'll have a talk.

I just hope he won't hurt too much my feelings.

Sarah, I don't know what advice to give you since myself I am quite confused.

Take care
Kerry

Kerry

# Thank you Dr cool @ Thursday, October 25, 2012 3:16 PM

My boyfriend and I were happy as far as I could tell and I never thought that we would break up. When his cousin died in a tragic car accident he went back to Philippine for a week to be with his family. I could not go because I was in the middle of entertaining out of town clients for work. He did not seem to be upset that I could not go so I let him be. The next thing that I know, he reconnected with an old friend from high school that he had a crush on years ago and they started to have an affair! I had no clue what was going on until a month after he came back from Philippine.

He proceeded to see both her and I until I caught him texting her one night. I confronted him and he told me the truth about what happened. We broke up and went our separate ways. Neither of us fought for our relationship. I was angry and decided not to be upset about it and just keep it moving. Then after about a month of not speaking to him I became sad. I wanted him to tell me that he wanted to be with me and not her. I contacted Dr. cool from agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com for a love spell and he totally helped me! he was able to get him to miss me to where he wanted to get back together again. He had a lot of regrets and felt bad for not fighting to keep me and for cheating in general. He values our relationship so much more now and we are together now! You can also get your lover back with the help of Dr. cool contact him through agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com

emil

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, October 26, 2012 5:20 PM

I wrote something heartfelt and honest.

The last three posts are all reviews for a spellcaster- like a commercial advertisement.
If you read my post - I want real love - not a love spell.
The idea is ridiculous to me.
Spellcaster- I think I would have better luck hitting him over the head with a stick and dragging him home.

I read horoscopes and the like, because I have found personalities traits to Be very much like the horoscopes describe- not because I want to control a person or process.

Very Misleading-
Dr. Cool - you are a disgusting charlatan.
I will never return to this site!

Sarah

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Monday, October 29, 2012 2:12 AM

I dated a cancer man for about five weeks.  I met a lot of his friends, his brother, and was asked to meet his mother but I declined the offer.  We spent a lot of time together, up until one day he said I was too controlling and he stopped coming around.  At first, he would still call but give a lot of excuses as to why he couldn't come over.  Then eventually, communication was cut off completely.  Initially, my instincts told me there was someone else, but how would I know?  Was his feelings for me genuine?  Is it really over?

Latoya

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, November 01, 2012 10:00 PM

Listen up people! I only checked out this site in order to see what is said about the Cancer characteristic. I've had a crush on a Cancer guy for the past few months and found these postings to be very helpful in guiding me to just leave him be. He's very cute and can be very charming, but I also see hints of the other traits listed and now understand enough of it to back away very slowly, so not get stung! So, thank you all for that. Regarding the rest of it, though - the spells, for instant - I've got to say, please get a clue and run away from all this hocus pocus very quickly. Turn from the wizardry and read your Bible, please. Follow Jesus. HE is the ONLY way!! And for those women out their asking advice on whether or not they should ever ask a guy out - the answer is NOT!! If you ask a guy out, he will love it, no doubt, but he will also lose that genuine interest he would have had for you if you had allowed him to be the man and fulfill his place to chase you. You don't want to be with a guy because you made it a convenience for him. Eventually that will blow up in your face. You want him to be with you because he truly loves you and wants to be with you, thinking you sincerely worthy of his time. If you are the instigator, you take his "man card" away and will never know the truth of it. And if he doesn't chase you, he's simply not interested enough and isn't meant for you. Do not ever make excuses for him. One thing for sure is that people, no matter their issues, will go after whatever makes them happiest. Sensibilities cease and they simply do. Do not ever belittle yourself by going after him. You are a precious child of God. Respect the incredible individual you are in Jesus. Follow Him, let Him take over your life, and you will have more than your desires could have ever wished for. With God's great blessings and love.

Dee

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, November 08, 2012 1:11 AM

Great! So basically I'm FUCKED!

MissPisces

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Sunday, November 11, 2012 11:48 PM

This post was a real eye opener! I know now I have to let my cancer man go! I use to hear all the time that you can never get rid of a Leo, but we make the best friends! Well I'm finding out first hand you can't get rid of a cancer and the make the best enemies! Love em and leave em alone!

SJ

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, November 15, 2012 3:43 PM

What a load of mindless garbage, of all the information on the web that I have read about astrology, this has to be the worst description of a Cancerian man that I have seen and the most insultive.

Dave

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, November 16, 2012 5:27 AM

This is HILARIOUS! I laughed my but off reading this, SO spot on.

Shannelle

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Saturday, November 17, 2012 9:01 PM

The comments on this page is only like about 40% true. I base my opinion on life experiences.

ano

# 2 years of hell with a cancer @ Saturday, November 24, 2012 10:14 AM

Mine is a very complicated story, here goes...

I met a cancer 2 yrs ago as an escort...yes that's right, he paid to be with me.
At the time I was new to the whole thing but when I 1st saw him I was surprised as he wasnt what I expected as a client. I thought to myself " omg I would actually date this guy". The next day he called to set up a time and day to come to his home (a paid date of course). The next day I'm on my way to his place, my gaurds are up and I'm in "work mode".  I'm thinking this will be business as usual...no big deal...at least he's super attractive. It's a nice set-up when I arrive, candles, music, dinner,etc. I assume the next couple hours will be pleasant. As we're talking and vibing I start forgetting that he's a client, now it just feels like two ppl getting to know each other. He asks me why I do this and that sometimes the easy way isn't the best way, which is true but...circumstances. He tells me that he wished he met me another way, "but you never know..."

Anyway I end up spending the night, falling asleep in his arms. It was passionate, intimate and sweet minus the sex (long story). I felt so comfortable, safe with him, too much so. My head was spinning, WTH just happened here? I felt happy, giddy even! I haven't felt a connection like this since my first love...8 yrs ago! I couldnt bring myself to see another client. I texted him a couple days later and he replied he could no longer see me. My heart dropped, I forced myself not to cry right there on the street.  So now I'm sad and my bank book is taking a hit b/c I can't see another client, I just can't do it.

I see him two months later, I told him I liked him and that I can't take any money from him, he was ok with that but he was cold this time. A month later I see him again, he's warmer this time. It's now becoming a sex pattern which I expected. Even if he felt the same, what normal sane man would admit to those feelings right away considering the circumstance. A month later I stop escorting and start sensual massage (not great but an improvement). He seems happy when I tell him this. Over a period of time I would get random texts from him asking if I'm working and if so where or if I say I'm at work he'll ask what I do for work. Then he'll act like he wants to see me later and never does. I would randomly text him too sometimes I get a response sometimes I don't. Whenever we spoke it was about sex; how sexy I am, how he likes it when I do this or that (nothing vulgar), asking me for a photo. If I tried to not make the convo sexual it's like he would freeze up.

After over a year of this push/pull I decided to tell him how I felt, for real. He was touched and wanted to see me. I didn't let him though, I was afraid it was a sex thing and that would have killed me. Soon after, I stopped doing sensual massage and started legit massage/bodywork.  I strongly believe he started following me at this point texting and emailing about my services and what I offer, disguised as someone else. I dont advertise with photos but he knew my ethnicity and even emailed a photo of me to confirm he had the right person. Even called me once as if I wouldn't recognize his voice lol.  

This summer I just got tired and asked him how he felt about me once and for all b/c I was honest about my feelings from day 1. He said he thought I was hot and sweet and that's about it. He said he will leave me alone and asked me to do the same. I basically told him he was a selfish jerk and I wished I never met him. It's hard b/c the connection was sooo intense. I think I loved him, maybe I still do. I changed so much since I met him. I got baptized on 9/23 and now do real estate. Maybe that was the purpose of all this... Needed an inspiration  to change my life. It's so sad though, I initially changed so he would accept me, so I'd be good enough to be his. I met him in 2010 and it's been nothing but sadness, tears and frustration the whole time. I was desperate to convey that what I did for a living didn't define who I was. Was I successful? Who knows. Sometimes I felt like God was punishing me for what I did. Well either way he seems to not give a damn and wants me out of his life totally.

My mistake: I opened up too soon. I felt I needed to prove my worth, that I really am a good girl. I put forth the effort. I didn't let him do any work. I fell for my client :(

His story: young, attractive well to do business man. Divorced single dad and from what I've gathered, an excellent one.

Virgogal

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, November 27, 2012 1:57 AM

I was about to fall for a Cancer man, make it up to him.. but then I think - I'm not gonna dim my lights to make him shine. Either he'll be a one-time toy, or just straight outta my life. ladies,  no matter what guy, keep your worth and love yourself first.

Scorpio

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Saturday, December 01, 2012 8:07 AM

Well i am a cancer guy.. all the things written here is mostly truth. I liked the article so much. I am sensitive and i love to be loved. I care abt a particular person. But onething i keep my gf above my frnds and she is the most important part of my life. Last time a dated a Sagittarius girl.i expect more and want to be the attention of everyone. i loved her with my every drop of blood. bt she cheated me and was dating 3 guys at a time.i got them all and broke up with her after that. when i think someone is gone its true that i mean she is gone for good.never look back fr her and now m single. her memories still give me aches.tho i want sex too much am still virgin and i was kiss virgin until i was 21.now m 21yrs and 5 months.i m trustworthy and i dont lie at all. also i blv ppl without judging them properly. thats the reason to be hurt again and again.bt honestly i always liked to be said the truth and having no confusions.in my personal life i m so much egoistic and kinda short tempered.especially if someone flips me i cant take that easily bt dont tend to make harm to that person.cancer guys are kinda different and also they can change their mood in instant.cancer guys love their gf/wifes like a new born baby.as long as their gf doesnt make anything nonsense.they can b the most loving, caring and romantic guy in my point of view.it just like what i see inside me.and one thing cancer guys can change so fast.

But thanks to MsLisaM for the article. i enjoyed it. :)

Mahdi

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Sunday, December 02, 2012 7:26 PM

This is to the Virgo Woman in Love with the Cancer Man.

If any woman can make it work with a Cancer man.

It is a Virgo woman.

I am a Virgo.

They are my kryptonite.

Valerie

# Sagittarius Women Don't Mess With a Cancer Male! @ Friday, December 07, 2012 5:31 AM

I have been dating my Cancer male for 3 months and this article is right on point. I have seen every characteristic talked about here displayed in him. He is very moody and often confuses me in his feelings. He is secretive and will not let many people get close to him. One day it's love, love, love, and the next it's I don't feel like being bothered. He does things on his terms. He wooed me like a stalker with constant gifts, adoration, and attention at first. Now that he has me, the gifts have stopped and the attention is zero. Everytime. I want to break it off with him, it's like he senses it and treats me better. Idk, I'm thinking he is not the right guy for me. I'm a Sagittarius so we're not really compatible anyway. I warn you, if you are a Sagittarius Female then please stay away from a Cancer Male. Specially an undeveloped Cancer Male who has zero control over how he behaves and treats others. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!!!!!

Love Jones

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, December 07, 2012 12:36 PM

As a Cancerian Man, I'd like to know exactly how many Cancer men were the basis of your  article? By the sound of it, probably one and perhaps an eccentric one or one with just poor integrity. You have categorized us very harshly.  We do have trust issues because our intuitive gifts enable us to sense truth in others, even when they cannot understand their own truth.  We want deeply to trust and do get taken advantage of because we do not have lots of friends. This just creates the cycle of trust issues.  We DO feel very deeply, when we do risk to love a woman.  And the most painful LIFE TAKING & SPIRIT KILLING thing she can do to us is NOT talk to us, when we've fallen for her. I'd like to say that women have a responsibility to be clear about their wants, needs & desires...so many women expect us to be mind readers.  It's incredibly frustrating to be better read AND completely emotionally exhausting to be more in tune with emotions than most women.  A women is clearly demonstrating she loves us & has feelings with us, but she'd rather chase after tall, dark and ape-like than have someone who really knows how to love her. And when that 1 woman to whom all other women are compared rejects us, it can NEARLY kill us.

Beta Boy

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Saturday, December 08, 2012 12:25 AM

I am a virgo women who has been in a relationship with a cancer fir six years and I love this man to me his is the most perfect man in the world and spoils me with everything hes kind and generous and we have the whole package 2 kids a dog and a house I guess reverse phscology is key in dealing with a cancer because being in a relationship with them is like playing chess you just gotta be five steps a head and know your oppnents every move before they do it and can be a fairy tale with a happy ever after

mld

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Saturday, December 08, 2012 12:31 AM

i am a cancer male and i am with the dream girl of mydreams i love her so much and i want to marry her cause she is my everything and i think what you wrote on this site is a bunch of bullshit!!!!!

k

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, December 11, 2012 11:20 AM

he's an a--hole who couldn't love anyone and would have no qualms in making you fall over and over again, when he has no intention of catching you at all. Not even once.

I'm suffering my first heartbreak because of him. Actually not my first heartbreak... it's another fresh new heartbreak that comes from a series of heartbreaks he's given me in over a year.
he's the first boy i ever truly let into my life, and he's the first one to crush my heart into miserable little pieces. and just when i thought i'm at my lowest point, he'll give me false hope then snatch it away from me when i need him most. He's done it to me time and time again.
We started out as friends. We've known each other since we were in junior high. He's a year older than i am, and a classmate of my sister. I'm very close to my sister's classmates. but him, i never really gotten close with because he was the silent type. but since we're from a small town, we are acquainted.
fast track to after college... we both studied overseas and gotten real close because he took great care of me when i got dangerously sick. a strong friendship started to develop (at least from my end i thought it did). I came to regard him as the brother i never had. honestly, i didn't have any feelings for him then, other than platonic. our circle of friends knew we had a special bond. but just as friends. i felt like i could trust him with my life.
we've remained friends even after coming back home and through everything else. we didn't see each other often but we still meet through our group of friends and he's always been nice to me.
i dunno what happened a year ago but something just clicked in me. i fell for him. hard. sure.. i've had some inkling that he kinda had a thing for me, but i never really gave it much thought.
i think he started to notice this and started to toy with my feelings. i have been warned by our mutual friends and other friends that this guy loves to bait girls. he even told me before-quite proudly i might add- that he's got game. (asshole). He'd do the push and pull thing. He's blow hot then cold. push me away, then be all sweet the next. when i'm with him, i'm just happy to be with him. but i feel neglected. it feels like he's closed off. he never initiates contact. i feel so hurt and betrayed. What did i do wrong? I don't go gaga for him. I try to treat him the way i did before... but he's not the same way with me anymore. he'll say he'll meet me or pick me up but then ditch me at the last minute. He'll say, lets meet up and when i say, ok... he'll change his mind. WTF?!?! we know there's something going on but none of us acknowledge it. Should i confront him and let him know i like him? Is he waiting for that reassurance?
Should i continue to be my old self around him? Pretend like nothing is happening and treat him like the friend i thought he was (but try to be a bit less available to him)?
Or should i completely ignore him??
I know he most probably is bad news... but i can't let go coz i still think if we work out our differences... this has the potential to be something great.
i'm stupid. I know that. my friends who know about it and my family have told me that time and again. They say i should make him come to me. But i wanna give him a subtle sign that he's welcome because the last time we saw each other, we fought and i've ignored him ever since. (couple of months ago)
one more thing..."Cancer men seduce and they seduce those they aren't even interested in. They like attention (I'm saying this again) and they will be romantic, polite and sweet. But, if a cancer man is not interested in you, he's not beyond sleeping with you for sport." --- i think he's doing that to one of the girls in our circle of friends. (not sleeping) but i think he's seducing the girl for sport. (i hope it's for sport.) This upsets me to say the least. the girl is a doormat to him.

HELP ME PLEASE! because clearly, i need help. Im so stupid.

confused scorpio girl

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, December 12, 2012 11:28 AM

I have this cancer guy that I use to be in live with from homeschool. We were in love but broke up due to lack of communication. He went away for school to California. E haven't really talked to either in years but occasionally spoke through social networks nothing serious. Just recently like a month ago hecontacted me out of the blue and asked me for my number. We started catching up and been texting ever since. Mind you he is still in California. He is here now in Miami we have net up and seen each other. When I seen him it's like I wanted to do so much but it's like I had to read him. He claims that I have always been special to him. Whenever he calls me he needs nee to do something for him and I do it. We converse but nothing serious. Everything is sexual. He says that he wants to make me his wife but I don't know id that is True. He has me confused. Everytime he gets in my car he talks but nit much and he is always in his phone. Everytime he leaves nee he gives me a hand shake except for one time when he gave me a kiss. I'm just like erg he had me confused. And I think he talks to other females. I know fir a fact because I asked him but he says that it's nothing serious. We have actually had a conversation about being married and having a baby he says to me that I could be the one he could potentially be with to nurture his kids. He plays football back in Cali and once again I'm inclined to believe that these are all lies to keep me feeling wanted. Shit idk. But I'm really falling for him. He goes back to school in six weeks. How can I know id he is serious. And he claims that I never call him he texts me all the time says good morning and sends messages like I'm thinking about you. But I Belle he is doing it with other females as well. He still living the single life. I haven't told him gore I feel because I don't want him to think I'm moving tip fast

jasmine

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, December 14, 2012 12:44 AM

harsh words coming from Ms. perfect, just saying. tsk.

Fufucadalifuups

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Sunday, December 16, 2012 4:32 AM

I am an aries female with my cancer boy for 3 months now.
This is my first actual aries/cancer relationship other than being in love with my best friend who was a cancer for 2 years without ever doing anything about it.
Overall the relationship we have is good enough to stick around for now but I am constantly unsure. The moodiness kills me and I completely understand what was said about if they are in their mood they make it extremely clear and go out of their way to be annoying about it and in turn annoy you.
As most aries are I am not a very subtle person and put all of my cards on the table straight off the bat and make my emotions extremely clear using both actions and words. Therefore being with someone so contemplative and in their own head who needs to rethink and rethink before making actions or expressing theirself becomes extremely frustrating for me. That being said with all of our problems every time I try to break it off with him he clings to dear life and doesnt let me based on the fact that he thinks it will get better.
What I do feel is that he just kind of wants to keep things going until he can see someone new come along and then slowly cut me off until they become within his reach.

I dont know. I do have that exact same experience of being showered with affection at the start but then receiving nothing. BUT I did address this with him and then unlike my ex libra partner, he would take in what I have address and act on it. Eg, After me addressing his recent selfishness and lack of affection he then the next day bought me chocolates as a surprise and a very genuine one I feel cos what I would do when showing someone affection, like i feel most aries would, is straight off the bat be like LOOK I GOT YOU CHOCOLATES!!! SEE HOW GREAT I AM, whereas I was with him for a good 3 hours before he had even remembered to get them out. I feel it shows a sincerity in the action not that he was just doing it to get the reaction but to genuinly show that old affection.

He also very unlike my ex libra partner picked out an extremely thoughtful christmas present for me based on something I had merely mentioned a month prior.
So while I agree with alot of the negative things being said about the cancer male I also feel that you need to accept that they are in their own head and do feel alot more than you might know without them being able to reallty express it.

Call him out on his bullshit if he is being a moody cunt. That is what is best I have found. He is the quickest to get out of a mood if you just give him a little present or something and some quiet time to brood like a baby. Much like a child.. Exxxxtream chilishness.

At this point I am happy but who knows if the bad gets too bad, true to form as an aries woman, I will get bored of these moods and find someone or myself to give me what I want.

Proceed with caution ladies (or men) and just know when to leave and when to realise that he may just be overthinking therefor calculating recponces to things you decided on months ago.

Cel

# i love him sooo much @ Sunday, December 16, 2012 7:52 PM

ive been with my cancer for 6 months then we brokeup and he got a new girlfriend a few months after; HE RIPPED MY HEART OUT when he did that.. i used to text him every now& then to see how he was doing but he would just tel me to leave him alone.. i havent seen him in a year& him and his new ex went out for longer than we did. but isaw him for the 1st time a copule months ago and he was telling me he cut me off completely because it would be too hard to say goodbye& i used to see him every wednesday& tuesday night but he only texted me when he was outside waiting for me.. and he always tries to have sex and i tell him no, unless we get married and he recently said all he can think about is sex and that after we have sex he can think about other things.. him& his other ex didnt have sex and as far as i know he hasnt had sex for a year almost. so yeah everytime i see him he wants sex& iyelled at him and said thats all he wants from me but he denied it. we dont talk unless i text him first and he rarely ever texts me back.. and he didnt come down for my birthday last week but he did tell me happy birthday and some other sweet stuff at 12am right when it turned my birthday (: but ima a sagittarius so i know when somethings bullshit.. but i want so much to beleive its all real , he told me a while ago it will never work though but somehow i still have faith! lord knows i love him.. but hes in college and im still in high school but we have been talking since i was 15 in middle school. in our relationship i cheated on him PLENTY of times but i always told him when i did.. but by not having sex with him im trying to show him i changed and maybe that will want him to take me more serious and actually want a realtionship, but hes playing games with me now i guess.. and i dont know why but i have a good feeling he has another girl.. even though we havent talked recently i just have a feeling.. but i really want him back.. hes like my safe haven in my crazy life.. we have been through sooo much together , almost got shot, had a miscarriage, everything under the sun. we have been through hell and back but i have a feeling he doesnt really love me anymore but when i was with him a few weeks ago he said im the obly gf he has had that shows that i care about him& he was telling me sorry again for cutting me off.. i just dont understand.. :/ im now 17 and hes 19.

roo

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Sunday, December 16, 2012 9:22 PM

he was so sweet in the beginning and all of sudden filiped out on me then broke up with me then he deleted me off of his fb friends i cant understand what happened i wish i knew ..i really want him back asap..

coco red

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, December 18, 2012 3:01 AM

As a cancer woman finding my first ever cancer man so genuine and sweet as well as the mother of an up and coming cancer by..tnhese are all lies. Truth is cancer men AND women tend to ed rap. What I've all this sign stuff can be VERY inaccurate. I.e I was with a Scorpio for over a decade and he was supposed to be my soul mate according to the zodiac but in the end just gave this cancer lady some great memories, awesome sex n sensous lessons, children and even through the pain he caused and the emotionsl torment my Scorp put me through I've tremendously grown as a person. I don't now hate all Scropios nor would I dare do a blog about them and CATEGORIZE them all because of my one bad experience. The most important thing I could tell any woman is to have a life of your own. Make sure you are the main contributor to your own happiness. Don't expect a man to complete in that way but to compliment and make a dynamic duo. Allow the man to court you, no matter wth his sign is. That way you truly get to know him. Truth is no matter the sign. As I've experienced a few. If that man has not evolved yet then you will have a bad experience. No matter his sign. Aries, Leo, Pisces wth ever. So coming from this moon lady who will admit even she has many moods. Everyone who is truly READY for love wants love and as for this moon lady love does not scare me. At all. However, now I have evolved so my next experience will be even better and I have a good feeling its going to be with a cancer male who has evolved as well. Live, laugh and love. Hope that helped someone. Peace!

Sasha

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Tuesday, December 18, 2012 3:21 AM

qI meant to say up and coming cancer boy. As I have a son and that Cancers period get a bad rap. What I've learnedsorry spell check is acting up. Just wanted to as understood. Also would like to add. Im a performer. Im in a band. I go to school and I do have a social life and the cancer male who likes me loves that although he's a homebody more than I am when I'm not entertaining on stage or being entertained. My cancer guy finds our differences interesting and fun. As I am highly appealed by his more secure, stable and loving side. He's atpoint of his life where he wants to settle down and get married. Again we are both EVOLVED adults and cancers. That makes a world of difference folks.

Sasha

# I've been with my Cancer Man for 3yrs... @ Thursday, December 20, 2012 3:26 PM

Hello! I love your webpage about these moody crustaceans. I once fell in love with a Cancer a long time ago when I was 17...yes fooled it hurt but it whatever. Now I'm with one again and we've been going steady for 3 years. Love him to death but he does get on my nerves. Craziest thing is I must say is I'm more attracted to Gemini's. My first boyfriend is a Gemini and we were inseperable and the love making aweeesommme. Been with other Geminis same thing, but had to settle with my Crab lol (less schizo then Geminis) No offense if anyone here is a Gemini, I'm a Taurus. I've studied Zodiac signs and astrology for some time now and it does help to know what your compatible with.

Ashley

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, December 20, 2012 9:28 PM

Wow this sounds really on point.  I'm an Aqua woman and I just happened to fall for a Cancer man.  The sh*t hasn't even gotten off the ground yet and I can already see a lot accuracy in what you are saying.  But you know Aquarians though, we will close up shop and hit the road real quick and not look back.  But I swear there is something so captivating about this Cancer man - I think it's just the possibility of someone being so damn into you that they create this sort of fantasy in which you're the star, and what woman doesn't want to be swept off her feet and taken care of like a damsel in distress at least once in her life.  The Cancer man seems to be a master at this.  Let's not talk about eroticism, these men make you crave them and then it's like wtf where the hell are we in this thing.  But like I said, hell, I'm an Aquarius and I ain't got time for that shit . . . I gots to bounce, See Ya!!!!

Pretieyz

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, December 26, 2012 1:22 PM

Wow, how does this cancer man stay tuned to all these bad tendencies that I have and stop myself from wreaking a path of destruction wherever I go?  All replies welcomed.

Cancer Man

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Wednesday, December 26, 2012 4:13 PM

Woooooow you got my cancer dude to a.tee....im slightly confused however because we are.not in a relationship yet he wont allow me to leave him alone....Im sure.he has other women however when we argue and are on the.verge of giving up on each other he always reaches back out first....he just got out of a relationship 3 months ago so I know he.is not ready to jump into one just yet.....am I wasting my time or should I wait this out and see where it goes.

cajetta stephens

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Thursday, December 27, 2012 5:58 PM

I just started dating a cancer man...he seemed so into me and would text throughout the day...ask if he could call when he got home from bowling etc...3 weeks in and he seldom initiates texting. Doesn't seem anxious to call etc...
Has he tired of me?...do I just walk away... I am sad...he spent christmas with me...and even today in text he said he is happy if I am his...but I am not happy feeling ignored and the one to initiate texting etc...I want to feel wooed and pursued like he did just a week ago.

He bought me nice gifts and says all the right things just two days ago...I don't understand why I feel like I am the one suddenly pursuing him...

What do I need to change?

MC

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Saturday, December 29, 2012 9:38 PM

I can totally relate with this posting! Unfortunately, I dated a Cancer for 2 years.  This man pursued me for months and for some reason I wouldn't budge, but did eventually.  The entire time I dealt with him he lied to me, told me I was the only one he was seeing, come to find out many of the women on his friend'slist on FB he was sleeping with, he talked behind my back so much that his friend tried to flirt with me, and more.  Everytime I would try and leave him alone he would straighten up and lure me back in.  He told me he loved me over and over when my grandmom died he pops up and calls and tells me he stills loves me only to disappear not even a month later.  I tried to help him and stick by him through some financial mess he was going through and he would also cry broke and use that as an excuse for not taking me out, only for me to hear he took other women out.  Then, called to ask me for money instead of asking them.  When I got fed up and refused he totally tried to make me look like the bad person and cut me off told me he never meant what he said when he said he loved me.  The whole thing was and really still is a very painful, emotionally draining, nightmare for me.  I would cut an arm off for this man and he now treats me like a disease.  Just real cold,not engaging, ignores my texts from time to time,I found out he had taken a friend of mine out, and is flirting back and forth with her online,etc...  I am so over Cancers.  I am a Libra by the way.  

Kee

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Friday, January 04, 2013 1:19 AM

Wow. All I can say is wow! All texts above had me all in giggles and laughs because its so true about this CANCER man. I've dated a cancer guy about two years ago when I was a sophomore and HE was a senior. He was charming as fuck. We started in February near valentines day and he was so thoughtful. Made a deal to give a mix tape to eachothet and he presented me the most beautiful duct tape rose. I honestly felt like I was in a movie! It was that hopelessly-in-love, romantic type of thing we shared. Throughout the relationship, I felt like he was hiding things! I started getting really suspicious about him flirting with other ladies, but that was just him. I couldn't take it anymore of how I've been treated. Like I was no different from his friends, or other girls im his eyes. Meaning there wasnt any shown affection- no holding hands at school, no kisses, he didnt even tell his friends that i was his girlfrirnd :-( so I decided maybe we should just be friends... and just end things right there. Oh how he was truly devastated. I was too, at the fact that he treated me like an object. It was hard to tell him that we couldn't be together anymore because he was so goddamn perfect! So hot. So charming, might I add impeccably intelligent. But then he graduated and he still contacts me from time to time asking me to hang out with him. I just ignore it all because I don't have time to nurture an attention craving child. This sucks. But ya' girrrl has to learn how to refrain from the little playa'.

Moral of the story, cancer men are so hard to understand. It's like they've built this huge gigantic wall barrier between the  girlfriend and his personal life and dreads sharing personal information! Like WTF!

If he wants to play a game, he can play by himself.
Yours truly,
-Capricorn

Capricorn

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Saturday, January 05, 2013 7:57 AM

Your sexual appraisals are deeply offensive and wholly inaccurate. You people are a danger to the gullible.

Crabanova

# re: Cancer Men: Do's and don'ts @ Sunday, January 06, 2013 11:45 PM

stingy, cold hearted, cheater and liar.

GEMINI

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