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MsLisaM ~RelationshipRebel~

Teaching you to release your inner bad ass & have power in your relationship

Virgo Men
I have to say, out of all the signs in the zodiac this one is the most perplexing in a relationship. Virgo men are incredibly critical when it comes to themselves and that will spill over to their ,relationships. I have never met, nor read for a Virgo male that was happy in their current state. Living for the moment is NOT their strong suit and their minds are so hyper analytical they create more problems for themselves and their lovers than solutions.

A Virgo male is what I like to call "fire and ice". When they have an interest in a woman they believe in courting her. They may not have even spoken to her yet, but through his observations he has "summed up" just whom he thinks she is. He has created little scenerio's in his mind, and he's begun to write a script of the relationship that hasn't even started yet. He will woo her, be attentive, listen intently to all she says, taking notes and remembering fine details of all she says. He is a gentleman in every sense of the word. This man will make you feel as though you are not only the only woman in the room but the only woman on the planet as well. He's known for luxury, comfort and fine things. He will open car doors, pull out your chair, order for you, and even gingerly feed her ice cream. He will call the next day, send texts wishing you a "good morning", and he will be highly romantic. He sounds like dream come true. But remember, everyone has a shadow side and this man's shadow side is the complete opposite. Remember, I stated he has an analytical mind and he will over analyze and blow up even the tiniest of things.

Once the courtship is solidified and the relationship cemented and this man feels secure that you belong to him he begins to unravel it. He will dissect every aspect of the relationship, not so much to pick YOU apart, but because of his own critical nature of the self he tends to find fault with a great deal. He idealizes so many things, and you are NOT sticking to the script he wrote of your love affair that he tends to manipulate it so it follows said script. He will stop with compliments and now he will give "helpful suggestions" which sound a lot like demands and dissection of your entire character. He can be brutal with this and it can and will be wounding. Mostly it's wounding because before you could do no wrong, you were perfect, and now he's finding fault with everything.

The more you try to please this man, the more you will fail. He likes independent, yet domestic women. He loves sensuality, but not overtly sexual women. He loves a great sense of humor, but never at his expense. You must be intelligent, self sufficient and someone who is strong, yet he wants to be needed. He's a walking, talking contradicition. This is a man who wants it all, and he will refuse to settle for less. This is why most Virgo men tend to marry very late in life, or not at all.

Once you begin the tragic circle of jumping through hoops to mold, shift and change for him, he will lose a great deal of respect for you. He may become enraged when you stand ground, but I will tell you he will respect you for it. You never want to lose the respect of Virgo, for once you do, you lose their attention.

CONTROL should be a the middle name of a Virgo male. And many times in an effort to control aspects of their own lives they, in turn, attempt to control aspects of yours, though they don't see it this way. It's their life, you happen to be part of it, therefore you are subjected to their insatiable need for such control. That is how they view it. When you express your desires, needs, and wants, they will fuflill them only if it fits into what they want for their own lives. They appear to be very black and white thinkers, but I will tell you that under the surface you will never find another sun sign that worries, stresses or fears the worst than a virgo male. Their minds are constantly working on a problem, but their actions in fixing said problem in a relationship are limited, and if they can get YOU TO CHANGE instead of changing themselves they will always choose that option. They don't see what they are doing most of the time and how they have the ability to truly damage their lovers self esteem.

Virgo men are loyal, despite the bad reputation they may have earned. These men crave attention but the attention they crave is one that they are successful, helpful, respected, etc. It's not really of a shallow nature, though their vanity does tend to get in their way, and Virgo men embrace aging much like a fading movie star sitting in a botox chair...the fight it every step of the way. But in relationships, they may give you the illusion he has other options, and he may, but he is highly selective and may be venturing into more of an emotional or mental affair more so than a physical one. They don't bed a bevvy of women for instant gratification, there has to be more to it than sex for a virgo male.

They are also creatures of habit. I find them to be very predictable and ending relationships is not their strong suit. They tend to do so in a cut and dry manner, they shut down, withdraw and silence. They won't return your calls, nor your texts, but they won't tell you to "get lost" either. They tend to hold onto the past as they may regret their decision and want to revisit it. They are notorious for having explosive break ups, turning a tiny disagreement into a full blown brawl. They walk out, fall silent but make no mistake they are so sure of your love for them they will wait by that phone for the apology they feel they so richly deserve (even if they started the battle). As time goes by and you are not calling they become even more angry, bitter and resentful. But, and this is a big but, they are also known to reappear without warning, and attempting to discuss the issue long after you've moved on and forgotten about it. This causes many women bewilderment and they cannot figure out what the game plan is here. Is he trying to reconcile? Did he miss me? What's he doing? What he's doing is seeking validation that you are still waiting for him, and if you give him that, you will be placed back up on that shelf to collect dust only to be taken down and played with whenever he needs to feel secure again. It's a horrible catch 22.

What keeps a woman going back to a virgo man is when he's good he's amazing. But when he's bad he's the most heartbreaking of men. He can make you feel alive, desired and wanted beyond measure, then with icy silence cut you off and make you feel utterly disposable. I wish I could tell you he wasn't aware he's doing this, but he's well aware of it, and he's so caught up in his own emotions, wants, needs and desires that yours aren't even on his mind.

The best way to deal with a virgo male in a love relationship is to be honest, up front and stand for your beliefs. If he insults or wounds you try to remove emotion from it and speak matter of factly. Emotions don't hold a lot of weight and he'll see you as out of control. Be very direct and state your case. If he tries to engage in battle walk away! Don't engage. It won't be pretty because this man will pull out all the ammo in an effort to win this battle. He'll bring up your drunken mother, you're cheating ex, and how you need dental work. There is nothing off limits when this man wants to attack. Fight the urge to retort. If he starts to get nasty, walk away and tell him you'll discuss it when he's not being so immature. A virgo male hates to feel in inferior and when YOU are the more rational one he will stop his antics. If you insult him back not only will it get worse, but you will pay for it for weeks, perhaps months. They are like elephants, they never forget.

Secondly, don't give this man ultimatums. He doesn't respond to them, and if forced to move faster than he's comfortable with he will retreat and leave you behind wondering WTF?

Remember, he is an earth sign. He does not move fast with anything. This man is cautious, meticulous, a perfectionist, a bit OCD, high worrier, and critical. He takes great time and care doing every task from buying a home, marriage proposal to making a sandwich. It can be maddening especially if you're a fire sign and move quickly and follow your intuition. This man questions himself constantly so he won't move in haste. He is always looking for a better option, and he's frugal. He loves fine things, and may blow 10K on a gadget that is of quality rather than settle for something cheaper to do the trick. He's a hard worker, but he has spouts of it. He'll work non stop for 3 months without a break, then crash from exhaustion and hibernate cutting off everything and everyone to recharge. He doesn't give a warning, he just retreats, again leaving you wondering if you did something wrong. Only to reappear without excuse, apology or explanaion.

The best way to get along well with a Virgo male is to allow him the space he needs to do what he needs to do. Only lend advice when it's asked for (he doesn't take advice well). Stay true to your desires, for if you work your life around this man you will forever be doing so. Set boundaries with him. If he crosses a line with you, tell him blankly, and stick to it. He will challenge your boundaries. Be authentic. He won't appreciate a dishonest, phoney person. The best advice I can give is know who you are, know what you want, what you stand for and what you will NOT tolerate, because if you go into a relationship with a virgo male and you are seeking validation and/or expecting him to make you a secure person you will end up worse off than you were before.

Blessings, Lisa

Published Thursday, May 16, 2013 8:13 PM by MsLisaM

Comments

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, August 21, 2012 6:01 AM

I am a virgo woman and this seems to fit me pretty well also! LOL Thanks for posting!

Jenn

jenn82336

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, August 21, 2012 6:31 PM

Hi Jenn: Thanks for the comment.  Most virgo women are loaded with compassion that is authentic. Virgo women make the perfect hostess and lend comfort to many who enter her home (if they've been invited lol).

Blessings, Lisa

MsLisaM

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, August 21, 2012 6:42 PM

OMG!! This describes my boyfriend perfectly...He is a Virgo man and wow he is something hard to handle..As I was reading this I kept repeating "OMG" because you were describing him like you have known him forever..Thanks for this great insight...Now I know what I'm dealing with..

Many Blessings
msteresa

msteresa

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, October 08, 2012 3:56 PM

OMW... Virgo men are pathetic!! was engaged to one for 9months and NEVER again! most difficult, self centered and controlling people ever! Soooo glad i got out of it... YAY!!!!

Nadine

# re: Virgo Men @ Wednesday, October 10, 2012 5:29 AM

i've been seeing this virgo guy and i'm so confused with him. we have great chemistry when we are together - same interests and approach to life - so here i am thinking he's really interested in me. BUT the problem is on the continuity! He asks me out from time to time but in between the dates, he seldom texts me. Occasionally he does but the tone is purely friendly. To make matters worse, he is ok if I will date other guys, saying that he could look for guys for me as well! What the..? He even asked me to have dinner along with his girl best friend so I really thought it could lead to something serious but no, he does one thing like he's interested then the next thing it's very friendly. How will I know if he's REALLY INTERESTED and sees me as more than a friend? Or am I just wasting my time, hoping for a perfect ending with this guy? - Taurus Girl

carmel

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, November 02, 2012 12:42 PM

virgo men are schizophrenics. they will drive you to madness.

imane

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, November 20, 2012 11:28 AM

Yep, my virgo man is a "workaholic" who lives in a rural area. Grumbles about doing his shopping late at night to avoid people....lol

RDogan

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, November 22, 2012 10:03 AM

I have been in a relationship with one for almost four years and this posting describes my exvirguy exactly. I will never get involved with another one. They are truly insane and will drive you crazy if you allow it.

Janice

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, December 18, 2012 5:02 PM

IND THIS VERY INFORMATIVE. YET I BELIEVE IN UNCONDITIONALLY RESPECING ONESELF AS WE ALL ARE.AND SHOULD DO FOR OTHERS I AM WITH A VIRGO MALE I AM A FEMALE CANCER. HONESTLY I WOULD WANT IT ANY OHTER WAY WE KEEP EACHOTHERS ATTENTION.AND WHAT I MAY LACK HE ENSURES MI AS WE ASSURE EACHOTHER WE JUST FINE... I THANK YOU FOR YOUR GUIDANCE IN VIRGO MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS...... BLESS UP.

ANILUM

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, December 27, 2012 6:51 PM

I am absolutely flabbergasted. You are describing my boyfriend to a T. I am going to save this page, try your suggestions, and see how I get on. He drives me crazy but arty the same time, I'm crazy about him!

Searcher

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, December 28, 2012 2:14 PM

wow!! Right on point!

srty

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, January 01, 2013 7:04 PM

Absolutely spot on about my Virgo man, this describes him perfectly. He is adorable but VERY hard work, only around when it suits him and doesn't seem to have much consideration for my feelings/wants, but at the same time he is a very understanding and compassionate man. He is very independent and likes that i am too, he very much needs his own space and to be left alone to do his own thing. You have to be pretty secure that he loves you to put up with that, if you are unsure of his love you can be left feelings as though you've been dumped half the time as his disappearing acts are frequent, leaving you not knowing what the hell is going on!

It's incredibly frustrating and damaging and you're always left wondering where you stand as he doesn't communicate his feelings well, prefering non-verbal communication, he doesn't like 'small talk' and gets annoyed if you don't 'get' his little signs.

You need a LOT of patience to be in a relationship with a Virgo man, even when you really love him it's hard to know whether to give up and move on or hang on in there.

Good luck!

Cancerian lady

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, January 06, 2013 6:28 AM

Omg! You've described my on again off again boyfriend to a T! He drives me insane! It's so frustrating dealing with him sometimes but I'll take your advice and see it goes. Excellent article!

M

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, January 06, 2013 9:49 AM

Glad I read all of the above!  This explains what I would be in for,
and so far all my questions have been answered now.   I agree
Excellent article!

Re

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, January 06, 2013 1:48 PM

Provided insightful information on Virgo men, I should learn couple things from here with dealing with myself.

Virgo man

# Virgo man makes me feel insane! @ Monday, January 07, 2013 6:11 AM

My Virgo hubby and I have been together for 7 long years. He was everything I always wanted and more in the beginning. I was his princess and could do no wrong. He was a great Daddy to my children and loved going to ball games and helping coach their teams, ugh EVERYTHING HE DID, HE DID PERFECTLY! We had great intamacy, he made me laugh all the time, was full of adventure and fun! So of course I married him. Then it changed to the total opposite! Not immediately, but not long after. We have been married for 5 years now, and it's been a total heartache! I LOVE intamacy, I always am ready and willing for any kind of intamacy, want to feel close to him, loved and cherished by him, adored and all the things many of us ladies want from our hubby. No matter how many times I explain to him what I feel I need from him, he always says he doesn't understand what I want and then asks me what he can do to make me feel more loved by him. I am very open and speak straight with him. I do not throw hints or expect him to read my mind. So I'm left going, "Babe, I just explained exactly what you can do or what I would love for you to do." But he still acts confused. He's very smart, he catches on quickly to everything (except me). So I know he knows what do or not do.
Through our relationship I have catered to this man, loved him with all my heart, forgave and forgot when he did things that hurt me deeply. I have tried so many things, from "The Love Dare" to telling him I don't give a crap anymore, give up, and return the hurtful ignoring he does so well. I went the whole year without a gift or card or even an I love you on Christmas, my Birthday, and our Anniversary. And yes, I did give him everything and more for all of those holidays for him. The most I got was, "Well I'm sorry honey, I have no excuse for not getting you anything and now I feel like a shitty husband. I wished you wouldn't have done all this so I wouldn't feel so bad." Well, hang on, after Christmas, wouldn't he want to make sure my birthday was taken care of since he felt "so shitty"? Guess not! I do what he wants and he just wants more or I didn't it right, he's very negative, punishes me by with-holding sex, and there's more but too much to get into it all. I am a vey beautiful lady, I am sweet, nurturing, loving and see the best in even the worst of people. I know I sound conceited, but I am not. I promise, just trying to paint a picture for you. Anyways, I am 12 years younger than my hubby, I have loved unconditionally for many years, but I feel so burnt out that I am just here now, making the best of this. We have 4 amazing healthy kiddos. And I go above and beyond to keep a happy, steady, secure home environment for them. I just don't know how much longer I can go on like this, I'm exhausted, deeply wounded, and very ready to hit the road. But I do not want to rip apart my family as I fear it will affect my children the most.

Virgo's Wife

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, January 08, 2013 9:06 PM

Fcuk Virgo men! This sounds EXACTLY like the loser I know and I'm WELL over it! Blocking his calls (whenever he decides to make them again) and attempting to move on with life. So not worth the headache.

Over It

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, January 10, 2013 2:22 AM

I'm a Virgo man and after reading this I now know that I am destined to be single my whole life ( crying). When I am in a relationship with a woman of any sign I know I can get critical so when that happens I go and be alone for a day or two then I am fine. I have been into astrology for about a few years now and when I am courting a women and it goes further. I watch myself, because I know I can really hurt her feelings. When I notice flaws about her I find two about myself. What I am saying is if you are with a Virgo don't give up on us, because we are just trying to be perfect.

Skyler

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, January 13, 2013 10:40 AM

I've recently hooked up with one of those...glad I'm not interested in anything more from him than a "beneficial" friendship. I'm older,more educated,and better off financially than he is. So I don't "need" him for anything other than good company. Maybe that's why we get on so well,we enjoy eachothers company then go about our separate lives. We aren't even each others "type"! When we're together,it's great. The intimacy is wonderful. He said "I love you" even though he knows I don't buy that for a second. He's young,maybe he needs experience to be better with women in the future? I love trying to figure him out,and he thinks im fascinating. But I dont take crap from anyone. Dont play stupid games with me or try to start a fight. Cause I'll walk,but not without making you feel horrible first. I'm a Scorpio,we have a much worse rap than virgos do for good reason. He and I have an understanding. If he ever crossed a line with me,he's fired from my life without a second thought.

independent woman

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, January 15, 2013 3:27 PM

Oh f___ing great! So because I was born on Sept 2nd I might as well wash my mouth out with buck shot!, because not only have you described me down to every single last detail, but anyone who knows this may as well consider the VIRGO SIGN the mark of f___ing KAIN!!! Do you have any idea how hard some of us even try?? Reciprocation!!! It means everything to us. We don't like feeling like our efforts are wasted. We want to be appreciated! We are loyal to a fault maybe, but none the less. Well this at least explains WTF is wrong with me. Guess ill be alone till I finally pull the trigger, and stop the endless noise in my mind of wheels. Hey but thanks for the encouragement PENIS!!!!

BTW I proof read this three times.


Erric

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, January 15, 2013 3:36 PM

Erric....not only did your post make me chuckle hysterically, it's one of the things I may have missed when posting this blog.  A virgo  male, and even the females, have a very quick, albeit, dry humor that catches you off guard and can make you laugh til you cry or wet your pants.  Their sense of humor and ability to see the humor in most situations does make them rather attractive.  You must have a quick, intelligent wit to understand the virgo humor. But once you do, it's a masterpiece.  Thank you for your response Erric :)

MsLisaM

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, January 20, 2013 11:09 AM

This describes the Virgo guy (36) I have been seeing for 4 months down to a tee! Im younger by 4 yrs and right now we are on a "Break" apparently my texts were "smothering" him, I am not a crazy chick im a very loving Pisces and men usually adore me and are all over me..  I would text Virgo guy and ask how his day was he would get back maybe 6 or more hrs later and I understand he has a demanding job but I always reply to my text's right away but to him that is smothering. At first it was all wonderful he was attentive, told me he missed me when we was not together then after we was sleeping together a few times and I tried to get to know him on a deeper leval it went down hill.. Along came the control of what I should be doing with my life and the critical comments, ignoring me but then apologizing for ignoring me and replying with very short text's. Now its been over a week since he said he needed "Time" away and he has not bothered to contact me once and I have let him be, but he still checks in on me on FB with his "likes" on my status... so I give up! This man has had me in tears already his blowing hot and cold has left me so damn confused I just don't know where I stand!  I think he is not capable of showing his emotions maybe why he is 36 and still single! RED Flag right there, Im out! As good as it is when he is happy and attentive he is not worth the heartache when he dissapears and leaves you wondering what the hell is going on! I can't take this Virgo mans crap for the rest of my life!

Tori

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, January 21, 2013 12:32 PM

Doesn't matter if your man is a virgo, a cancer, a leo, or any other sign. Do not over extend yourself to anyone.  Do not make someone a priority in your life when they treat you like a convenience.  If you are not being treated well in a relationship, being dismissed, ignored, put off or simply kept in limbo then WALK AWAY.  Don't take it personal, simply take it as a sign this person is not going to give you what it is you need and want in a relationship.  You will save a lot of time and tears if you do not settle for less than you deserve. Stop waiting to see if it will get better. Walk away. If someone really wants you, they will wake up, and they will pursue you and change the ignorant behavior in order to mend what they have damaged!

MsLisaM

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, January 24, 2013 8:07 AM

It is unbelievable how you nailed my boyfriend.  We have been dating a couple months and everything was great.  I went to visit him for the weekend for the first time (he had been traveling 2 hrs to see me) and it was the worst weekend of my life. He was trying to be be "helpful" by saying he felt sorry for me because spin class is a waste of time, energy and money.  I got upset, then he proceeded to ignore me the rest of the night in front of his friends.  I confronted him once we got home, and WWIII happened in the living room.  The rest of the weekend was an extention of Friday night.  I havent seen him since, but comminication is slowly picking up.  I have mainly just have left him alone.  He said that its best for both of us for him hit the "reset" button before we see each other.  I was so shocked by the entire flip....is there any hope for him?  

Robin

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, January 25, 2013 9:18 PM

Wow. My first love was a Virgo. I was married to a Virgo. We r now divorced and my boyfriend is a Virgo. IM a passionate Leo who tends to be attracted to loyal hard working ambitious men, who turn out to be virgos. I love a man who loves me. Not that IM shallow. I just need.tiff be reassured that IM special, that I make him happy..it's so important that he tells me IM enough and in return I love him even more for loving me.gif who I am. And they start out this way every time.. But over time they become critical. I can tell when IM no longer what they want because they become distant and easily annoyed. It's hard for me to leave BC IM trying to figure out is it me or them. I have a hot temper and very emotional, so I usually end up doing all the apologizing. But after reading this article I feel a bit better knowing all that was describe are the main problems that trigger my emotions to begin with. Smh. Maybe IM not so bad after all.  :-)

jessica

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, January 26, 2013 1:24 AM

To the comment poster who wrote on Monday, January 21, 12:32pm, your message really struck a nerve with me right now in my life.  Thank you for taking the time to post... It's amazing to even find gems of blunt wisdom as commentaries to a random astroblog.  :)

Elle

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, January 26, 2013 7:29 AM

I had a fight aith a virgo men and asked for breaking up when i was mad.he refuses to see me now nor a sms reply.how can i get him back,lisa?

cat

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, January 31, 2013 10:46 AM

I don't why i attract virgos, i have dated several in my lifetime and it either never progressed or timing was off. I'm aquarius female. For the last 5 months i had been seeing my current virgo who i was so in love with and i thought he really loved me but at some point i guess he feelings changed or he was confused. i tried to break it after just a few weeks because he was not financially stable. however, he told me for the first time that he loved me and needed me in his life. but, he held this against me. Shortly after, he got a job and then lied about where he worked, and started communicating with a woman there. i noticed he was actn lil distant but usually receptive. looked in his phone & saw the texts. immediately confronted him. he didnt sleep with her because i called her also. so, i gave him another chance. a month later saw sexual texts from his ex who lives out of state. They were remenicing about past acts. I was emotional and tried again to break it off.  he said it was nothing doesnt mean anything and he loved me.  gave him another chance but last straw and in order to keep my dignity...i can not be with him any longer because he started texting my roommate who only exchanged numbers with him for biz reasons.  she told me he was comlimenting her and showed me the texts. nothing sexual but like he likes her and said he wud wash her car for free (he now has a car wash biz). even told her if she needed to move that she cud stay at his place...but with me he said it was not a good idea. i am deeply offended and i hate his f**cking guts.  i am an attractive woman never had a proplem gettn a man and am use to men that a crazy about me no matter whos around.  i so regret waisting my time and am deeply hurt and confused but i have standards and don't do cheaters and has high self esteem before now so I'm out!!!

San

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, January 31, 2013 4:45 PM

Wow I relate to everything on this page! Tori I feel you, I think what is so frustrating is that virgo men love passion, heat, fire, sensuality, and a bit of a spitfire for a woman. The PROBLEM is they can't handle it. If you notice all the women that have been "heartbroken" by a Virgo man all fit the same criteria. They don't go for the boring, simple and plain, HOWEVER that is what they really need, because that is who they really are.  So there is always going to be the push, pull, hot, cold. I have never in my life experienced such confusion, inconsistency , weak, but strong fundamentally smart, emotionally and spiritually bankrupt people in all of my life. If you are a person who knows oneself well, and is ready to roll meaning have something real with someone, it make it IMPOSSIBLE to have anything with this type of male. If you are  LIGHT thinker, feeler and you aren't super sensitive and albiet passionate then you can "roll' with this type of dude. So that is who they usually with end up with. I think it best to cut your losses and love forward..as hard as it is..I;m still very in love with mine..but the love is not worth the shitty feelings they insight. Bottom line...good luck ladies and remember love yourself more than a Virgo man.

Canerian Girl

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, January 31, 2013 4:45 PM

Wow I relate to everything on this page! Tori I feel you, I think what is so frustrating is that virgo men love passion, heat, fire, sensuality, and a bit of a spitfire for a woman. The PROBLEM is they can't handle it. If you notice all the women that have been "heartbroken" by a Virgo man all fit the same criteria. They don't go for the boring, simple and plain, HOWEVER that is what they really need, because that is who they really are.  So there is always going to be the push, pull, hot, cold. I have never in my life experienced such confusion, inconsistency , weak, but strong fundamentally smart, emotionally and spiritually bankrupt people in all of my life. If you are a person who knows oneself well, and is ready to roll meaning have something real with someone, it make it IMPOSSIBLE to have anything with this type of male. If you are  LIGHT thinker, feeler and you aren't super sensitive and albiet passionate then you can "roll' with this type of dude. So that is who they usually with end up with. I think it best to cut your losses and love forward..as hard as it is..I;m still very in love with mine..but the love is not worth the shitty feelings they insight. Bottom line...good luck ladies and remember love yourself more than a Virgo man.

Cancerian Girl

# re: Virgo Men (advice needed!) @ Saturday, February 02, 2013 8:46 AM

Ok everyone, I'm officially horrified, and need insight.

Here's my (already complicated) situation:

I've been casually working with this Virgo on a nonprofit. At the time, he had just moved in his girlfriend (whom he had been seeing for almost 2 years) and around that time, he makes the comment " I wish I had known about you before I moved her in." Obviously, my dirtbag radar went off and I let that cool down. Well, shit happens and we became more involved, got to know each other, and it turns out we have a lot in common. Im a creative writing/philosophy grad and he is also interested in those topics. Well, long story short, he leaves her and contacts me a week later. We have flirty texts back and forth, nothing huge, and those texts come randomly, like it will be once a day to once every 2-3. Well, we go on a date, talk, hug, and I go home. I didn't want to "give up the goods" too soon, and we do the random texting thing again for awhile, then he says," You should get a baby sitter a night early next week before I go to the academy." ( I have a 2 year old and he is preparing to leave for a career ''making or breaking' 5 week long training academy) I do and we have a MAGICAL night. Good talk, mutual admiration, which leads to him staring/kissing me all night and ending with sex...he was nervous and so was I (hadn't done that in nearly a year) but it was still very cute...cuddly and attentive. We talked about plans for when he gets back, etc, and sends me a good night text when I get home. The next day, he tells me he can't stop smiling and had a good time, and I try to talk him into seeing me again before he leaves (two days from then) and he says he needs to be focused on packing, which I can understand. 5 weeks without a phone and intense training is something one needs to be concerned about. We end the conversation well and flirty, but then he doesn't text me for those last two days before he leaves. I send him a "good luck this month" text on that Friday he was to go, and got no reply.

He is very attractive and knows it. I'm wondering if I am just a rebound he truly has no more intentions with or if that is all part of his "MO" as a Virgo, and is truly engrossed in the training. I worry that we slept together too soon, that I may have said something (I don't think I did) or what. He is currently looking to move on with his job, has been putting in apps to places, so maybe it was all meant to be just that night, but if so, why would he go through the trouble in serenading me all night and be so nervous? He acts like he likes me, but now I'm seriously second guessing it. All you ladies out there know my reserve, especially for a lack of communication after you sleep with somone.  Advice please!!!

Gypsy

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, February 02, 2013 10:19 AM

**^Also, he's really open about who he is, and how he is with women. He's admitted he's never been truly in love with anyone, and that his career is #1 in his life, but he's also very involved with his niece and is gentle. He says he likes the attention he gets from being flirtatous with other women and ( like me) likes to travel.  He is a Sept. 4th virgo, and from what I understand, this makes him more prone to be a scumbag? Lol I don't know.

Gypsy

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, February 03, 2013 2:36 AM

My virgo do dissapearing acts lies and cheats. We don't have sex like we use too neither he flirts and self centerd I know I have to leave cause it not getting no better. I be mad as hell at him but he manipulate me every time. He can't love me but he keep telling me he do I never stayed in a bad relationship like this before

scorpio girl

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, February 05, 2013 9:08 AM

Thanks for the insight Canerian Girl and well just like the books all say they dissapear only to reappear this just happened. My Virgo man came back after 3 weeks of not hearing nothing from him and only because I sent a goodbye email he gets back to me the same day confessing his love. Now he's been all hot on texting calling and seeing me even asked to take me away next month.  I expressed my being extremely hurt by his actions and just taking off and he said it was because he was feeling all these emotions and needed to make sure I was the right choice for him before he got more involved with me.  I think he respected that fact I left him alone with no contact in the 3 weeks and now he realizes what he has and got worried when I said it was over.  

Gypsy, my relationship with my Virgo started off same as yours texts all the time to dwindling off and I believe the communication got less frequent when they realize they like you and they need to take a step back and reflect on their emotions or they do the opposite and dive themselves into their work therefore shutting you out and leaving you wondering what is going on are we still seeing each other or is this over?  I do think if your V-guy was not interested he would tell you one thing about my guy is he is very honest and upfront.  I think if he did not like me he would have told me and not left me hanging for 3 weeks knowing nothing.  Give him time and let him be and trust me if he is not getting back to you he is thinking a lot about you and if he wants to be with you he'll be back!  I have a Sep 12th born son god-bless the women he may have in his life lol I had no idea how complex they are until now and I can see in my son already his Virgo traits.

Tori

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, February 09, 2013 9:12 PM

Ok I'm a Virgo male and I agree with some things on this page BUT I think what people fail to realize is that astrology is not end all be all. I've never cheated a day in my life, I'm INSANELY loyal, hard working, honest, and spiritual. Men are still MEN no matter their signs. Guys can be douchebags no matter their sign. I'm sorry to hear so many people have a HIGH disdain for us Virgo men but we don't plain nor simple. We love people who are unique, smart, emotional (for our lack of emotions), full of fire but can be icy, and someone who takes care of us. We want someone who is the yin to our yang...and vice versa. We want someone who is our opposite yet we're one in the same.

VirgoanMale

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, February 10, 2013 7:12 PM

Sounds like the guy I was dating, the best advice ladies that I can give  is pay attention to the signs, not just from a Virgo man but any man, KNOW YOUR WORTH!

tattilb

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, February 10, 2013 7:13 PM

Sounds like the guy I was dating, the best advice ladies that I can give  is pay attention to the signs, not just from a Virgo man but any man, KNOW YOUR WORTH!

tattilb

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, February 11, 2013 3:08 AM

He: Virgo with Sagittarius rising and Scorpio moon.
She: Scorpio with Virgo rising and Pisces moon.
Very compatible.  I have found that if I do talk to him about the things that are important to me he does what he can to make it right.  Because I recognise and appreciate his efforts we are strong.  I know he loves me because he would not give a flick about doing a thing for me if he didn't.  I love the fact that his past is his past no grey areas there.  Sure he may be sentimental but he is a realist. And he is generous to a fault with money and time and reliability.  He is a little stingy at times with his attention but I have learned not to ask, what is wrong.  That sure pisses him off.  His sense of humour is the most intelligent and surprising of anyone I have known. Just when I think I am invisible he says something funny that lets me know he has been listening very carefully and remembering too.  Yes, sometimes I think he must have someone else because he can be too aloof for too long.  When I have reached my limit I let him know and he will snap out of it.  Once I said to him,  WTF in wrong with you?  Seriously I would like to know.  To my surprise he loved it, his face lit up.  It is like he wants something real and in his face to snap him out of it.  He laughs when I get like that.  It is as if he loses interest if you are too obliging or agreeable.  He wants to be sorted out in a way.  Maybe that is the test.  The mixed messages are annoying and I do nail him to an answer if it is important.  If it is not important I forget about it.  If he tries to skirt around an issue with vague bullshit I call him on it and this too he likes.  Go figure.  I am crazy about my Virgo man and hold him in very high esteem.  He deserves it for how he is with everyone he cares for in his life.  It is true his sex drive is seemingly much less than other guys but when we do come together it is well worth the wait.  Sometimes I fantasize about leaving but I could not bear to miss what wonderful surprises my very special Virgo man has in store for me.  Now, if I can just get him to marry me.  

Beth

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, February 16, 2013 2:27 PM

Gypsy,
Virgo men love for you to acknowledge them.  Mine travel often  and believe me he got your msg and appreciates it but he is focused and need that time.  He need reassurance hat you understand his needs and that what he does is important.  You often have to let him know that he's doing a good job and that you see his efforts.  I think love to a Virgo man is respect, support, & space.  You have to know that he loves you or cares and remain confident.  We talk and often its about him but he hears between the lines (the things I mention of myself) and remembers. He may not act immediately but he will acknowledge you when time allows. Control is his thing but the purpose is to know your needs and desires and provide for them without you having to ask.  I spend a lot of time away from him but he is deep enough to stay connected.  I didn't know I knew him so well.... hmm

Candis

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, February 16, 2013 6:14 PM

Omg ...this describes my Virgo perfectly!!! Normally I'm emotionally strong and can handle pretty much anything..(Taurus chick) but this man drives me nuts...constantly pushing me away then pulling me back..nothing is EVER his fault and he is sooo verbally abusive! Nonetheless I love him and I know there is more to him...at least I hope. It's a battle all the time yet the love is there. It gives me hope that there are others dealing with the same thing...because God knows I'm ready to wash my hands with him..

monica

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, February 18, 2013 2:58 AM

I am virgo man, and i must say this is most exact article i have ever read.

Sad but its true...and it's not intentional.

OCT

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, February 18, 2013 12:25 PM

I'm a Capricorn, few months ago felt in love with a Virgo man. But after reading the article I've noticed many common things with our relationship. So, I'd better to get our of it asap...:-) But so much love him................

Natalia

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, February 18, 2013 7:42 PM

I am a 20 years old leo woman completely in love with a 21 years old virgo male. He first initiated in the beginning and started to become cold. Then i initated when we go out. I felt so connected with him and he always give me those shy side stares when i am not looking. He makes me feel like the only woman that exists on the whole planet.But he shut me out for the last 3 months. I completely dont understand why and how it happened. Everything was so perfect the first 4 months. Now we just text sometimes and a few times he doesn't text back. I feel that he is avoiding me. I pray for him everynight wishing him well. And now i feel so tired of waiting with patience. I am not sure if he wants me to hold on or let go of him? I truely love him. Please tell me. Should i send him a letter? Please give me advice i feel so depressed.

NSCC

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, February 19, 2013 7:01 AM

hi all. i find it sad to read all the bad comments about virgo me. im a virgo male born Sept 1. to b honest the article is true and it made me cry. i know we behave crazy, odd, hot, cold, princes, devils, angels and demons. i have had 3 relationships and all 3 failed and i blame myself. i know i was a douchebag-emotional, sometimes distant. but thats the thing when i want to be alone noone wants to give me that and thats wat annoys me and where the trubl starts. i have to shut down my facebook, twitter, whatsapp and even change my sim card. All i can tell yu is this, we want to be alone bcz we feel like shit, bcz something is depressing us, bcz sometimes we jus soo tired of GIVING AND GIVING till theres nothing for us left to give to yu or me. i dissappear bcz i want to recharge and feel alive again. its sad that the women blame themselves and are confused by it but i understand how yu feel. if i was in yur shoes i know i wld freak out. pls dont blame urselves its not fair on yu. we love hard but burn out and need to refill the tank. its jus in the process we leave carnage.

victore

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, February 19, 2013 8:02 AM

To NSCC.
Sorry to say, but the most probably he does not love you anymore.

Natalia

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, February 19, 2013 8:02 AM

To NSCC.
Sorry to say, but the most probably he does not love you anymore.

Natalia

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, February 19, 2013 8:05 AM

To Victore.
Poor boy....I love you...:-))))

Natalia

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, February 19, 2013 12:44 PM

so true everything about Virgos.
I have finally figured mine out.
The only I don't understand is, that ok, they want to be understood and supported but it is very hard to do when they don't really ask for it and appreciate it. For them it's given.
When they don't feel like hanging out with you, talking to you, they hide. That is rude.
I understand they need their space and time and so on. Just say it then!!!
Why leave people hanging and expect them to read your mind???? I think it's inconsiderate.
Another person may think million other things that happened and move on with their lives.
Only the very loving and strong and patient ones stay with Virgos or the very weak ones.
The weak ones they use and abuse and control.
The strong ones they can't control and it frustrates them.
Virgo man will never change. That is the conclusion I've come to.
If you ask him to let you know when he want to retreat, so you know that he didn't disappear from the face of the earth, and even if you ask it ten times, it will not happen.
It's like they will do anything but what you ask them.
Loving a Virgo man is putting your heart and life on hold. It probably will not get you far and you will never feel really loved in return.
Virgo is too set in his ways to change anything about himself, ever.
And that is sad. They know it too. But still - will not budge. And they will let life and people pass them by and they will miss out on a lot.
I guess, they are better to be left alone in their misery than to drown in misery with them. Only very strong people survive next to likes of him.
I haven't totally given up on my Virgo, but I don't have any expectations or fantasises about him ever changing, I take him as he is and am being myself. I don't care if he likes or not, the worse you can do is to try and please a Virgo. Unless he idolizes someone without really knowing them, he is going to find fault.

Cancer woman

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, February 21, 2013 10:52 AM

I'm fresh off a split with a Virgo man.  I can't even call it a relationship because in the 1.5 years I've known him, he could never tell me how he felt about me.  That really hurt my feelings.  He's stopped communicating with me 3 times in the last two years and I've had enough.  The first time according to him was because the job he had for 15 years let him go.  Understandable, but he failed to mention another woman was involved. How do you loose a career of va jay jay? Like an idiot, I let him come back.  We live in different states, he came to visit me for 3 weeks.  Ate up all my food, ran up all my ultilities.  He did everything in his power to seperate himself from me. I sat and watched him wire money to some woman on FB that he doesn't know personally because she was robbed, but had to chase him down to help with the electric bill he helped increase. So I asked him to verbally tell me where we stood, I needed to know...SILENCE. Nothing until 4 weeks later.  WE had nothing else to discuss IMO.  To my surprise he sends me an expensive Christmas gift and says "just when you think you're done with me, I surprise you and do something like this". I wasn't impressed, I didn't want him to feel like he had me again so I bought him tickets to see his favorite comedian (which btw he didn't go to and no they weren't refundable).

These last couple of months, I've been going throught the health scare of my life that he knows about and where is Mr. Virgo?  No where to be found.  He's used me and abused my feelings and I know it's wrong, but I would pay to see the look on his face when he finds out he's been blocked and barred from contacting me by text, phone, email, mail. Good Riddance Arsehole!

Dab

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, February 22, 2013 11:55 AM

Listen ladies, and hear me out. I've grown up around nothing but virgos all my life and I attract the men like magnets. I've been dealing with one for 3 almost four years and he chases now more than he did then. The key to keeping these men in check is to NEVER want them. That's right. I think they are pushovers. All of them. The more promises you break, the more they chase you. Anytime you need money they will supply you. Trust me. I'm a Lioness so my attitude is fcuked totally up. They like niceness in a woman but they love women who aren't sexual by nature. This is who they adore. They're crazy clean and very good with money. They're emotional but try to hide it. Have you ever left one? Ha! They're suckers. Just don't ever love these dudes I can't say it enough. They're women with emotions. Try it and bet u all be amazed. Key words, be sensitive, always be polite and say thank u, and disrespect them, and ignore them . I can't stand these bastards in reality.

Amerea

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, February 22, 2013 11:57 AM

Virgo need to be needed. They like it when you're in distress and they rescue u. I'm lazy so they're my perfect match because they complete where I just don't give rats piss

I forgot

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, February 22, 2013 7:44 PM

I am so glad I have found this page.  The post and the comments give me a better idea of what I am dealing with. Supposedly Cancer Woman-Virgo Man are a good match?. I think not!  I started seeing a Virgo man not long ago. In less than a month he has shown practically all the traits described here.   At times I feel like running in the opposite direction as fast as possible!.  He doesn't know me that well and he is already trying to tell me what to do ~ he has also defined me. WTH ? Really?.  I am nice and patient but I do have a limit.  I am taking Amerea's advice and will not take his BS.  Many men in his place would treat me like a princess.

Anais

Anais

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, February 24, 2013 2:14 AM

We agreed that we won't contact each other again as our relationship did not go well. But we are still in love. I miss him a lot. It's almost a month past since the last contact. Will he ever phone me again?

Natalie

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, March 02, 2013 9:42 PM

I met a virgo men and this article describe him to his teeth. He will open car doors, pull out your chair, call me and text me every morning and night. I fall on love with him,  but he start to tell me that I can't go out with my girlfriends and want me to spend all the time with him.  He told me that he want to be with me and he loves me with all his heart. well he got sick and all the week I after work I take care of him, bring food, or take him wherever he need to go. the Friday we got in a argument, but I still next day I when and see him. I told him that if he need something to call me, but I need to do some repairs in my house, but sunday I be back for him and take him to my house to see the superbowl and spend all day together and I left. the night he call me and told me why I don't call him and I told him that I will see him tomorrow, he told me that he thinks that is better to end the relationship and hang up. I was speechless, but I said I going to give him time to think, so I don't call him on sunday, but on Monday after work I when to his house and speak to him, by my surprise he got his ex girlfriend and start throw on my face that she came to take care of him and that it was to late and I need to let go for now. I was very devastated about this. I just walk away and is been a month since I see him. I don't get him, maybe that was the excuse for him to go back to his ex girlfriend, now she is leaving with him. I feel used, he broke my heart and now Im trying to get my life back.

cancer women

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Angela

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, March 14, 2013 7:06 PM

I'm Scorpio III dating a Virgo I dude. I like him a lot, thus far. We met online and wrote epic messages back and forth for about a week. He quickly wanted to begin speaking on the phone. To my surprise, we continued having great conversations.

We've been out on several dates. We're both artists. He's 6 years older than me. He's traveled a lot and I want to travel. We both love food and talk about cooking. We talk about these sorts of things quite a bit. I am really enjoying our time together.

We had 3 dates in one week, which was the second week of our talking. I was so flattered! I was having a great time getting to know him. He's not rushing things by physically taking it too fast, etc.

The downside: he cancelled on me twice already. He blamed work. He seems like a bit of a workaholic. When he cancelled on me, I cancelled on him a few days later; it only seems fair (that's my Libra rising talking).

We're going out tomorrow. This is going to be interesting. At this point, I feel very affected by him. I feel very strongly about him. I'm either going to fall head over heels and want to marry him or throw him out the window. Wish me luck, peeps. <3

kho

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, March 15, 2013 2:31 PM

True, I am virgo guy, and although we stick to our partners for good or bad, we are capable of cutting them off so quickly without any emotions. Dating fire signs was the hardest, such spirit and individuality which I appreciated. Yet fire signs keep their egos high, and that can piss a virgo off, we hate ego driven people because we have natural tendency to challenge them, since we know we can win intellectualy if not spiritualy. But seeing them burned in their own flames once cut off by a simple and humble virgo makes me wonder whether we are so complicated or other signs are just so....unperfect

virgo_guy

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, March 16, 2013 9:36 AM

@ Virgo-Boy
Humble Virgo...fire signs so 'imperfect?' I hope that's all laced in sarcasm. And I don't understand why it's considered "noble" to stick with one's partner (good or bad) when they are easily dismissed by a Virgo. To me, that reads as a lack of gumption and character.

GypsyJo

# Virgo man, Virgo woman roller coaster @ Sunday, March 17, 2013 1:34 PM

Virgo and Virgo roller coaster

Oh my gosh, I had to post. No matter what anyone's says if you have been involved with a virgo male a lot of what has been said you know to be true. I'm a virgo woman who has been dating a virgo male for 3 1/2 years. We have just spit up (Or have we who the F knows) homeboy is officially loopy. I've known that's since the beginning and its been an uphill struggle.

In the beginning he demanded to know if we were in a relationship after 2 weeks, said he was looking for a wife date 2, said I was everything he was looking for in a woman and I make him want to things with me he as never thought about doing with anyone else - then he tried to breakup with me a month later because he was due work abroad for 3 months and was convinced I wouldn't wait..CRAZY. I dismissed that idea and needless to say the job fell threw.

Skip many years on and I've dealing with his scorpion tongue, childish tantrums and control issues which range from having an issue with where I place my phone to how many times I go out with the girls. Oh and the constant accusations of me cheating which has NEVER happened. He doesn't communicate well so tend to bottle things up then we have a blow up sort of breakup and he doesn't talk to me. I always ave to initiate contact with him and start the process of reasoning with him as to why this s all very stupid. In the past the has only lasted 2 weeks but this time it's been 2 months... He just needs to relax I've learned alot from the various blogs and sites about how to deal with him and I've told him honestly how much I love him, will never hurt him, how fiercely loyal I am and how I will fight to death for him... He now processing sigh we shall await the outcome

But if anyone has any advice ill take it

Patience of a saint

# re: Virgo male and Taurus women @ Monday, March 18, 2013 6:19 AM

ok i have a different story but it falls in line and I just need some straight advise. I was in a serious first relationship with a virgo from the age of 19 to 21 I am now 42 years old married not happy and for the past 5 years this man has been on my mind. I have never forgot about him I just learned how to live without him. The truth is I got into a relationship with my current husband to try and move on from my virgo man. He made promises that we would one day get back together we will grow old together. he married a girl that is so different she appeared broken and really messed up. I could never understand how she attracted him, his friends and family could not stand her, and even now 20 yers later when i talk to old mutual friends they are like no one talks to that guy ever since her. we were so in love and I have never felt so loved appreciated respected taken care of, as i did with him. Truthfully I want to contact him I want to send him a note telling him how he effected my life tell him how much I apprecited the experience, I want him to know that he truly showed me what it is to be loved and above all else I have never loved anyone like I loved him and I dont think I ever will. Remember I have been struggling with this for atleast 5 years I think about him all the time, I remember things like they were yesterday when I think of him. I remember the way he smells everything I feel like either I am loosing my mind or I need to reach out to him even if he just ignores me. What do you think should I do it. I am not trying to break up his marriage, i know his wife who is the same girl he left me for is a little off like when I say she is a wierd one I cannot even explain. FOr example when we broke we were going back and forth for some time. This girl corned me in the bathroom of a club and said " you know he loves you and it is only a matter of time before you and him get back together" oddly it was the very same thing he said to me weeks prior. But what kind of person does that? I never understood it. Bottom line should I continue to suffer in silence with these memomories and visits from him in my dreams at night. Is this karma trying to tell me to reach out to him or am i just mad crazy your thoughts please. I cannot talk to my friends about this I think that they would think I am mad. After all its been 22 years I really should be over this help please......

marie

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, March 18, 2013 8:19 AM

Marie,
You could drop him a line leaving out the emotions and intention, just to say hello and re-unite (via Facebook or other).  Keep it casual and see what happens.  You should expect, though, that no matter what anyone thinks of his wife, she is still his wife and you can never know what really goes on inside a marriage.  They have been together a long time, too, and time will have changed you and him as well. Therefore, I would go in with little expectation, more to say hello and put your mind at rest.  Then, if something progresses because it was always meant to be, it will be.  If not, then get on with tending to your own happiness and your own marriage.  Be very careful not to lose your head or to bring unnecessary chaos into your life.  Life shouldn't be a soap opera, but we also owe it to ourselves to be happy and to remove our own doubts.  Enquire with caution and without losing your head.    

Helen

# re: Virgo Men @ Taurus women @ Monday, March 18, 2013 9:30 AM

Thank you for the response that's excellent advise and I know you are so right about his wife. the unfortunate thing is thou to get in contact with him would be simple if he had a social media account like facebook etc, I have looked but nothing I contacted his family members who we were close on Facebook but they are so tight lipped about him. I dont know if they too as well as friends do not really talk to him or if they are trying to tell me to get lost LOL. I just wish that I knew what the right thing is to do. Yes a part of me still wants to be with him, and I know that we both have proabably changed immensely. It is just that I still feel so deeply for him I dont know if he hates me or something why it seems so hard to get ahold if him. Or has he turned out to be one of the controlling abusive people why he has secluded himself from friends etc. I will have to make such an effort to get in touch with him that it will take a lot of thought. I know where he works so I was thinking of mailing him a note marked confidential that seems so risky, but point well taken take all the emotional stuff and keep it friendly and casual yets

marie

# re: Virgo Men @ Wednesday, March 20, 2013 2:49 PM

Wow, what a text! I am fascinated by you insight.

My ex is a Virgo, I am a Sag and after all the courting and romance, just a few weeks into the relationship I felt like I was suffocating.

Remember the Groundhog day movie, every day the same old story over and over again?

He was so conservative, stubborn and critical! Not open to new ideas, cynical, always talking about himself and some petty problems. The kind of problems I would resolve in 5 minutes!

I had a very very turbulent life, lived in a country with war, lost a loved one, got divorced, been a single mom etc etc.  

I got depressed being with a guy so narrow minded  and just told him that he had qualities, but I just was not the woman who could appreciate them... My ascendant is Libra, so I am after all I am kind of an amateur diplomat :) Also did not make him suffer to much... We kind of stayed friends.

Friends without benefits of course, since even the joke about the subject made him nervous.
Not that I am into that at all, but had to excuse myself for the silly and childish joke about the subject, which I made in the first place just to relax and de stress the atmosphere. Of course just made it worse.  

Life is to short to be with a Virgo. Mea culpa, Mea culpa, Mea culpa...

bixi

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, March 21, 2013 9:04 PM

With a virgo male. For 2yrs. He is 56 and I m 42.  I'm a Leo..this all wants to make me cry.

Dn

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, March 24, 2013 6:01 AM

I am a gemini female, about 6 months ago I split from a 4 year relationship with a september 4th virgo male. When we met I was 19 & he was 23. Our relationship was insane, we spent 2 years together as a couple and 2 years living together as ex's because I cared and still had feelings. This article is really intense for me because it describes exactly how he was, in fact he might have been even more cold and sociopathic then the average virgo male. I can't blame all the issues in the relationship on him, I was young and immature when we met but it was very obvious to everyone we knew that I loved and cared about him and in the end I couldn't have felt more betrayed and used and I honestly don't know if any of his feelings towards me were real. When we first got together he was an angel the best boyfriend I had ever had, and withing 3 months of us being together we were living together, then he lost his job, and his car. Things went from perfect to shit pretty quick and I had resentments towards him because he was such a bum but I was always open and honest with how I felt, he just never made an effort to change the situation and all I ever did was bust my ass to try and take care of both of us. Unfortunately for me he was my first love and because I respected him so much I allowed him to pick me apart and try to change me, which caused issues because although there were aspects of my personality I needed to work on, he was so mean to me about everything that he found wrong with me, that I became an extremely self conscious person. He convinced me that all our issues were because of me and my insecurities but the truth of the matter is, he was the one who was insecure and looking for attention and approval from other females behind my back. After he was exposed doing me wrong he always looked for things I had done that he could try turn around on me, but he was just wrong for that, I never cheated, betrayed his trust, or did anything remotely sneaky. I am super loyal. We broke up for about 3 months because he was causing me a lot of anxiety & I no longer trusted him. I never felt pain like the first time we split. After 3 months he came back. When we were broken up he hooked up with a bunch of sluts and actually lied to me about a lot of the details, which shouldn't even matter because we weren't together. The whole 2nd attempt of us "being together" was me being the best girlfriend in the world and just trying to show him I wanted to make it work all the while he was shitting on me and excluding me from anything remotely fun that he would do. If I ever was moody or bitchy I always apologized 100X over because I seriously adored this man, but my apologies never meant anything to him. He always told me actions speak louder then words but all his actions ever showed me is that he was physically attracted to me, and not much else. We broke up yet again because of jealousy issues due to the fact that my trust had been broken and never repaired. He didn't care if he earned my trust back he said it himself, so why be with me? After we were no longer together we still lived together because I still loved him and I couldn't bare to make him man homeless. After working hard to get out of a bad situation I put a roof over both our heads and STILL tried to work it out between us. For 2 years this went on and a lot of drama as well, I let him shit on me tell me he didn't want me, that we only still hooked up because we live together and he was looking for attention in other places as usual. All the while claiming he loved me but he wasnt in love with me. There was a point in time I decided I needed to start living my life for myself again because he clearly had no interest in working it out, and I had to accept that. Finally as I start to have my own social life again and go out with my friends so we weren't always together. Once I make plans to move out he wants to have a heart to heart with me, and tell me he still has feelings and that there was always potential to work it out, but i had to change. I had already changed into a much better person, and I was done working on us at that point, I was solely working on me, for me & not him. I simply requested space, I still loved him and honestly at that point I wanted space to clear my head #1 and #2 so he was forced to stand up on his own 2 feet before I could consider an us again. No 23 year old should be supportings a 27 year old man. After I move out we both told each other we loved each other, that we would be friends and keep in touch. 3 weeks pass and I felt something was up with him, turns out the day after I moved he started talking to some girl who lived upstairs in the house I rented a room in when we were living together. They started hooking up right after I moved out and now they are together, they live together, and he has a job. This experience has messed me up emotionally, I can't see myself being in a serious relationship for a LONG time. I have grown into such a positive happy appreciative person since I left him. All the mean nasty things picking me apart and trying to make me feel like a shitty person when I was so giving, has made me so humble. I don't know if that makes sense, most would be bitter, but I am just happy to not be going through it anymore. The last 4 years of my life have been hell and I can't help but shed a tear reflecting on all the craziness. I would never in my life think about taking him back but as messed up as it sounds, I still want his friendship even if we didn't hang out just chat about how things are, I am still interested in his well being. I have grown past it, I just don't think he has (which makes no sense). At this point in time I don't think we will ever be a part of each others lives again & that's his doing. Still treating me like the bad guy, figures.

Sarah

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, March 24, 2013 5:21 PM

I love my Virgo Lover he is 7 years younger than me and we are getting along very well. We have been together for 4 years and although I am older than him he asked me to marry him!I am Pisces
and I adore him in a way you wouldn't believe!I give him his space when he needs it!When you are mature enough to understand his personality you will enjoy the best part of him!He can be very loving and the best lover you can imagine!

M&M

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, March 26, 2013 9:18 PM

Wow! Very help and most accurate. I have dated 3 virgos.

twinks

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, April 09, 2013 5:59 PM

To the Virgo men who have posted:

I am sorry that the above post has hurt you and appreciate that you acknowledge whatever truths are in it, despite that it hurt you. I am a Leo dating a Virgo and my advice to Virgo men is to communicate. We get that you need to take a breather (there is a great deal of literature which suggests that men in general require space) but you still need to convey to your partner that they are cared about.

Also, if you didn't persistently insist on standing your ground in areas that you know are hurting people perhaps a lot of these women wouldn't be so hurt or disgusted.

The most hurtful part of my relationship is the lack of feelings. It doesn't matter what I say or do, I cannot break through and it will ultimately be the end of the relationship. I am an extremely loyal person who would never walk away but I have told him, in detail, what bothers me and the more I tell him the more he seems to do it.

His own stubbornness and pride will be the end of the relationship.

allycat

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, April 09, 2013 6:17 PM

To the women on here who are heartbroken and waiting:

If you are, like me, spending the evening researching for answers online for why you are being treated badly then it is probably time to get out. I sit back and wonder "Am I really so desperate?" I shouldn't be reduced to making excuses for my partner by likening selfish and hurtful behavior to his astrological sign.

At the end of the day, I deserve to be respected and loved. I do not deserve to be left hanging while he spends days figuring it out. I do not deserve the cold and aloof. I do not deserve the intentional 'forgetfulness' of every holiday or event imaginable, etc.

Women, remember that we have been treated like second-rate beings for too long. We are not asking for daily (or even yearly) outrageous displays of affection, but simple gestures. I know that my Virgo man is excessively cheap and yet he doesn't mind one bit if I foot ALL of the bills, so, at least get me a card on my birthday.

Reciprocation was mentioned in an earlier post and I say "Exactly". I put out way more in communication, affection, SEX (although I truly don't think he gives a whip about sex at all), gifts, household chores, money, etc. It's bull. If this is your situation, don't be searching online for excuses for a man who is using you.

Get back what you give, or get out.

No man is perfect but decide what you are willing to live with and what your bottom line is.

There are men out there who will appreciate and cherish the love that you have to offer. EVERYONE can find someone that finds them desirable and worthwhile. You will never be so terrible as to deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel unloved or unimportant.

allycat

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, April 11, 2013 7:24 PM

@lisa...did your virgo man ever get back to you

Lisa

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, April 11, 2013 7:26 PM

Elle....did your virgo man ever get back to you?

Lisa

# re: Virgo Men @ Wednesday, April 17, 2013 2:02 PM

***Sorry for the length, but I wanted a well informed response, thanks for reading***
Very good article, firstly. Unfortunately I don't have any insight to add to this Virgo mystery. I am actually looking for insight from any Virgo males (over 35 y.o). I met this guy (4 yrs my senior) in 2011 while calling Turbo Tax tech support (thought I'd throw that in there) and exchange Facebook info.We had some light flirtations between us however I was busy with work so I didn't really give him a second thought- to top it off he's not who I would go for typically (physically).

Fast forward to 12/12/12 I saw a FB post made by him and messaged him...why o why lol

We live over 2000 miles away from each other and would occasionally skype, however by him being in school and also working I decided I would take a trip to see him (first time in person). Now it is important for me to mention that on phone he gave me a list of pet peeves (if you will) and things he does with a woman that he truly cares about...

Well Mr. man broke all his rules while I was down there. Yes we had sex!! It was thee best...it was like we had knew what each other likes prior (from experience). Another thing is before taking the trip I knew he liked me to an extent but boy o' boy once I went to see him it was like being with a totally different person...he laughed lol, and the way he would look me in my eyes...crazy.

Ok let me make a longer story shortened...
This all took place on 2/28/13.
We hung out the following day and he ended up getting called for an unexpected job...he has that kind of job..I understand completely about the workaholic symptom because I'm a Capricorn so making money is muy importante to me too lol...so I happily allowed him to cancel the rest of the evening since I did hear him talking to his client on speaker phone who needed him and the job paid $7k...definitely wasn't gonna get in the way of that, as if I could right?

That was a Friday...I already knew Saturday was out the door because that's his busiest work day.HE CALLS ME AT 3AM SUNDAY MORNING AND BASICALLY TOLD ME WE WOULD NEVER BE MORE THAN FRIENDS AND THAT HE "TRIED" HOWEVER HE IS NOT AT ALL ATTRACTED TO ME...WHOA BROTHA (IS WHAT I'M THINKING) SO EVEN THOUGH I WAS HURT MY "COMPOSED CAPRICORN" FEELINGS WOULDN'T SHOW IT.
ME: AM I UGLY IN PERSON (give me a break it was 3 am, my brain wasn't functioning right lol)
HIM: YOU LOOK DIFFERENT IN PERSON
ME: AM I TOO FAT?
HIM: NO, I'VE DATED THICKER, BOW LEGGED, CLASSY WOMEN BEFORE
ME: SO DO YOU NORMALLY PUT YOUR TONGUE IN LADIES MOUTHS WHOM YOU HAVE NO ATTRACTION?
HIM: THE STUFF THAT COMES OUT OF YOUR MOUTH.
ME: WELL I WANNA KNOW
HIM: I'M JUST NOT ATTRACTED TO YOU, I TRIED
ME: CLICK..BLOCKED HIS NUMBER, AND POWERED OFF PHONE.
HIM: TEXT 3 MINS. LATER "YOU HUNG UP ON ME"
ME: (duh) TEXT RESPONSE, "NO" LOL AND KEPT PHONE POWERED OFF TILL CHECK OUT TIME

TEXTED HIM BEFORE MY PLANE DEPARTED - SIMPLY REQUESTED FOR HIM TO THROW MY STYLUS (TOOL FOR TOUCHSCREENS THAT I LEFT IN HIS CAR) IN THE TRASH...HIM: NO RESPONSE

Basically haven't heard his voice since however I feel that "unattraction" is not what caused him to do this. I do know this when he want to get his point across he's very clear however when I text him (which is every 2- 3 wks.) he responds however it is less than a 10 word response but they don't sound like responses from someone who is truly "done".

Help Virgo guys! I just wanna know your opinion as to why he did this kinda out of the clear blue sky.

SweetCappy33

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, April 18, 2013 11:14 AM

Hey!  It's Dab again and just like I knew, my cowardly virgo would resurface on the same bs he's always on.  But this time I told him to kick rocks and never contact me again!

I haven't heard from this clown since Valentine's Day. He didn't get me anything, and i was happy he didn't. I was truly relieved!  Like I said, he bought me a Christmas Gift, and i was not happy about that at all because I knew all he was trying to do was keep me in my place, while he figure out life and how he wants to live it.  So him not giving me anything was confirmation for me that he had moved on.  I was also very hurt that he could care less that I may have cancer (BTW I don't have cancer).  I decided to just not respond to him and it was working really well until late March.  Like the coward he is, he bypassed calling me, bypassed texting me, bypassed emailing me to comment on a Facebook photo.  The problem is, we aren't Facebook friends!!

Immediately I told him to never contact me again or I would contact the police.  This looser had the audacity to respond back saying that he wasn't aware that we weren't on good terms O_O really dude?  I haven't talked, text, carrier pigeon, fed ex, UPS, anything you since 2/14/13, at that time it was a few days shy of April!  The next line was that he doesn't know why we stopped talking and he insinuated that he may have something to do with Valentines Day.  Then he goes onto to apologize for leading me on and hurting me in anyway.

I can't stand a coward!  He knew exactly why we stopped talking.  Ladies we've all dealt with the guy who won't respond to anything to send (calls, emails, text) but when he sends you something or calls you and you don't respond he's up in arms, Yep this was him.  Our last conversation, he insulted my entire life!  Called me a slut and basically tried to probe my reason for calling him as if I couldn't just call to say hi.  I mean it's not like there wasn't any contact whether verbal or non verbal daily.  And now all of a sudden I need a reason to call...

But now almost 2 months later, you don't know why we stopped speaking!  Virgo men provide the best comedy!  i almost was ready to cut him to the white meat, then I realized who and what sign I was dealing with and decided it isn't worth it.  He knows know not to ever ever ever in life reach out to me again!

Dab

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, April 19, 2013 11:29 AM

Well... I concur with most of the painful accounts stated above. My Ex(Virgo) was all that you'd ever want: serenading me (playing for me and singing), cooking for me, willing to endanger his life to satisfy me sexually (I am very demanding), letting me into his home and short of parading me in front of his ex. I am beautiful, intelligent etc (the whole package), but there's a "dark" side to me too. I am a Pisces (though I am not your typical one, more of Elizabeth Taylor like before she has let herself "go").
We've dated for a few month, it's been "on" and "off" utill a few days ago. The first time the relationship had ended the pain I felt was unbearable and after that even though some things were sweet, I didn't feel the same for this "poser". I think he could tell that I've seen him for what he really was and no matter how hard he played the role of "amazing ME" it didn't really work. All I could say to all the girls that has been hurt is to use them for sex, because they are good at it and don't have any other expectations as you'll be sorely disappointed. Also another thing that had suddenly occurred to me is that he tried to make me love him so he would have an emotional control over me, and hurt me verbally to "build himself up". As I am full of myself: work hard, achieve success, my watch was ions better than his, my house/furniture was better/bigger than his etc etc. Perhaps where I've seen things that we have in common: same make, design, architecture in all the important choices, it must have been eating him up that despite a massive age difference (over 20 years) I had achieved all that he has at the end of his life? Need an opinion from a Virgo man as to do you feel intensely jealous of other's achievements?  
Anyway, it helps to analyse the situation in the cold light of day when there are no longer any emotions involved. Just to confirm that my conclusions are right and are somewhat supported statistically.
Loved the comment about Mea Culpa, Mea Cupla, Mea Culpa- that sums everything up in the best way possible:)

StarryEyed

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, April 23, 2013 12:11 PM

I have been dating a Virgo man for just over two months. He was the first to admit his interest in having a relationship with me and admitted that he loved me. I probably would not have committed if he didn't express it, as I would rather go a little slower, but I had been single for a year since my last break-up and he seemed to have come along at the right time, when I needed companionship and support in my life. He seemed so caring and interested in my dreams and aspirations. Physically he is not the kind of man I would be attracted to, but his I grew attracted to his sensuality...he is very reserved and conservative especially in public and that adds such mystery to him! We communicate everyday, even if we don't see each other.... but recently I have not heard from him at all, the effort to communicate is almost none existent and it bothers me to know that a man who seemed so interested and involved treats you like a complete strange. I am Aquarius and I have read that we aren't them  most compatible of signs...but i do care about him. I am quite straight forward so I don't usually wait until something gets out of control to approach someone about things.I have tried several approaches to get him to communicate better with me. I have tried bombarding him with questions ( which are answered by complete silence). I tried telling him how I feel, I tried just acting as though it never happened...and still every effort is just ignored, as though I didn't say anything at all. I seem to be the only one making an effort to call. I asked once why the reason for his sudden withdrawal and he only responded with two lines.." It's just that I am extremely busy at the moment and don't worry about it or take it personal". His behaviour is agitating me to point where I don't want to even make an effort to contact him and just cut him off as it seems he has lost interest in maintaining the relationship. I am a very fair person and despite my own mood swings or periods where I am quiet or pensive. I explain how I feel. I know that Virgos are very private people, but don't commit to a relationship with someone if you aren't willing to share anything about yourself with them....as far as I look at it, there is NOTHING that is going on in your life, or that has happened to you, that has never occurred with anyone else...so what's the tight lips about?

Aleesa

# re: Virgo Men @ Wednesday, May 01, 2013 5:46 AM

Omg! I've been reading and reading on the net  about Virgo's and this article and comments struck me most! But many stories so heartbreaking. I'm a 40 year sag woman in a long term relationship with a 46 year sag man, but not married. And here's the plot. I have fallen so hard for this 26 year old virgo man that works in my business... sad I know, but he's irresistible. We like to play, tease each other, be close to one other, touch the other on the arm/shoulder/back etc... There's been lot of flirting, or so I think as he's hard to read. Texting and mailing, about everyday stuff though, but with a certain undertone to it, or so it seems to me at least. Of course sometimes he won't reply for hours. Or just won't reply. Other times he'll reply quickly and in a  sweet manner. Asking me advice, not replying about it, but following my advice when I ask him later. I'll send him songs, he won't reply, but when I ask him days later he'll say that of course he listened. And so on... Thing is 1) i am currently in a rather unhappy relationship. He knows this, although we don't discuss it 2) he knows my partner 3) I'm 40, he's 26. He already said that 'falling for someone' takes time for him and he's also admitted he likes older women. Don't know why I'm telling all this on the net to utter strangers, but have to get if off my chest. Please feel free to say how you think about my situation or whether I'm just being a naive fool.

sophia

# re: Virgo Men @ Wednesday, May 01, 2013 9:37 AM

This is in reply to Sophia. First, don't feel silly about airing this information...Virgos are quite mysterious :). I don't have much to add HOWEVER, lol regarding the age difference. I've READ that in general Virgos are not comfortable with being overly expressive with feelings and such and that before the age of 35 or so they really have a hard time with things of the heart however, after 35 (and this is for the male Virgos), depending on their life experiences as well...they are a bit better with the matters of the heart. Hope this helps some how as I am still figuring them out myself and is hopelessly in love with one while crossing my fingers because I've read so many horror stories and some success stories...I don't think it has anything to do with your astrological compatibility because I've read of many Virgo/Capricorn/Taurus "love" stories gone bad and those are "supposed" to be the most compatible signs of them all so go figure lol.
p.s I'm a Capricorn and we've been in relationship for 1 1/2 years...still...we need prayer...not a wing, just a prayer (for now)

abeautifulmind

# re: Virgo Men @ Wednesday, May 01, 2013 2:38 PM

@ abeautifulmind. Thanks for taking the time to read my post and replying. I'll hope and pray with you that your relationship will be/stay good and harmonious. I agree with you that you can't just tell all with astrology. I guess a lot depends from surroundings, childhood, education etc..
So my virgo crush just replied to my email after more than 24 hours...saying he was sorry to reply so late, but he had switched off phones and internet, because he needed to be on his own. How typically a virgo-reply is that! Now 24 hours is nothing and I'm grown up enough ( at least one of the perks that comes with age ;-) not to think too much of it. It just scares me a bit that it so matches the things i have read on here.

sophia

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, May 02, 2013 2:53 PM

so, since there's quite a few virgo-minded people on here I'll just continue with my story. So, went for drinks with my virgo-crush today, with the reason so he could 'fix my laptop'.. I invented the reason, but he nicely played along. It was strange... hot and cold... He doesn't believe in astrology, but has sooo many virgo traits! Were talking about something, and told me 'people have just to tell me straight up what they want or mean, otherwise I'm not sure'... typical Virgo answer from what I've read everywhere.
Sometimes I wonder if I should just come clear with him. But am so afraid of heartbreaking rejection. And the fact that he works in my business, might make it akward. Been having this crush on him since over 6 months now... never had such a strange experience with men... it totally confuses me.

sophia

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, May 03, 2013 9:44 AM

Hello everyone thanks for contributing your stories about Virgo men.. I'm a Libra woman dating a Virgo guy and at first I thought I was going crazy on my own.. but reading this page made me feel so much better and more assured.. I thought I was the only one getting paranoid and crazy about this whole bonanza.. sigh.. please bear in mind that I am a Libra and this is going to be a pretty lengthy one !
We have been dating since June 2012 - his best friend who was interested in me asked me out for drinks and he was there. It wasn't love at first sight at all. In fact I thought he was GAY also would never be attracted to a guy with his physique - he is small, same height as me ( I am 5'7") and had the prettiest boy look ever imagined.. he was a great listener as I rambled on through the night and later I found him on facebook, added him and thats how we first we started communicating via facebook - intelligent messages and eventually met up- we couldn't stop seeing each other every day for a good two months.. by the third month I had shared my entire aspirations & dreams with this guy.. he seemed quiet but went with the flow, followed me around and showed interest in everything I did. I fell so hard for this Virgo dude and started to express myself emotionally and got all clingy ( apparently thats the first DO-NOT's) I crave for his attention every other time and even tried to get involved with his work by opening a forex account so he could guide & teach me.. (intelligence attacts him, right?) He would be there if my car needed servicing, if I needed him to follow me to pay my bills or even run errands for me. I gave him a specially made-to-order present for his birthday & made so much fuss with his friends about his birthday dinner.. but in oct when it was my bday he just calls, write fb msg on my wall but never appeared to give me any present or even to take me out on a birthday dinner !! what a douche bag.. it made me so upset and i realized I am so weak-hearted not having enough courage to stand up against this starry-eyed, clean cut looking dude.. of course at that time I pushed it aside.. a week later he gives me a card, a towel with a hedgehog stitched on it ( i own a hedgehog he knows i like it) that says 'For my phiephie' also some fake gold accessory/necklace I wasn't even impressed with. It's either I should be appreciative for his efforts and count my blessings, OR be an ultra angry beach and cut him off totally. Nope that's not what happened. I chose the former. You see what made me so attracted to him compared to other men I have dated were some of his characteristics he had. He is very pious and the first guy to ever ask me to go church with him. He loves his mum (he's the eldest and yes he's totally a mummy's boy) and family so so much, sometimes it even annoys me. I also like the fact that he is organized and is quite focused on his work, although he doesn't have a current job he is trying to run the family business and I admire his efforts. The other thing I can't stand is the fact that he hangs out with his younger brother..like literally ALL the time.. he shows himself to be this conservative, calculative, cheap guy but he hangs out with the total opposite !! His world revolves around his younger brother who drives a sports car, has a model gf (which i despise bcos she has this small whiny voice when she talks) and they are completely materialistic, go out doing everything i dislike - racing fast cars, spending daddy's money, and does everything rich spoilt brats do. Of course when I first met him he drove daddy's car - which I never saw him driving ever again. Since the first day til today he drives in the smallest car in his house when he's with me (making me feel cheap bcos I own 2 cars much better than that and when we go out i have to swallow my ego being in that small car) Of course he keeps reminding me that I shouldnt judge him/the world based on material things, and I should be more spiritual, etc but it angers me to know that he is being a hypocrite by hanging out with these younger brats all the time. I also dont get along with his younger sister (because her aspriations in life is to be a fashion designer.. how shallow is that!) I'm not deceitful I came from a well to do family myself, and had some years ago my family went thru a big financial crisis and we lost everything that made me have to be financially independant and support my family. I learnt to appreciate money and have big ambitions for myself. I shared all of this with him but it seems like he only 'understands' me when we are together. Otherwise, it's just him hanging out with his momma, bro, bro's gf and sis out shopping everyday, buying the whole shopping mall and yes, everytime I go out with his family ( even then i feel like i forced him to let me join) the mum and bro gf would scrutinize my outfit and check out my non-branded handbag. This adds up to me insecurities I already have. In fact, if he is making so much money I don't understand why he cannot pamper me or spend on me like a normal boyfriend should. His bro spoils his gf all the time so why can't babyVirgo boy learn from his baby friends? sigh.....
Communication is so poor with this Virgo boy (he is one year older than me but it feels like he is 5 years younger) it makes me go crazy, me having to always initiate the hellos. When we do fight he brings up my past (the biggest lesson to any girl is never reveal your past because an asshole will always use it against you) and calls me all kinds of nasty things. Our first big fight was when I went for a business trip abroad for only 3 days, Mr insecureVirgo started hurling nasty messages to me when he found out I drank some alcohol ( I promised him to stop drinking) and the last time we fought was a stupid reason and he hung up on me, and sent me an sms to say 'we are not suitable to be with each other, let's break up'. I replied a day later to say ' didnt know u were so cold' and his reply was 'ok'
I had to give him some of my personal documents for forex so 2 days later after sending email to him i said 'email sent' and his reply was 'i miss you baby' and i didn't reply. he sent another text to ask if we can meet that night and we did. When we met I gave him the cold shoulder, looked awesome and we settled the forex thing. then he wanted to talk about 'us' and I said I agree with him that we are not suitable.. and he said he really wants to still be with me. I said i needed some time off. I texted him to say 'if you really want to be with me i have my terms and they are; for every week that you don't meet me ( we only meet once a week now and even that feels like its a big burden for him )send me a bouquet of flowers every week to show that you still miss me and want me. As anyone would have guessed he only sends me a bouquet for the first week, didn’t even follow through with a phone call and only sent me ‘goodnight princess’ whatsapp messages once every two days after that.
It’s been more than a month now and our meeting is due. I texted him this week to ask about some forex question to trigger him – because he didn’t even try to meet up with me and agreed to meet up next week. I know now how I should act in front of him but he has hurt me so much, my love is idealistic I like to touch, give small kisses, feel loved and need the constant assurance of love when this guy often gives me the cold shoulder. When we are apart I miss and think about him constantly and part of me also hates him so much every time.. but when we meet I often melt at his gaze. The last time I texted him to say thank you for the roses I asked him, why does he want to be with me and instead of saying because he loved me he answered because I think u will make a good wife.
I am stumped by his way of showing me he cares..part of me says he will make a good father but another part of me says I deserve better. What should I do and thanks for reading..

phiephie

phiephie

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, May 03, 2013 9:44 AM

Hello everyone thanks for contributing your stories about Virgo men.. I'm a Libra woman dating a Virgo guy and at first I thought I was going crazy on my own.. but reading this page made me feel so much better and more assured.. I thought I was the only one getting paranoid and crazy about this whole bonanza.. sigh.. please bear in mind that I am a Libra and this is going to be a pretty lengthy one !
We have been dating since June 2012 - his best friend who was interested in me asked me out for drinks and he was there. It wasn't love at first sight at all. In fact I thought he was GAY also would never be attracted to a guy with his physique - he is small, same height as me ( I am 5'7") and had the prettiest boy look ever imagined.. he was a great listener as I rambled on through the night and later I found him on facebook, added him and thats how we first we started communicating via facebook - intelligent messages and eventually met up- we couldn't stop seeing each other every day for a good two months.. by the third month I had shared my entire aspirations & dreams with this guy.. he seemed quiet but went with the flow, followed me around and showed interest in everything I did. I fell so hard for this Virgo dude and started to express myself emotionally and got all clingy ( apparently thats the first DO-NOT's) I crave for his attention every other time and even tried to get involved with his work by opening a forex account so he could guide & teach me.. (intelligence attacts him, right?) He would be there if my car needed servicing, if I needed him to follow me to pay my bills or even run errands for me. I gave him a specially made-to-order present for his birthday & made so much fuss with his friends about his birthday dinner.. but in oct when it was my bday he just calls, write fb msg on my wall but never appeared to give me any present or even to take me out on a birthday dinner !! what a douche bag.. it made me so upset and i realized I am so weak-hearted not having enough courage to stand up against this starry-eyed, clean cut looking dude.. of course at that time I pushed it aside.. a week later he gives me a card, a towel with a hedgehog stitched on it ( i own a hedgehog he knows i like it) that says 'For my phiephie' also some fake gold accessory/necklace I wasn't even impressed with. It's either I should be appreciative for his efforts and count my blessings, OR be an ultra angry beach and cut him off totally. Nope that's not what happened. I chose the former. You see what made me so attracted to him compared to other men I have dated were some of his characteristics he had. He is very pious and the first guy to ever ask me to go church with him. He loves his mum (he's the eldest and yes he's totally a mummy's boy) and family so so much, sometimes it even annoys me. I also like the fact that he is organized and is quite focused on his work, although he doesn't have a current job he is trying to run the family business and I admire his efforts. The other thing I can't stand is the fact that he hangs out with his younger brother..like literally ALL the time.. he shows himself to be this conservative, calculative, cheap guy but he hangs out with the total opposite !! His world revolves around his younger brother who drives a sports car, has a model gf (which i despise bcos she has this small whiny voice when she talks) and they are completely materialistic, go out doing everything i dislike - racing fast cars, spending daddy's money, and does everything rich spoilt brats do. Of course when I first met him he drove daddy's car - which I never saw him driving ever again. Since the first day til today he drives in the smallest car in his house when he's with me (making me feel cheap bcos I own 2 cars much better than that and when we go out i have to swallow my ego being in that small car) Of course he keeps reminding me that I shouldnt judge him/the world based on material things, and I should be more spiritual, etc but it angers me to know that he is being a hypocrite by hanging out with these younger brats all the time. I also dont get along with his younger sister (because her aspriations in life is to be a fashion designer.. how shallow is that!) I'm not deceitful I came from a well to do family myself, and had some years ago my family went thru a big financial crisis and we lost everything that made me have to be financially independant and support my family. I learnt to appreciate money and have big ambitions for myself. I shared all of this with him but it seems like he only 'understands' me when we are together. Otherwise, it's just him hanging out with his momma, bro, bro's gf and sis out shopping everyday, buying the whole shopping mall and yes, everytime I go out with his family ( even then i feel like i forced him to let me join) the mum and bro gf would scrutinize my outfit and check out my non-branded handbag. This adds up to me insecurities I already have. In fact, if he is making so much money I don't understand why he cannot pamper me or spend on me like a normal boyfriend should. His bro spoils his gf all the time so why can't babyVirgo boy learn from his baby friends? sigh.....
Communication is so poor with this Virgo boy (he is one year older than me but it feels like he is 5 years younger) it makes me go crazy, me having to always initiate the hellos. When we do fight he brings up my past (the biggest lesson to any girl is never reveal your past because an asshole will always use it against you) and calls me all kinds of nasty things. Our first big fight was when I went for a business trip abroad for only 3 days, Mr insecureVirgo started hurling nasty messages to me when he found out I drank some alcohol ( I promised him to stop drinking) and the last time we fought was a stupid reason and he hung up on me, and sent me an sms to say 'we are not suitable to be with each other, let's break up'. I replied a day later to say ' didnt know u were so cold' and his reply was 'ok'
I had to give him some of my personal documents for forex so 2 days later after sending email to him i said 'email sent' and his reply was 'i miss you baby' and i didn't reply. he sent another text to ask if we can meet that night and we did. When we met I gave him the cold shoulder, looked awesome and we settled the forex thing. then he wanted to talk about 'us' and I said I agree with him that we are not suitable.. and he said he really wants to still be with me. I said i needed some time off. I texted him to say 'if you really want to be with me i have my terms and they are; for every week that you don't meet me ( we only meet once a week now and even that feels like its a big burden for him )send me a bouquet of flowers every week to show that you still miss me and want me. As anyone would have guessed he only sends me a bouquet for the first week, didn’t even follow through with a phone call and only sent me ‘goodnight princess’ whatsapp messages once every two days after that.
It’s been more than a month now and our meeting is due. I texted him this week to ask about some forex question to trigger him – because he didn’t even try to meet up with me and agreed to meet up next week. I know now how I should act in front of him but he has hurt me so much, my love is idealistic I like to touch, give small kisses, feel loved and need the constant assurance of love when this guy often gives me the cold shoulder. When we are apart I miss and think about him constantly and part of me also hates him so much every time.. but when we meet I often melt at his gaze. The last time I texted him to say thank you for the roses I asked him, why does he want to be with me and instead of saying because he loved me he answered because I think u will make a good wife.
I am stumped by his way of showing me he cares..part of me says he will make a good father but another part of me says I deserve better. What should I do and thanks for reading..

Sad phiephie

phiephie

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, May 03, 2013 11:18 AM

my mouth falls open when I read your story phiephie. Although there are huge differences in yours and mine story, for one I don't even dare to admit to this guy that I'm totally head over heels for him, but there are huge similarities as well, spec. re the family stuff and that I thought he was gay (which he isn't he has assured me a few times). Maybe my best step would be to back off this guy, but that's the thing. Once a virgo gets under your skin.... Today he is in my business and I feel literally sick to the stomach when I see him. And that's only because he has this wild attraction on me. And like you, I crave his attention and really have to literally stop myself in my steps. I just wish I could ban him out of my head and stop messing with my heart. Although maybe I'm the one myself that is messing with my heart. As a saggitarius girl I'm not sure I can do the ever so subtle virgo game.

sohia

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, May 10, 2013 5:47 AM

Hi,

I need an advice. I have been in long distance relationship with virgo man who is married. I am also married. I can`t figure out what makes him cheat on his wife? He is totally right and nice guy, not the one who doesn`t obbay the rules, not the one who would cheat. He texts me in the morning, afternoon and evening. All he usually says is that he misses me and sends me kisees. He showed NONE other feelings. What bothers me is that he is not hurt because we see each other every three months.
Can someone explain what is my role in his life?
If it was just sex he would find some woman who is closer, more available to him.
I am confused but can`t get an answer from him.
When I asked him what he expects from me the answer was "respect". Huh, this is something he should expect from everyone?
When we are together, he keeps on smiling with bright and shiny eyes. But when I ask him if he is happy he says "I am satisfied". What kind of answer is that? Shit.
His wife is older than him and he says that she is nagging all the time.
I am cancer and don`t find myself in cheating on my husband but couldn`t help it. This is bothering me so much. I am sick and tired of waiting to see him and I don`t find him fighting the way I would. Once I was travelling in town close to his, and it was three months after our last meeting. When I asked him to meet me, he said that he has appointment at doctor. After that I was pissed really and he was very persistant to explain that he had to go because he scheduled that appointment 4 months ago. And me? I know there would be nothing to stop me from seeing him if there was chance like that. That hurt me really. But he truly believes that this is nothing that he did wrong.

What to do? How to find out what he wants from me?

Shiny

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, May 10, 2013 8:48 AM

Shiny...he is using you to feed his ego.  I dated a virgo long distance and he was very similar to what you are describing.  My advise, walk away and never look back.  He is only going to hurt you and damage your marriage.  After months of torment, I finally ended my relationship.  It was the best decision I could have made.  

rla

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, May 10, 2013 11:34 AM

Her Rla,
You are a genius! Uses me to feed his ego sounds true but it didn't occur to me. I'm so naive...
And what do you suggest me to tell him because we are colleagues, so we must work with each other (long distance of course)?
Thanks.a lot!

Shiny

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, May 13, 2013 2:55 PM

I would keep it simple and say that your feelings have changed and going foward you want to keep commincation to business as necessary.  No hard feelings, but you have moved on and so should he.  

It took me months of research and self-reflection to open my eyes.  Dont feel bad...its very hard sometimes to see someone for who he/she really is.

Good luck.

rla

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, May 18, 2013 8:01 AM

This is sooo true about my boyfriend... or ex-boyfriend now since he left 2 days ago. Naturally I'm devastated because just a few weeks back he was telling me he loves me. And I still love him.

queen

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, May 18, 2013 8:58 AM

Hi Sophia,
THanks for your advice..
we finally met and when we did he said that I didnt accept him the way he is, and that I think differently of him when we are not together (which is true,when he's not ard i hate him) so he said i should look for a guy more suitable for me..and wanted to end the relationship. I was devastated because i am so deeply in love with him. anyway he and i met two more times after that only for work and were very professional about things.. few days ago after our meeting i casually said to him hey can we be F*** buddies, dont worry i wont get into the whole emo shit and all... and he agreed! we had a passionate time together and i take everyone's advise - never fall in love with a virgo man, it's only going to hurt u. just have him as a convenient sex outlet !
phiephie

phiephie

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, May 20, 2013 8:17 AM

My recent ex who just left me last thursday is the same. he was mean too. before he left he was comparing our relationship to his previous one and saying that our doesn't mean as much to him as the previous one did. I still love him though I let him leave. I don't know what to say anymore. Now I saw that he's started liking his ex's photos on instagram.

queen

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, May 21, 2013 4:16 PM

This is incredibly accurate.  Thanks for the reminder

aliveandwell2

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, May 23, 2013 2:47 PM

Hello I am a taurus woman and I've spent some time with this Virgo guy. He pretty much seemed to be unattracted to me through all his criticism of me and the way he spoke about women in front of me I thought I've been friend zoned. Then one week we spent time together (basically all of the parts of me he previously made me believe he didn't like were his favourite parts of me). Anyways when we were together we cuddled and kissed. Had the most AMAzing time. We didn't want to leave each other's company,but when apart his text's were often cold and different .then all of a sudden niceness. Then this coldness again. Do they always ask you questions to get inside your mind? How sincere are they and how do I know whether he has opened up to me or he's just showing tiny bits of himself?

Taury

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, May 23, 2013 3:56 PM

Dear Taury, you can know all his life given to you on the plate etc this particular breed of man is a defective one in most cases (99%). Exceptions are rare and they tend to be nice enough without all the usual traits. Don't invest emotionally as it only feeds their ego. I've been reading and deleting countless love letters today, so my perspective is fresh enough.

StarryEyed

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, May 23, 2013 7:26 PM

Thanks StarryEyed. When  I do pull away emotional that is when he comes running back,then I become vulnerable again.I will do my best to not invest emotionally because I doubt I can handle another "round" of being broken down to be built back up again.

Taury

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, June 02, 2013 5:39 AM

testing

A Virgo

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, June 02, 2013 8:11 AM

I am a man born as a Virgo myself and i have a Deep interest in self insight and reading this post makes me want to add something.

A virgo like myself has a Deep fascination (sometimes obsession) with patterns, especially the patterns we knowingly/unknowingly follow in life. When a virgo man critiszies or comes with "helpful suggestions" he doesn't conciously considers it an insult, it stems from this need to make a patterns that's "almost perfect" into a pattern that's "perfect". In fact when he critisizes something about you it is generally because he thinks you are incredible and he has a difficult time handling that something about you is "almost perfect" instead of "perfect"

There is no cruelty or malice in the Heart of a virgo man, but the way to hell is layred with good intetions and almost all critique from a virgo man comes with "the best of intentions". We can have a very difficult time seeing that while some of our critique comes from a genuine, caring desire to be helpful, other parts of it comes from our own compulson to make "almost perfect" into "perfect". A virgo man can therefore be incredibly ruthless and easily fool himself into thinking that it is all for your sake and not his own.

For all people it holds that the more insecure they are the more awful they are to be with in a love relationship. Think of Leo, a very insecure Leo man has an extreme need for CONSTANT validation of his overblown ego. A virgo man has the problem that the more insecure he is the more disintegrative his analytical mind becomes. By that i mean that he looks at himself and tears himself to pieces until there's nothing left and he is incapable of loving even the smallest part of himself. When a virgo man is really insecure then he compensates by being obsessed with making "almost perfect" into "perfect", and he won't stop.

When you get into a serious love relationship with a man you become part of his life, and if he, because of his insecurities has no room for selfacceptance in his life he, once you become part of it he has no room for acceptance of you either. For the reasons i gave above, a really insecure virgo man will thefore be ruthless in his critique of you, and it will all be "with the best of intentions" until you are as much of a wreck as he is. If you love yourself: Flee for the love of all that is holy FLEE!!

Asi said above A Virgo man has no malice in his Heart, which is why i suspect many women think: "He just needs some love that'll fix it all". Yes he does, but love for him will mean letting yourself be a victim of his obsession with making "almost perfect" into "perfect" and you can't make him love himself simply by loving him for him. In many cases the best thing to do about such a Virgo man is to leave him alone, let him tear himself to pieces until his life becomes so unbearable that he learns how to stop and how to love himself, or commits suicide. That may sound brutal but remember i am a virgo man and i assure you, when i was at my worst and felt realy bad about myself, NOONE would be allowed to love me or show even the smallest hint of pity or compassion with me.

The best way for a virgo to realize how hurtful his "with the best of intentions" critique is, is to let him turn it on himself until he can longer bear his own selftorment and learns to free himself from it, or breaks.



When it comes to love and attraction Virgo men rarely if ever know what they are attracted to. I haven't got a clue myself, i have never been even remotely attracted to someone. Though there is some truth in that we are attracted to natural beauty. I would like to say what the hell you are to do if you are attracted t a virgo man but i can't. The thing to remember though. Many Virgo men (me included) are intelligent and HATE manipultion. Love is NOT a game and emotions are NOT a plaything.

This depends on the level of selfinsight of course but we virgo tend to see more of who people are than they realize and if your attraction to us is purely physical or shallow it simply doesn't stir us, we need to feel and see actual love in order to be awakened and it is very difficult to fool us into believing you feel love for us if it simply lust or desire. If you don't feel like you love a Virgo man, don't even bother going for him.

Finally a virgo man (provided he is mentally stable) doesn't have sex with you BEFORE he opens up. If a virgo man has sex with you it is in many cases nothing short of declaration of love. If he doesn't talk to you a week after it could be that he is busy or is waiting for the next weekend when he sees you Again, but you can be certain he has DEFINATELY not forgotten you, he's probably fantasizing about you every single night until you see him again. It is just that talking or texting is a severely limited medium for communication. A Virgo man could want to phone or text his lover but decide against it because it is unbearable for him to want to give so much of himself and then be restricted to texting or at best using only his voice.


A Virgo

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, June 03, 2013 12:46 AM

Hi Virgo,

Will you please explain why married vigro man is cheating his wife with me? He text all the time, every morning, afternoon and evening but showes no real effort to meet me. Yes, it is cruel and torturing for both of us - long distance affair. He was open in the beginning, we used to meet in 5 weeks, then it was 7 and after that 3,5 months. Now it is 2,5 months and no real plan. I expect him to make an effort but he just keeps on saying " I am starving too. We will manage". Finally, I am fed up, sick and tired of waiting without a plan. When I told him he thought I was winning, not worning him that I can`t wait anaymore.
I will end it. I can`t wait, not anymore.
What do you say about this situation?

Thanks in advance.

Shiny

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, June 03, 2013 4:13 AM

Quite frankly Shiny the real question is why the hell do you allow a married man to have an affair with you? There's virtually no chance that it will end good for any of you (and that includes his wife by the way).

People are rarely rational that includes Virgo, it could be that he has wayyyy too much order in one part of his life and he is compensating by having none in others, i did that too at some point. about 10 years ago when i was living home with my parents you wouldn't believe the atrocious mess in my room.

It could also be that he is way too conform in his views of what is decent and acceptable and he compensates by doing something entirely against his views and therefore has doublestandards. Though i would be VERY surprised if he wasn't conciously aware that what he is doing is wrong.

A Virgo

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, June 04, 2013 12:03 AM

Hi,

Thanks for your comments. Yesterday I broke up with him. As I said, I am sick and tired of waiting. He was confused, supriesed, caughing all the time, but conversation was friendly. He said that we will always remember good times we had together. And "You made your peace with that but I can`t it is not easy".
He said I didn`t hurt him but that is obvious lie. We found each other as a perfect match, he called me his "puzzle piece" but when both merried and long distance it can`t work.
Hell, that was the only thing from me left to be done to stop the agony of waiting.

Thanks.

Shiny

# @ Virgo @ Wednesday, June 05, 2013 3:05 PM

That description and agenda of the Virgo male is one of the most heartbreaking things I've read. I am currently "courting" a Virgo male, and he seems to be fairly text book, an has admitted to having a tendency to "pick girlfriends apart." I am hoping he is not as self destructive and self loathing as you've described, but I wouldn't doubt it. He comes across as very confident and goal driven on the outside.  I guess the question now, aside from the "take it (but please leave it)" advice, is how to aide in their quest of self-acceptance.  It's ok to fall short of one's goals, and it's the only way to learn and build from there, and there is beauty in imperfection. Honestly, who wants perfect? How boring is that? In dealing in love, it's the "quirks" you can live with, and learn to love, because EVERYONE is going to have them. I wish I could instill this logic within everyone, let alone the Virgo males!

GypsyJo

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, June 06, 2013 12:16 PM

When I met virgo man for the first time, I did not like him, but he liked me a lot! he was texting, calling me all the time. we didn't meet often as it was (acctually still is) relationship in a distance. But slowly I started to like him and he invited me to visit him at his town. we've spent a weekend together, it was pretty nice time, we made love and etc. when I came back to my town, he kept texting and calling me every sigle day for a while, but one day he stopped. I thought, ok, it's his choice. I had business trip to the town where he lives, I've texted him and invited to meet. he agreed and was happy about our meeting, when we met he acted like nothing has changes since that weekend together and etc. I was surprised, I thought that he decided that I am not the person for him, that he doesn't me and etc, but his behavior that evening was like he is totaly in love me. when i came back to my town, he started texting me and calling me very often, but also - just for a while, and then again - silence! what does it mean? does he like me? what is his intentions? can anybody explain to me how to understand such his behavior

Libra

# re: Virgo Men @ Sunday, June 09, 2013 4:24 AM

Here is the ending of the story above - I just found out that all the six months of our relationship/communication he had another woman. When I found out it firstly he denied, later he tried to turn the situation in a such way that it is my fault and at the end he told that he likes being with several woman.
What can I say, it is really ugly type, I will avoid virgo men in the future, cause he really is as Lisa has described.

Libra

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, June 14, 2013 7:28 AM

Hey Lisa,

Just wanted to add that your piece on virgo men is 100% spot on. Especially the section on "what keeps a woman going back to a virgo man" he can indeed make you feel completely amazing and then out of the blue, completely emotionless tell you he "just doesn't think it will work out" I likened my virgo ex to a sociopath. He charmed me, my friends and my family, he totally me we were "forever" then after a ridiculous silly argument said "I just don't see it working out". I had a year on, year off then year on relationship with my virgo ex and essentially now feel as though I have wasted 3 years of my life, when he was good he was amazing, but as an ex, he is disgusting, he has just walked away and would prefer to pretend we never happened. My advise to anyone who is with a virgo man is to be extremely cautious. Their hot and cold temptement is difficult to deal with, and while one day you may think you guys are like soulmates, a day later you may not even know where you stand with him, he likes to be on control and he likes to make the decisions. I was an idiot to take him back.

I wish everyone and there virgo men all the best. They are a struggle to say the least, but if you manage to find a good one its absolutely worth it.

Thanks again Lisa, made me realise I'm not just imagining it!

Xxxxx

Kay!

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, June 17, 2013 5:07 AM

omg - then what is the point of loving someone like this???? it sounds like I'm asking for pain if I do this??

jocelyn

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, June 18, 2013 7:06 AM

After reading the article and all the comments i ask myself what is the use of continuing my relationship with my gf! This is all so true! He is really hard to handle.. and i feel so neglected and rejected sometimes that it hurts hell a lot.. the tears dnt make any difference at all!!! Its past one year that i am with him now.. we are planning to get married.. but i wonder if ill get that far by the way am already feeling right now.. thanks so much guys for sharing your experience and advices! Its really helpful..

virgo gf

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, June 18, 2013 8:36 PM

Dear Lisa,

I just want to say a heartfelt thank you to you for your article on Virgo Men!

To any women out there who is dating a Virgo man, well, sister, I have to tell you that you are wasting your time, or even worse wasting your life. It is hard to accept, but it is so true when they brutally cut you off. nothing you do would help.

Feng

Feng

# re: Virgo Men @ Wednesday, June 19, 2013 1:49 AM

Dear Lisa,

I am still amazed how exact what you describe Virgo men, I revisited the article again but could not help to ask you: How can they be loyal if they trash a partner like a disposable and they fully aware it? and you say that "They tend to hold onto the past as they may regret their decision and want to revisit it." what normally happen then? to call the old flame? In my experience, they never return.

thanks

Feng

# re: Virgo Men @ Wednesday, June 19, 2013 8:03 PM

Someone help! The situation seems to have gotten worse! Now he has cut me off completely! I messaged one day ...no response...second day ...nothing...third day...nothing...fourth day...nothing...I called once...never answered....twice...never answered.... so i just stopped I am tired humiliating myself. There was so closure no nothing.. he just cut me off...and it's been two weeks...I am frustrated. Please help...

Aleesa

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, June 20, 2013 6:02 AM

Hi Aleesa,

I am afraid that is the brutal truth! Could Lisa help?

Feng

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, June 21, 2013 1:33 AM

Additional pearls of wisdom:
As a wife of a Virgo man(difficult type) I would say that patience is the key to longevity of the relationship. Provided that you actually manage to "rope" your Virgo into the marriage. They are extremely generous, provided that you are extremely demanding and hard as a rock. Virgos do respond to crying, provided you had broken your toe or something. They will cook and bring countless cups of drink to bed for you, provided that you occasionally give them tasty treats (chocolate, breakfast in bed). But whatever you do, absolutely must not turn into his domestic servant. After a few years of playing a "perfect wife" I realised that he likes when I am: indifferent, selfish, career minded, cruel etc. As long as you have something major in common like the profession, children, similar hobbies, sense of humour I think the relationship can survive a long while. Also they have a tendency of a common bully (control freak) and it takes a bigger bully to put them back into their place. They hate it when you pull out an 'ace" out of your sleeve and threaten them with the destruction of all. But within few month they recover from fright and respect you and don't cross the boundaries. I let him have an occasional look at another female, though pull him up when he's crossing the line. However he always learns a valuable lesson: I am the best woman he's ever met and how lucky he is to have me. That other man desire me and would gladly swap places with him.  
Despite the harsh reality of an occasional "rough patch", he's my best friend and I love him.
Tips: get him into an official relationship, be a bigger bully that he is, play a "daughter" role occasionally (when you've spent an obscene amount...), let them to be the clever and the responsible one, don't be soft unless you are ill and let them look after you. Always have "other options" to keep him on his toes, but don't rub it in. Have confidence that you are an exceptional woman and he's never going to find someone like you, but don't delude yourself. Be that woman. Good luck.

StarryEyed

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, June 22, 2013 2:11 AM

you rock StarryEyed! I must say that in fact if the Virgo man made up their mind to be with you, then they are the best! every relationship has bumps along the way, the Virgo man is very predictable, they either care about you and live with you or they ditch you.

Feng

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, June 24, 2013 2:51 PM

Dear Feng, thank you for the compliment. I agree about them not returning, mild attempt during an initial break up doesn't count. It's like a fire starved of oxygen, just flickers and dies down. I think the issue with them trashing their other halves comes from the inherent difficulty of accepting yourselves and making a point of starving another one of their love. Certain that they'll hurt you more than they are hurting inwardly themselves? Like a said before, a defective breed.

StarryEyed

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, June 25, 2013 9:32 AM

This is SO TRUE!!!!

I am an aquarius female with a virgo male and the thing about them not admitting they're wrong and needing control is so true.

"This man questions himself constantly so he won't move in haste. He is always looking for a better option, and he's frugal. He loves fine things, and may blow 10K on a gadget that is of quality rather than settle for something cheaper to do the trick. He's a hard worker, but he has spouts of it. He'll work non stop for 3 months without a break, then crash from exhaustion and hibernate cutting off everything and everyone to recharge. He doesn't give a warning, he just retreats, again leaving you wondering if you did something wrong. Only to reappear without excuse, apology or explanaion."

That is my boyfriend 100%

theycallmedea

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, June 28, 2013 10:39 AM

thank you so much. this helped

Diana

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, June 28, 2013 10:40 AM

thank you so much. this helped. But one more question. should I text a Virgo first or wait for him to text me?

Diana

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# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, July 09, 2013 6:02 PM

Eight months in.  I’m a Capricorn.  Yes, he is critical.  For two earth signs we fell hard and fast; talking about marriage a month in.  We moved in at six months.  We can’t get enough of each other.  I know it is still new but we have already jumped a lot of hurdles.  As a wounded and terrified Capricorn I would almost rather be alone than allow anyone the opportunity to hurt me.  Better I leave on my own terms.  He flat out refused to let me go.  I have changed for him; he has changed for me.  

Maybe it works because I am a strong independent woman, but I love to take care of him and the home.  I have never allowed myself to be weak around anyone else, but he supports and loves me when I’m weak or when I am strong.  Maybe eight months isn’t long enough to chime in, but I do believe love is possible with this, at times, critical man.  I will say you left one thing out, they are sensitive men.  They need to be loved and appreciated more than most men.  They need a lot of reassurance and they need you to believe in them.  

Good luck to myself and all of you.

Jana

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, July 09, 2013 6:52 PM

Omg u describe him well, i was with virgo 8 years from now, he is one of the most selfish man i ever meet in my life, he is so annoying and controling, u have to do everything he tells you or he will mad at u , he will cheat u and lie at u but u will never know, he will act incont and everything u do it's not enough ,............................................he will treat u like princess when he wasnt and he will treat u like shit when he want, he will use u and abuse u , and if u abuse him back It will be end of the world !! in public he will treat u like he never meet u and sometime you will ask ur self is this the man i was with him all this year or he is just a strange person .....  You will never know what is going on he's mind , but for sure he wanna know everything about ur mind !! he will ask u million of quetion to know what is on ur mind !!!there is alot of things he don't share  ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,when u decide to leave him he will please u and he will try he's best to sweet he's talk you will say to ur self he have change but no and no he will never change he's stone yes,,,,,,,,,,,,this man is one of the worse guy in the world i swear and swear ,,,,,he destroye my life and i'm so sick coz of him ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, to all women uo there advice please never date a virgo man unless u wanna destroye ur self .................. HE WILL CUT U OFF LIKE A PIACES  I HATE HIM LIKE NOBODY  know i'm trying to recover !

gimini girl

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, July 12, 2013 8:49 AM

Im a Virgo woman..... I've been in a relationship with a Virgo man for 4 years. 2 1/2 - semi break for about 10 months- back together about 10 months.

Im pregnant and about to deliver
soon. Getting back with him was the worst mistake I've ever made. I'm misrable and I don't know what to do.
Everything you wrote regarding the insights to a Virgo make are COMPLETELY on point!
I guess the fact that I ended it completely ( after too long) offered no contact at all.... He came back - he just wouldn't let me go. I really didn't want to be with him- AT ALL. Sircumstances were presented and I thought I was making the right choice.
I see him trying. Very hard in fact, however I'm baffled at the fact as to why he wouldnt want to except his fate and bounce around getting his ego stroked to keep his level of sanity and mine by just being honest as to what he really needs to make him happy. All he has to say is he's in love with me, only wants to be with me, but if I would "just" do this everything would be fine. Even in adolescence we learn we are resonsible for our happiness. Why doesn't he get it?!

Leave me the @,^>•= out of it!  I know what makes me happy! However...... My option of cutting ties again is a bit more complicated this time around.
I know for a FACT I will not live like this for the rest of my life..... I just don't know how much more time I'm willing to waste.
My streghth, loyalty, beauty, and stonch moral compass always gives him the secerity of knowing where I stand. Why do I always question where he stands? It's annoying. I'm over it but I'm forced to figure it out for the moment.... I just do t know how-

Brooklyn

Brooklyn

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, July 12, 2013 1:27 PM

:) this is the best i read so far about a virgo...

The virgo i dated lied to me about things like the time he got home... Turning his mobile phone off and saying he did not realize it was off for the whole day and night... But his blackberry and him have the deepest relationship ever ;) Just too many lies for a scorpio...

He suggested we talk about what it is what have right now. Everytime we had a date he cancelled it. We work in the same company. So i went to his desk and asked/ insist for an answer. What he thinks about me and where we stand right now. He said he cannot tell me that right now. He is not sure if he wants to be in a relationship as well. The job is very demanding and there are some family things he has to solve. So i said take ur time and let me but i wont wait forever. I think he dates another girl...

Well now we ignore each other. No texts, emails, calls... When we meet we just greet each other with a smile.

I dont want him back as this is not what i want to be my man in my life...

I just wonder if we ever will be able to speak to each other again and be friendly? I hope that he will not think i dont like him because i do not contact him...

Is it possible he will come back? Even only for a friendship?

Very weird person this man... The best and worst traits i have ever seen in person... Contradiction in almost anything he does... Too complicated :)

Thanks
Gina

Scorpio

# re: Virgo Men @ Wednesday, July 17, 2013 9:36 AM

Wow to everyone on this panel I can relate to at least one thing in every story! My Virgo male has them all! From the coldness, to the forgetting ones bday! Not answering when I text at times! Flirting and engaging in convos with other women! To I often thought he was a sociopath also! Constant lies all the times! The lies are the worst it's almost impossible to build trust when someone lies rather big or small!
The only person who can relate to a Virgo male the most is a Virgo female! Its like looking in a mirror so much alike! I have long attracted these men mostly as great friends and now as a lover for 2 years and by far has been the hardest  thing ever! I know I deserve better but sad that I even stay always trying to fix him or help him and in hopes he'll treat me right! I know one day I will wake up and be just as cold and never look back its in the Virgo nature! Happened to my marriage to a sag! Walked away and never looked back! Hope I wake up sooner then later when it's to late!

Virgo female

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, July 20, 2013 4:56 PM

This article is so true everything Lit!!. My older sister has told me before Virgos are the worst from her experience with the father of her child my (niece) I never really took it to head bcoz I believe we all unique & different individuals but reading this described my ex of 4years that I finally broke away from, I recently broke up with him. He was vaginal about everything!!!!, abusive (emotionally, verbally, the master of mind fucking- mentally abusive, and has been physical twice) manipulative, disrespectful & sweet or generous when it was convenient for him. Never admitted to his wrongs Ever! Had double standards of note & so hypocritical. Blew things over & liked crying a lot. A narcissistic is what a virgo man is. Felt like he was always competing with me even @ my worst I don't think Virgos are secure in their being they are so insecure in their desperate attempt to be "perfect" "champions" and always right, they aren't happy people & they are so petty it hinders their growth and any chance of growth in the relationship they def can't handle or stand a woman with a strong personality or who is opinionated despite their work ethic & independence its about control & non existent "perfection". It was toxic an endless rollercoaster ride I just couldn't deal anymore

sag woman

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, July 20, 2013 6:48 PM

Hello,

I am Virgo with no intention to read all of this. I'll try to do my best self-refleciton to make you understanding me and hopefully some other Virgoans, too.

I am a hard-working man. Started working on a farm at the age of 15 in a small village in a post-Soviet country where I come from, now finishing a PhD at Oxbridge, just about to fill a patent application based on my research. No way I will not be self-confident.

I like to help others. Everyone can split mankind into two groups: me and the others. Me doesn't make me happy too often, the others do. When they are nice they are so pleasant to deal with, when they are not nice they are so fun to deal with :D.

Now you can see a hint between the lines: I do like to stay above all. Not to rule but because too often none of the matter really matters.

I do respect people but sometimes I disrespect what they do. I strongly disrespect lies and dishonesty.

I like to be useful. I very often enjoy the work itself more than the result. That's why many Virgoans tend to focus on the details and perfectionism in their work. I disagree with the quotes that Virgoans loose the big picture. They don't loose it, they just put it to the background. It's like driving a Porsche: you easily forget you're in a Porsche and you just enjoy the ride. Perfectionism takes some time. If you want me to do something give me a deadline, if you want me to enjoy doing something let me to play with it.

I love my girlfriend. She is the only girl I wasn't rational about and I am so proud of myself I managed to overcome the fear. Though I better say I felt A LOT of sympathy from the first sight, not to motivate people to be too irrational. I am so thankful for meeting her, it took only 25 years! There is a point in waiting for the right one: when you make a decision you make it hard! So many people forget about it these days and they talk about some "gaining experience" instead. There is no experience of love. Love to each person is unique, same as the person him-or-herself. We became a couple 4 days after we first met. We've never really dated. We've been together for nearly 2 years now and plan to get married.

Continuing in a long-term relationship matter, I don't think I am or intend to be anything you worry about. I realise my pitfalls and I work on them as much as I can.

For all women being in a relationship with a Virgoan: Remind him he has the steering wheel from your happiness. Don't let him to stay in a self-pity mood for a second, tell him to act like a man and f... you hard (oh how that helps! ;-) ).

Have a nice day,
Earnest Virgo


PS: very important: Do not try to know someone by reading internet. You're just being biased.

Earnest Virgo

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, July 23, 2013 5:51 AM

Thank you for this posting, when I read about this. It is remain me with the guy I date 1month ago...it's like u writting exactly the way he is. And yes...Virgo will drive u crazy if u allow them.  I'm a fire sign, Sagittarius female.

Sagigirl

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, July 23, 2013 9:48 AM

Thanks for posting Lisa
Dead-on describing Virgo men.  Dated one for 6 mo.  We've been friends for 6 yrs, we both have some "baggage".  Loved the guy first time I've seen him.  What drew me to him was his depth.  I gave 100% into the relationship, though wanted to strangle him sometimes, visited this site re-read everyone's emails, to make sure I was not losing my mind.  His actions, disappearing acts for weeks, no communication, etc, left me feeling awful.  Addressed it w/ him, he changed for a bit, then feel back into his own pattern.
We just broke up yet again, told him I could not be friends and needed to move on.  I will always love him terribly.
Hang in there if you are still w/your virgo man.  

J

heartbroken

# re: Virgo Men @ Tuesday, July 23, 2013 6:01 PM

Hi everyone,

I'm a virgo man, usually just a mere viewer, that's just facinated and somewhat of faith or i should say belief in these astrological sciences. But I can't resist putting in my personal subjectiveness, just for a little more insight to help y'all understand us virgmen! Lol.

It really is incredible as well as incredibly saddening how true what, you Lisa, and the other posters have to say about my sun sign and experiences with us virgo men. I'm mostly bothered though, because it makes me feel like there is really just nothing I can do to make romantic relationships I develnowop work...as I seem to find it hard for me to even look into my own feelings and thoughts on myself, and that's why I think many of you women are dealing with virgo men who just cant seem to get to the phone, because we very much need that time and space from sorting through all of those-and trust me, there are way too many in our minds-thoughts from the time that we spend with you and its so tiring for us and honestly it's like i need that time however long it may be, not too long though, to have a break from all the tugging possibilities we run through with being with you. Give me that space (uniterrupted) and then text me or call me in a couple days, and we will be back on track.

Now please don't let this scare you away because all that it takes is for me to feel like I can trust you, I won't mind getting texted and called more frequently and that'll mean more and more trust meaning more and more me and let mre tell you I know that I'm a fun-loving, honest, love to laugh and extremely open-minded to your wants and desires. It is really all about space and time.

but anyways, thats off my back..and like I said it does make me feel like I'm going to just have a series of failed relationships because of my doing but I have too remind myself that with the help of such exacting bloggers like you, Lisa, I'm able to learn how to (what feels like to me) expose my feelings and hide those other feelings that can come off as "overly critical". Lol.

young virgo man

# re: Virgo Men @ Friday, July 26, 2013 9:50 AM

Hello, I am a Virgo man and according to this I must be the only Virgo man in the world happy in my current state. Yet, there is plenty to improve, of course.

There is a bit of truth in your writing, Lisa. The mainstream of discussion is about relationship with Virgo so I focus on that only.

I am currently living with my girlfriend. Sometimes she complains that I don't pay her enough attention (too hard working?!?) but all it takes is a tiny reminder from her and I do my best to improve the things. She is patient with me, though I must say so am I with her. I guess there are prerequisites for a long-lasting happy love: patience and modesty. I've learnt that critics doesn't help any relationship (surprise surprise) and if I don't like something it's maybe better to fix it by myself and kiss her rather than to talk.

I am quite surprised reading about Virgos being quiet and cold in their relationship. I always response to text or missed call from my partner. How could I not if she needs me?!? I don't have experience with breaking my relationship to tell whether or not I'd do a strict cut and I don't want to think about it.

I need my space and be left alone in a room from time to time to sort out my thoughts. Not for weeks or days, few hours usually do. I don't think this is Virgo's character in general, I think it has something to do with me being an introvert. I have a Virgo friend who is an extrovert and he seems to be okay without having time for himself.

Yet another virgo man

# re: Virgo Men @ Saturday, July 27, 2013 2:03 AM

Virgo guys are a great life experience ladies they teach you ultimate strength no regrets just lessons! I advice the ladies to not let their experience with a virgo man to define you. These men can pull u outside of your character so much that u end up losing yourself, besides your virgo men-women where ever shim is trust that he is acting like the victim. Well let him Because the word in depth means "defeated". I for one am a masculine fire sign spiritual & philosophical active sign and I keep it moving,  I have a strong intuition I always cought him out throughout the 4years bullshit before anything lol! And whenever I told him with a smile on my face "you think I'm stupid" he would look so freaked out trying to figure out what does she know now! they have a fercade and tripple standards split personalities. Cheats/ liars/manipulative/ abusive/ bipolar/ devious and you won't know it until they true colours come out lmao! They are charming in public all sweet want approval unconsciously from people because they lack it in themselves. twist everything blame game, excuses, justifications anything to avoid being wrong. He youste to say "I know it wasn't right" lmao! Never "I was wrong and I'm sorry" I love my space & I'm very independent I always gave the virgo man space and freedom to do what he needs to but that made him NEEDY.  My ex couldn't stand my strength and ability to deattach myself from anything including him, he admired a lot of qualities about me but at the same time loathed them. I would be straight up with him, I never took crap from him although I would fall prey to his manipulation and the false hope he would give me. But I got so tired of it all I left his ass and the saying hell hath no fury like a woman scorned is truth# I'm at my most peaceful and happy I'm out of this narcissistic individual life who always brought me down because of his insecurities. he would say stuff like "guys jerk off me lmao!" never showed his jealousy to the full out extent. Virgo men are a feminine sign never have I ever dated a guy so bitchy and vaginal as I mentioned earlier it was unhealthy they are very cynical and hypocritical. The list is endless becareful what u tell a virgo he will use it against u when his weak ass wants to bring u down or as a defense mechanism. And I attracted a virgo guy who happens to share the same birthday as my ex lmao! Oh I see right through his behaviour the signs everything we not dating but his approach its funny and can't help but *roll my eyes + yawn*

sag woman

# re: Virgo Men @ Monday, July 29, 2013 9:40 AM

hi, thanks for this wonderful article about Virgo man. Am a Virgo man (2nd Sept). The all above contents are well said. That was true for me. But, i need to escape from this mood change. what should i do? can anyone give me the right way to escape from this thinking..?? i am in love with a Sagittarius girl. Sometimes, i think i am madly in love, and another times not.. but i know she know's me that much.. she can suffer anything for me. but if i married her, does she happy with me..?? I need to know or if i am wasting her life for my pity bad feelings.. please suggest me a way..

Eldho

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, August 01, 2013 3:52 PM

I have known my Virgo husband for 21 years, married for 18.  The first 13 years were a fairy tale.  The last 8 have been a nightmare.  I stay for our children.  We went through a stressful time with our family and he "went to the dark side".  He went from a prince to a selfish and emotionally cruel mate.  I think he does so because he knows I don't want to hurt our children by divorcing.  We have been to counseling.  I've really tried so hard.  This site has surprisingly been more helpful than anything.  I will continue to read here to see if I can turn things around!

Virgo Magnet

# re: Virgo Men @ Wednesday, August 07, 2013 1:27 AM

I dont believe that all virgos are the same. I am a virgo male and some of these are true for me but I don't change up in the relationship, I have many friends like that. Just have to pull them to the side and talk,bout it don't just give up. Leave you with this if you do work it out and fix everything that virgo male will love you to death for sticking with him.

virgo male

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, August 08, 2013 2:43 AM

this described my ex boyfriend of six months perfectly. at first the relationship was so great, when we fought, he wanted to work on it. he often told me things he never told anyone else, adored me most of the time, told me how much i meant to him, texted me often and called every day, he constantly made me laugh, and was very hard working. about 4 months into the relationship he became distant and started blaming everything on me. recently he broke off our relationship but never said "i dont want to do this anymore" he just left me hanging. he didn't respond to my texts so i just left it at that. i hope he comes back so i can drop him just like he dropped me.

ally

# re: Virgo Men @ Thursday, August 08, 2013 3:11 AM

also, i don't consider them as bad people and i don't base my life on astrology, but i do believe most of it is pretty dang accurate. i didn't miss the signs of the way he was treating me. i constantly blamed myself when something was wrong in our relationship and now i know that i'm not the only one who was ruining everything. i would send him a long text message telling him how i felt about him and the next morning he will respond with "hey:)"??? i still love him and i will continue to but as far as showing him, nope. i was going through a hard time and i have been depressed for 7 years and when i needed him, he didn't come to me. i got in an accident right up the hill of where he lives and he didn't even come to check if i was ok although i called him and told him that i just got in an accident a second away from his house. i didn't miss the signs, i just didn't want to lose him because he was amazing at first and i saw a perfect future with this guy, but i'm not perfect and neither is he. another thing, he came over and i took a shower, he was downstairs with my twin sister just playing video games and
she went past the tv and he ran up and hugged her from behind...i don't know about anyone else, but i consider that as cheating. if he wouldn't do it in front of me, why would he do it while i wasn't around? my sister just told me this today. she kept saying "he's not for you" but i never understood why. she didn't want to tell me due to the fact that he has already been hurting me. if she told me right then and there when he was over, he would of been gone and i would of made him walk his ass home. i'm an amazing sagittarius by the way ;) when i love, i truly love and will never take anyone for granted. i love a challenge, but virgos are just too difficult!!! i'm done ranting about this, it made me feel a whole lot better.

ally

# In love with a married virgo man @ Friday, August 09, 2013 3:52 PM

I fell in love with a married virgo man. Nothing happen between us but when we each other at the gym, it seems that sometimes we have wonderful conversation. May be I'm delusional but I feel sometimes is even flirting with me. I'm older than he is but whe we are together we play like little kids. But some other time is kind of cold and unhappy.
I would like to know what is going on in his mind. Can somebody give me some insights. I'm totally aware that this is just a dream but I'm fighting to find a little bit of reality

jam

# Dating Mr Virgo @ Tuesday, August 13, 2013 5:35 AM

Am dating a wonderful virgo man! Yes they are a lot to deal with but it is worth it. In the beginning of our relationship i wanted to break up with him but he has this soft and most kindest heart ever. I guess we all want attention at the end of the day.... Give   your virgo man your heart and attention without asking for back in return and the fire works will begin ( SEX is amazing inside and outside the bed room)
. don't think you can fool them because they can see and feel your affection. Am a SAG FEMALE.

Sagittarius Female

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