Time To Walk Away?
Facing the fact that a person you love isn't that IN to you can be a difficult realization.
All the qualities of - feeling GOOD about yourself when you interact with them, in love with who you are when you are with them, joyfully looking forward to the future when they are near, and generally in close communication with them, even when you disagree . . . if these qualities are missing with the one you love, then what are you holding on for?
Sometimes all the hope and tolerance, trial and error, & and constant back and forth bickering you go through trying to bring the relationship toward balance again, may only succeed in creating a long and drawn out drama that never lets you move on with life.
Every two steps foward lead to another five steps back, is this YOU? Exhausting isn't it?
When is it time to let go?
Is it when they finally reject you so completely that it can no longer be ignored?
Is it when they disrepect you to the point of no return? Is it when you find yourself saying and doing things you don't like seeing yourself do . . . & it dawns on you that the situation has gotten so out of hand that this is no longer healthy for anyone?
Every person wakes up to a decison to walk away at different moments in time. It's an individual decision about when to let go and move on.
Who wants to face the grim facts about a person who may never be able to love them the way they long for, and admit that it's time to finally let go and move on with life, away from a relationship which no longer serves anyone?
No one wants to.
Shifting your focus to a prayer: "Please Lord, create an outcome which is for our highest good!" - this might help one return to balance again.
When you find yourself becoming obsessed with an outcome which isn't happening, maybe it's time to walk away for a while or maybe forever.
I'm so familiar with this situation that you have no idea, it has happened to me.
I find myself talking with clients on keen lately who have a similar situation as to what I'm writing about here.
Peace in ones heart won't come until truth about a relationship is seen for what it is - Truth Shall Set you Free, right?
It's really true!
You aren't alone with your pain and frustration, so many others have experienced the same torture at one point or another, it's universal!
The best revenge is a happy life, and the ironly of this is that you can't be happy until you let go of obsessions . . . over any aspect of a relationship you can't control/ make happen; and instead forgive the past (yourself; the one you love who has betrayed and hurt you; and even God for setting you up lol!).
You know the saying about how there's no dress rehearsal for life? Don't be too hard on yourself - maybe there's a deeper meaning for your soul to discover here; although the physical manifestation of your relationship has already run it's course for now.
"Highest good for all concerned, Lord . . . for our highest good!" Let this be your mantra, at least until you find balance in your life, once again.
Light,
Fawn