What We Learn- Those Who've Ditched Us
Sometimes it takes a crisis or a break up to reveal the true nature of a relationship and person.
It’s better if you can observe the irrational behaviors of someone prior to a significant relationship even starting.
Of course, we all have free will, and if a relationship isn’t serving you: Health, goals & dreams or basic happy LIFE –there’s NO jailor around making either of you stay trapped.
However, what if she tells you she’ll call you on Thursday, knowing that you care and you are waiting for some contact, and she doesn’t call?
Especially if you're bond is iffy at the time.
What does this say about her character?
Does this present a person who you REALLY want to depend on in a relationship?
The age old saying: LOVE IS BLIND.
So she's your soul mate? Where did you get the idea that you MUST put up with a hurful and disrepectful soul mate?
Wait 'till the next life, maybe?
Never mind that you know her to be dependable, loyal, responsible and all those wonderful things otherwise; . . . What IF she has ditched YOU and in a very rude, ‘stand-up-ish’ sort of way?
Words that don’t match actions reveal whether or not a person has your best interest at heart!
When you begin to see signs of a person you love pulling away and not caring about even keeping her word to you, it’s time to make big decisions regarding your own self worth and self respect.
Loving her doesn’t give you free reign to harass, hurt or flip-out on what she's doing. No, I'm not suggesting going after her :)
It DOES give YOU a lesson to learn about what to do in situations like this one.
You are JUSTIFIED in pulling away and protecting yourself from a user and emotional abuser.
Don’t blame yourself, or fall victim to any guilt trips about walking away to an emotional space - where you can protect your heart and keep safe your self esteem.
This isn’t about the severe verbally or physically abusive relationships, it’s about simply being neglected or dumped by someone you trusted, and learning NOT to behave as if you’re fine with it!
*But the same above applies to you if you’re in a negative, dead-end abusive relationship, too. (Take it away Rosie :) -You volunteer and are an advocate for victims with much to say on this topic!!*
In the long run, if you keep your strength of character, you'll be a WINNER! When all is said and done, you'll have held it together.
Imagine yourself looking back at the situation with a smile on your face, self respect intact and with a stronger sense of character!
Light!
Fawn