In Bryn C. Collins' book: "Emotionally Unavailable" there is lots of great information - including a test to see if we ourselves are "Emotionally Unavailable."  I recently posted information regarding the emotionally unavailable individual, and cited Bryn's examples of the NINE examples of such folks, gave an overview and let you know that I would be doing a whole series on the "Emotionally Unavailable." 

Then it occurred to me that WE may want to take stock of OURSELVES - what if - WE are the ones that are "Emotionally Unavailable"?

So I came upon this test - for Emotional Unavailability - Let's take it so that we can know within our heart whether or not - we are the one's that need fixing.
 

SO WHY DON'T WE CHECK OURSELVES OUT FIRST?

EMOTIONAL UNAVAILABILITY TEST

Rate yourself from 1 to 4 on each of the following questions.

1 = Never
2 = Sometimes
3 = Often
4 - Always
  1. When I watch a movie, I really connect with the emotions of the characters.
  2. When people tell me they feel sad, I can share their emotions.
  3. When I look at my partner, I feel many things at different times.
  4. I get over being mad right away.
  5. I look forward to a long relationship with my partner.
  6. When I hear a happy song, I feel happy.
  7. I like to laugh and to cry.
  8. I can figure out everything my partner is feeling from his or her behavior.
  9. I tell people what my emotions are.
  10. When I feel scared, I am able to work through it.
  11. No matter who I'm with, I'm clear about who I am.
  12. I know my values and beliefs and I stick to them.
  13. I'm clear about my personal and relationship goals.
  14. I am able to talk to my partner about my feelings.
  15. I like to see emotions in others.
Now add up your total score.  If your score is:

1 - 15:   Emotions are just a mysterious rumor to your and you need to work hard to find your emotional self.

16 - 30:  You have some connection with your emotional life but spend a lot of time in the ambiguous area between caring and uncaring.

31 - 45:  You are connected emotionally in several areas of your life, but there are things that make your run and hide from your own emotions and the emotions of others.

46 - 60: You are really plugged in emotionally and are able to recognize emotions in others around you.

Well, now . . . that we've got that out of the way, the next step is to make some positive changes - both in out own lives and in the lives of those around us.  Yes, change can be uncomfortable - no matter how positive we know - or believe - the outcome to be.  But if we make a habit of doing the things that we know will lead to change  - then change can be easier to take when done that way in increments - and change can then be incorporated into our daily lives.
I'll take the test - you all take it too.  Does your score turn out to be what you thought it would be?  Let me know. 
Next Up:  Part One of the Series:  "The Emotionally Unavailable Man" - "Romeos and Romiettes"