The song "What's Love Got to Do With It?" was the second single released from Tina Turner's breakthrough solo debut album, "Private Dancer."  This song became an anthem of sorts from women around the world and has been credited as one of the major reasons for the success of Tina's revived career.  It has in fact become a "signature song" and was also used as the title song track for the movie of the same name in 1993.  

That said, this is what I'd like us to think about - the phrase:  "But I Love Him"

How many times have we all heard someone say that - and more importantly - how many times have we said those words ourselves?  Sometimes, when the guy is a cretin, jerk, unavailable, inaccessible, crazy, abusive, nuts, mean, emotionally unavailable, no job, no ambitions, sexually confused or sexually controlling, or plainly "just not that into you" - ask yourself -"What's Love Got to Do With It?"

Answer: - Not a Da** Thing.

So I'm saying that we all have to get "order to ourselves" - love ourselves - and stop thinking that love has to leave us decimated and "peeing and crying" in a jumbled heap on the floor in order to somehow be "real."

Not so 'ma sistas'.  We can have a love that is balanced and kind and cooperative and most importantly - reciprocated.

Lest we forget, this song and the accompanying movie actually chronicle a love gone wrong 0 the abusive and sadistic "love" that Ike proclaimed to have for Tina back in the day.  So was that really "love" at all?  Answer:  "He** to the No."

So the next time we want to "plaintively wail" - "But I Love Him" - think to yourself:
 Is he exhibiting real love to you?
Are you loving yourself by trying to love him and stay in the relationship - or the sham of the relationship - or the delusion of the relationship? 
Let's review these lyrics "one mo' time" - and think to ourselves . . . Really now . . . "What's Love Got to Do With It?"


"What's Love Got to Do With It?"
(Tina Turner)

You must understand
The the touch of your hand
Makes my pulse react
That it's only that thrill
Of boy meeting girl
Opposites attract

It's physical
Only logical
 You must try to ignore
That it means more than that

Oh, what's love got to do with it?
What's love but a second hand emotion?
What's love got to do with it?
Who needs a heart
When a heart can be broken?

It must seem to you
That I'm acting confused
When you're close to me
It I tend to look dazed
I've read it someplace
I've got cause to be

There's a name for it
There's a phrase for it
But whatever the reason
You do it for me

Oh, what's love got to do with it?
What's love but a second hand emotion?
What's love got to do with it?
Who needs a heart
When a heart can be broken?

I've been thinking of  of a new direction
But I have to say
I've been thinking of my own protection
it scares me to feel this way

What's love got to do with it?
What's love but a sweet old fashioned notion?
What's love got to do with it?
Who needs a heart - when a heart can be broken?

WHAT DO YOU THINK?  HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN A SITUATION THAT ULTIMATELY HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE?  LET ME KNOW ABOUT IT AND WHAT YOU DID TO MOVE ON.