You met him in a "high intensity" situation - according to Bryn C. Collins, author of Emotional Unavailability.

"Indiana Jones: The Dangerous Man" - does he ever love drama, cliff diving, bungee jumping, race-car driving.  He will woo you with tales of all his travels to the most exotic locals and exciting death-defying events he's been subject to.  It could also be his career - such a sensitive soul to have pulled all those people from a burning building in his job as a firefighter - has he regaled you with stories of how he survived in Iraq?  But he's sooooo cool - a cool rescuer and a cool and smooth operator.  He never lets you see him sweat - AND he never lets you see his heart or his emotions.  He is in two words:  "EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE."

What he gives off is a steady stream of calm and a steady flow of adrenaline - and then you my dears, get adrenaline-by-proxy - just being in his presence.  You then get hooked on chasing the dream with this fool - you find yourself following him on all his nutty exploits - or at a minimum sitting through his endless stories - about himself - where it is only all about him and not about you - cause who can take time to nurture a relationship when he's got all this other stuff going on?  RIGHT?  Wrong. 

Whereas the Romeo we discussed in the previous post is all focused on you - Indiana Jones is completely focused on events and excitement.  With HIM - HE alone is the one that is cast in the central role.  All action - HIS - and no INTERACTION with you.  And as long as you continue to sit at his feet and be the "rah-rah girl" and spectator to all his exploits - then it's all good in the neighborhood.  But if you dare to look for any emotional support for yourself or real involvement in the relationship - DEAD END - for you. 

So why are we ladies soooo attracted to Indiana Jones?  Simple:  Adrenaline and Excitement are TURN-ONS.

With the Romeo - with no balcony - who slips away silently.  Indiana Jones - goes off in a blaze of glory - is there any other way?  He's way too busy doing all his exciting and important stuff to be bothered - he's off on his adventure, and you are no longer on the schedule - 'cause you just can't keep up (who could?) and you just don't understand.

Indiana Jones finds his value - his emotional core and value - in what he does - not in who he is - and that is why - he has no emotions to give - to you - and is therefore Emotionally Unavailable.
Ever run up on an Indiana Jones?  Let me know about it. 
NEXT UP:  Part Three in the "Emotionally Unavailable" Series: "Tens and Other Trophies"