Are You a Social Rapist?
Is it possible to be anti social for days, then have animated conversation exchange with a complete stranger crossing a green light another day? Guess what! You may be a combination social rapist and Introvert. I have a theory that a lot of us readers/home workers have personality qualities of both, and that is what made us able to work from home and not go crazy.
WHAT ON EARTH IS A SOCIAL RAPIST?
A Social Rapist is someone that goes long periods of time without personal contact with people, then hungrily, talks to complete strangers at the Gas Pump, Convenience store or crossing the green light. This person swings back and forth between solitude and brazen openness; thus the word "Social Rapist." Of course the city environment makes a huge difference. One does not walk up to a seedy killer and start to converse. To be a Social Rapist is to also have a keen awareness of "body language."
ONE DOES NOT CONVERSE WITH THESE BODY LANGUGE SIGNS:
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They see you smile and quickly turn away
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Their body points franticly in the direction of the door as they speak
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They bury their head and look at you quickly to break eye contact.
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"I HAVE TO GO" and "LATER" means "Go Away"
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They Leer at you and fumble in their pocket
THE TWO KINDS OF SOCIAL RAPISTS
A. SOCIAL RAPIST 1 - RESPECTFUL BOUNDERIES
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In my experiences there are those that test the waters with a short conversation with a stranger and walk away, and those that hang on....and hang on.. If your energy should meet up with Social Rapist # 1, you will have a short exchange and go your separate ways.
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Should you meet up again, it is acceptable to smile in acknowledgement at each other, or add another sentence or two to the dialogue. The trick is keep boundaries and respect at all times. How will you know?.
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Being an intuitive Social -Rapist means you must always read the body language of strangers you speak with. Are they turning their body towards the door as they speak with you? Shut up. Now! They are ready to go.
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The idea of being a Social Rapist #1 is BOUNDERIES. Just because we are intentionally a loner that prefers our own company in long episodes of time, we understand we can be a pain in the ass and that no one owes us a compromise for our social episode extremes.
B. SOCIAL RAPIST 2 - THE VAMPIRE
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You see them at a public function and run. They do not know boundaries, and always take an opportunity to drown others in endless conversation.
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This is the person that can't let a short conversation be "enough." One walks away extremely tired as if they have run a mental marathon..
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Once Social Rapist # 2 has you in their sight, they are in your face and won't shut up.
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Social Rapist #2 does not understand the energy or body language of "I Got to Go!"
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Sadly, Social Rapist # 2 won't have a choice about being alone, as everyone runs from them any way.
Social Rapist # 2 is the last to understand why their effect on people is this way. Dear, dear people at times, all it would take is someone to explain what they are doing and why they have no friends. There is a yearning in their eyes, and no one wants to hurt them.
CONCLUSION
In the long run, being a Social –Rapist Introvert is a choice that must be presented with boundaries of respect for others. Know the meanings of body language. Keep conversation short and cheerful. Understand the power of a hand wave of “good bye.”