The Feng Shui Gypsy

Bitch Pill

It’s a known fact that really nice people often get dumped for bitchy lovers and friends.   You spoil and get walked on, by being too nice.   Worse, by being too patient you train a partner or friend that its okay to disrespect you.  If you don’t take action when a dog has a mess on the floor, the dog will for sure keep leaving a steaming mess on the floor.  Have you taken your daily Bitch Pill today?

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Romance, Work and Children

I was 50 years old when I finally GOT IT.   One frustrating romance, work amigo, and child issue at home after another came in to my life.  I sacrificed and was more patient for imperfections then any other I knew.  The statement I heard from friends about the men in my life was always, “You deserve better.”   My nurturing mind could not comprehend this.  After all I was repeating my mother’s behavior, as were all my sisters.  But by now, Mother GOT IT.   I still didn’t.

THEY SAID, “YOU DESERVE BETTER THEN ME.”

WHAT?!@   I was hearing words from a partner's mouth repeated to me exactly as my friends were telling me.  "Too nice."   "Nice person."   "You deserve better."  One by one, I saw each partner move on to yearn and marry ….perfectly perfect bitches.    What did they have I did not?   I excelled in bedroom diplomacy, cooking, house design and even performed on stage.   What was it I was missing?  {Back bone and Boundaries.}

• They set boundaries
• They did not give in by being patient for bad behavior
• They walked out the door the second time they were mistreated.
• They were not afraid to be called “Bitch.”
• They refused to pamper inconsistent behavior
• They walked out at the first lie told them
• They said “HELL YES I MIND” instead of saying “IT’S OKAY” when it wasn’t..

LOOK AT  MICHELLE OBAMA, SARAH PALIN OR HILLARY

Take a look at Michelle O’Bama.   Does she look like she would put up with inconsistent bad behavior?.  No!  One look in those eyes and you see a man maker and boundaries and it is VERY sexy.  That same look is in the eyes of Sarah Palin and Hillary….regardless of Political Party.   They GET IT.

At 50 I said to myself, “Know what?   I can be polite to strangers, but when inconsistent rudeness comes in to my own home, it will not be TOLERATED.”  It was as if I became a babe magnet.   I absolutely could not believe how standing up for my self changed the behavior in not only men, but how people I worked with treated me.  One year later I had someone who treated me with consistent faithful behavior and we married!

EVEN JESUS TOOK A BITCH PILL

No matter how many Bible stories I have read, one tale comes to mind constantly.  The day the people used the church for selling and marketing merchandise, was the day Jesus took a Bitch Pill.  Screaming and yelling, he threw crates of chickens and merchandize in the air, prooving once and for all,  COMPASSION HAS EVERYTHING  TO DO WITH TEACHING OTHERS HOW TO TREAT YOU.     So I ask you.   WHY CAN’T YOU?

WATCH OUT FOR PEOPLE WHO SAY “YOU DESERVE MORE”, BUT DON’T WANT YOU TO CHANGE

• People who encourage you to stand up for your self, but tell you they are disappointed in you when you do?  DISTANCE..  
• These are the people that keep a good person down…..as a truly nice person is trained through family or friends, to be a Pitiful Pearl to make them feel needed.
• Understand this is a much hidden issue….and no one will admit to it.

HOW DO YOU TAKE A BITCH PILL?

•  Go to your local Pharmacy and buy some Mega Vitamins
• Wrap a piece of white tape around the bottle
• With a felt tip pen, write “Bitch Pills”

Taking your daily bitch pill reinforces to your self you are swallowing the message loud and clear:  “Today I will state my boundaries at home, work and romance.”

BUT YOU DON'T WANT TO BE SOMEONE YOU ARE NOT

AN OLD TEACHERS RULE ABOUT STUDENTS:

When getting a fresh batch of students, it is advised teachers not be too nice at first.  

• The rule of thumb is set your bounderies right from the start.
• As the year goes along, and they GET IT.......the teacher can soften up.  
• REMEMBER THOUGH!      Consistency is the key to success.  Students will always try to keep you on your toes....as will romance partners, work amigos and our kids.
• Always think with compassion & kindness...but remember, when messed with, make people earn your smile.

Published Monday, October 13, 2008 1:46 PM by SisterOthelia