Career & Love, do we Use the Same Rules?
Often the clients I read for have the same problems in their work environment they have in personal relationships at home. Here are some examples. When reading this, ask yourself how you work and love.
JULIES WORK PATTERN
When Julie starts a new job everyone loves her calm and sense of humor. Just when coworkers think they have her figured out, she changes. She gets easily hurt and defensive. This confuses the people around her and they begin to distance from her. Soon Julie feels as if she is on the outside looking in. She blames it on everyone but herself, and frequents the HMO office often.
JULIES PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP PATTERN
When Julie starts a new relationship she is confident and fun. Men love her independent nature. Somewhere within the second week she changes and gets needy. Her feelings get easily hurt and she starts to analyze every word and action. Soon men distance from her. They thought they knew her, but she changed.
MELISA'S WORK PATTERN
Melisa is a delight at work. She has a way of saying hardly anything but getting people to function better around her. She has natural leadership. There is an edge to her. She never lets anyone know she is insecure. When mad she has a way of pushing buttons. She can get to the bottom of someone's insecurities, which in turn makes some people fear her.
MELISA'S PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP PATTERN
Melisa has a long term husband. He puts all household finances in her hands and has learned to give her what she wants. She can say things that make him feel worthless in a quiet way. He has learned to just give her what she wants. In the long run, the household runs smoother and everyone is happy if he gives up his power. She runs the relationship and he does not mind. When she is happy with him life is good.
SAUL'S WORK PATTERN
Saul likes to work alone. He has found that when too many people are around he can't relax or think. It gets on his nerves. After several years at a conservative job he decided to try something new where he could work at his own pace and be alone. Within 10 years he was the best at his artistic craft around.
SAUL'S PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP PATTERN
Saul had a big family but things got on his nerves. He needs a lot of time alone. This drives his wife crazy, but when Saul works full time and creates he seems more relaxed. She's learned to give him his space. In return he lets her run the household ands does not get in her way. The kids would have liked it better if he would have spent more time with them. As they get older they get closer to their father as a person.
THE COMMON DENOMINATOR OF WORK AND LOVE
I have found the same problems that stem from work, no matter where we move to, repeat themselves from job to job eventually. These same patterns are repeated very often in our personal relationships. Though the jobs may change from better or worse, how we relate to the people around us at work helps to make our life more joyful or depressing. In my over 14,000 Intuitive Readings with clients I have found that work and relationship patterns go hand in hand.
A SMALL STEP TOWARDS FIXING PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
{Start with your Job}
Practice on the people you work with day to day. Bring your new behavior into your friendships and relationships after you see results.
1} What happens when you don't analyze the words of coworkers for hidden intent?
2} What happens when you smile more?
3} What happens when you break your alone needs and reach out for a first conversation?
4}What happens if you block out the negative voices in your head of boredom or entrapment?
5} What happens if you speak up more?
6} What happens if you don't try to do everything yourself?