DO YOU HAVE TO BE PERFECT?
Do the following things happen to you when you make a mistake?
@ Do you become severely depressed?
@ Spend Hours on the Phone or Emailing in a Desperate Effort to regain the Image of Perfection?
@ Beat Your Self Up with Negative thoughts?
@ Forget How to Laugh at Yourself?
@ Do you Quit Jobs, Friendships, Relationships or Move State to State So that you Can Keep Up the Image of Perfection wherever you are?
Please know that I too come from a family of perfectionists. It isn't enough that we do things well. We are in a constant struggle to be the best. Soon it is like a heavy anchor around the neck. The effort to keep up being the best absolutely flushes the joy of life down the toilet.
Few will praise our accomplishments. Most are quick to point out our faults. Depending on how you were raised, is how well you can take this. Learning to laugh at your mistakes is a VALUABLE winning tool.
Our Children download our behavior the entire time they are with us. It may not seem so at the time. Wait and see what happens further down the road. Perfectionist Parents forget to teach their children the valuable lesson of how to forgive their mistakes. Our children in turn raise children that can not accept relaxation, or learn how to love them selves whether they win or lose time to time.
HERES THE SECREAT: Our occasional blatant mistakes make us endearing to others. They see us as more forgivable. Most of all we don't have to out work a previous record we could barely meet up to from the start. We don't have to become slaves to ourselves.
Learning how to laugh at our own mistakes sabotages the sabotagers.
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