Diva Attacks
Have you ever been at work and watched a circle of women
point and criticize someone for the way they dress, speak or walk?
Have you ever noticed how it isn’t so much
the “underdog” that is their victim, but someone that is getting more attention
then they? What is it they fear most?
This high school mentality plays in adults as well as children.
Treat the critic with the same critical behavior
they throw out and watch them turn in to seething spitting she-cats.
Stand up and defend the object of their
disdain, they become overwhelmed.
SO WHY DO THEY DO IT?
There is an old poem that
goes like this:
Tough tough tough
tough….insecure,
Tough tough tough
tough….insecure,
Tough tough tough
tough.....insecure.
Behind every insult addict, gossip-circle and abuser is an
attention craving child who has been treated badly at some point and wants to
get back. Often they have downloaded
from parents that winning is everything, and to be beautiful, popular and have many admirers is
all that really matters.
BEST COURSE OF ACTION FOR DIVA ATTACK
- Do nothing. What critiques
hate most is being ignored. Without the reaction of anger, tears or shame, their abusive comments have no power.
- Wear an imaginary mini fan, a billowing scarf,
and walk like a Harlequin Novel Goddess.
Consider this. If the diva women and men were not so jealous of anothers' success, they would not have any fun tearing someone apart. Strength is in numbers. Alone they cry like a
child. Your confidence and refusal to play their game means they will find another soon to tear apart. React and play the game with them and the dynamics of abuse go on and on and on.