LOVE WITH A MARRIED MAN
There's an old law that says:
If he hasn’t left his partner the first year that you are together,
it’s doubtful he will leave the second year.
If he hasn’t left his mate the second year and you stay,…
Well bless your heart. It’s pretty positive he won’t leave his partner the third year.
If he hasn’t left his house mate the third year and you STILL WAIT
…WAKE UP SWEET FOOL!
By now you have set up the dynamics for your relationship.
In other words, you can’t turn chicken soup into beef gumbo.
And worse yet, he gets 2 women and you get part of a man.
Here Are Some Excuses You May Be Hearing:
“WE DON’T GET ALONG AND ARE BOTH MISERABLE””
{OK….So why doesn't he just leave?}
“WE NEVER HAVE SEX, BUT WITH YOU IT’S INCREDIBLE”
He got bored and needs sparkly newness in his life.
{Maybe they have a very stable friendship and he doesn’t want to hurt her.
And if he doesn’t want to hurt her this year…why would he next year?}
"SHE’S VERY SICK AND I HAVE TO HELP OUT UNTIL SHE IS GONE."
{He’s waiting to collect life insurance and live the good life}
“I HAVE TO WAIT UNTIL THE KIDS ARE GROWN. IT WOULDN’T BE RIGHT TO LEAVE NOW.”
{He’s afraid if he left early his wife would take him for every penny he has.}
SHE HAS CHEATED ON HIM BEFORE AND HE IS REALLY HURT.
So often this is from the lover that is in a looking - glass relationship.
That is to say, two people are constantly jealous of each other to the point they self sabotage. Get in a relationship with this man and even though you are his “Other Woman”……now he wants to know where you are at all times. Why? Because inside his mind he is afraid you are spending as much time thinking about cheating as he is.
If you take on this man you will repeat the same dynamics that split up his marriage.
"YOU UNDERSTAND ME. SHE DOESN’T."
This man’s partner stopped being a mommy. He wants a new one.
Be careful! Children rebel against their mommies, and he will run between you and her.
"SHES A BIMBO. I GIVE HER WHAT SHE WANTS. SHE LEAVES ME ALONE."
So often this is the wealthy man who needs the stability of marriage only for his career.
The problem is, where there is a wealthy wife, there is a hired Private Eye. Be careful or SHE will have YOUR head and reputation on a plate like John the Baptist.
IN THE CASE OF TWO MARRIED PEOPLE LEAVING THEIR MATES, WHAT EVER YOU DO DON’T ASSUME IF YOU LEAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FIRST, HE WILL LEAVE HIS. Time after time, I have counseled the remorse and tears of impatient souls who thought if they left their secure relationships first, the “other” would follow. Too often this leads to grief as the “other” gets cold feet and stays married. Mean while the impatient one loses the trust of their previous mate.
Amongst the freedom and temptation of love with a married man, be sure that you do not close your eyes to the message beneath the excuses. If he hasn’t left that “other” by the first year, you are probably just “spinning your tires on someone else’s lawn" by the second year.