OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON?
Did I look for a man over 14 yrs younger then I to come into my life? Heavens no. We had to decide to overlook the discrimination. But the funny thing is this. After 11 yrs marriage he has gray hair. I haven't even had my first one yet. His back goes out constantly. Mine never does. I can skip circles around him. He is an old soul. One look at this picture I think you'll see what I mean. He acts like my over protective Dad. I have to poke him to make him lighten up. A young heart is eternal. So is an old soul. Age has little to do with it.
WHEN IT ALL SEES TO HAPPEN
Many women blow out their 40th birthday cake candles with a sinking feeling of defeat. But to their amazement they find younger men are looking back more. Why?
PHEROMONES! You are wafting out a silent sexual odor as intoxicating as an 18 year old boy’s. Its nature’s way of signaling to the opposite sex you are prime and ready for pregnancy. For many women in their early 40’s this is their last chance at safe child birth. With reasonable body fitness and a good hair day, a woman in her early 40’s has pheromones that scream like a bare naked mermaid singing to a ship wrecked sailor.
OTHER REASONS WHY OLDER WOMEN/YOUNGER MEN WORK OUT
But this is not the only reason the phenomena of older women and younger men are hitching up these days. Women in their middle years are looking much younger. Body, skin and hair are more natural and fit. Add “polish” and “confidence” to this artillery and you are a very interesting person. The New Age man looks for the “person” inside the body. And just like that well toned body machine, confidence sometimes takes a long time to develop……..say, 40 years or more.
True. There are women executives in their 20’s and 30’s with raging confidence. They are the living walking Barbie dolls of this earth. Youth means growth. Men are often aware that with a young beautiful woman comes high maintenance. An older woman’s toxic beauty is satisfaction with where she is in the present. Often she is completely satisfied not to have children, a huge wedding, or to have the life of a Barbie doll.
And how do I know all this? I have been married for ten years to a man 14 years younger then my self. Kevin is into body building and healthy eating. Because he is younger and of the more liberated male era, he washes the clothes with out question. {He says I leave clumps of Tide in his underwear.} He is a neat freak. I am free form. He worries and watches over me. I am very independent. He is a Republican. I am an Independent. He is a racing fanatic. I am into sculpture gardening. He lives for wide green grass to golf on. I live for artistic gardening of wide green grass.
HERE IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU ARE FIRST WITH A YOUNGER MAN
1} You may often stare deeply into the store clerks eyes as you check out your groceries wondering “if they can see” the age gulf between you and your partner. This too will pass within a year or two, as you and your partner stay together.
2} As you cement your bond together, the insurance man/ bank loan officer will ask your ages on a combined policy. As you bravely announce your individual wide spread date of births you will see your attendant take a small gulp, and a quick glance back and forth at your faces. They will then act like its nothing unusual. Get used to it. Be proud.
3} Some of your girlfriends will make macho guttural sounds of satisfaction, similar to the sounds middle age men make when an amigo dates a young Barbie Doll. Ignore them. Act very casual. I tell you this because no relationship is written in blood. In the case of an older woman – younger man union break up, the first conclusion made by others will be that it was the age difference. So do not gloat now. They will use it against you later.
4} Some stead fast true friends may not know how to act. Once they know there is an age difference, especially one over 10 years, they may choose to distance you from their couple get togethers. This may hurt.
These people don’t know how to relate. Especially when an older woman amigo brings a younger lover to the tribal circle, men seem especially uncomfortable when their wives treat the younger man guest like a celebrity.
5} DEFEATING SELF SABOTAGE may occur in some women when dating younger men. They search the eyes of their lover for shame, when inviting them in the company of a pretty young woman. Insecurity of breaking the “Age-Norm” unconsciously makes the older partner jealous and ACT ugly. Don’t question and compare yourself. Your own insecurity may ruin a perfect union with a man that finds you beautiful and fascinating.
MY CONCLUSION ON OLDER WOMEN / YOUNGER MEN
My mother always told me that women age slower then men in interests and passion. Sadly she would sit next to her older husband who stared at the TV completely set in his ways. She would say, “Honey, if a woman marries a man at least 10 years younger then herself, she should be about equal in life span and energy level to him. Add to that a desire to stay fit and trim, 10 years equals 1 year in male/female age difference.