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OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON?
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Did I look for a man over 14 yrs younger then I to come into my life? Heavens no. We had to decide to overlook the discrimination. But the funny thing is this. After 11 yrs marriage he has gray hair. I haven't even had my first one yet. His back goes out constantly. Mine never does. I can skip circles around him.  He is an old soul.   One look at this picture I think you'll see what I mean.  He acts like my over protective Dad.  I have to poke him to make him lighten up.  A young heart is eternal.  So is an old soul.  Age has little to do with it.

 


WHEN IT ALL SEES TO HAPPEN



Many women blow out their 40th birthday cake candles with a sinking feeling of defeat.  But to their amazement they find younger men are looking back more.  Why?

 

PHEROMONES!  You are wafting out a silent sexual odor as intoxicating as an 18 year old boy’s.  Its nature’s way of signaling to the opposite sex you are prime and ready for pregnancy.  For many women in their early 40’s this is their last chance at safe child birth.  With reasonable body fitness and a good hair day, a woman in her early 40’s has pheromones that scream like a bare naked mermaid singing to a ship wrecked sailor.  

 

OTHER REASONS WHY OLDER WOMEN/YOUNGER MEN WORK OUT

 

But this is not the only reason the phenomena of older women and younger men are hitching up these days.   Women in their middle years are looking much younger.  Body, skin and hair are more natural and fit.  Add “polish” and “confidence” to this artillery and you are a very interesting person.  The New Age man looks for the “person” inside the body.  And just like that well toned body machine, confidence sometimes takes a long time to develop……..say, 40 years or more.

 

True.  There are women executives in their 20’s and 30’s with raging confidence.  They are the living walking Barbie dolls of this earth. Youth means growth.  Men are often aware that with a young beautiful woman comes high maintenance.  An older woman’s toxic beauty is satisfaction with where she is in the present.   Often she is completely satisfied not to have children, a huge wedding, or to have the life of a Barbie doll.

 

And how do I know all this?  I have been married for ten years to a man 14 years younger then my self.  Kevin is into body building and healthy eating.  Because he is younger and of the more liberated male era, he washes the clothes with out question.  {He says I leave clumps of Tide in his underwear.}  He is a neat freak.  I am free form.  He worries and watches over me.  I am very independent.  He is a Republican.  I am an Independent.  He is a racing fanatic.   I am into sculpture gardening.  He lives for wide green grass to golf on.  I live for artistic gardening of wide green grass.

 

HERE IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU ARE FIRST WITH A YOUNGER MAN

 

1} You may often stare deeply into the store clerks eyes as you check out your groceries wondering “if they can see” the age gulf between you and your partner.  This too will pass within a year or two, as you and your partner stay together.

 

2} As you cement your bond together, the insurance man/ bank loan officer will ask your ages on a combined policy. As you bravely announce your individual wide spread date of births you will see your attendant take a small gulp, and a quick glance back and forth at your faces.  They will then act like its nothing unusual. Get used to it.  Be proud.

 

3} Some of your girlfriends will make macho guttural sounds of satisfaction, similar to the sounds middle age men make when an amigo dates a young Barbie Doll.  Ignore them.  Act very casual.  I tell you this because no relationship is written in blood.  In the case of an older woman – younger man union break up, the first conclusion made by others will be that it was the age difference.  So do not gloat now.  They will use it against you later.

 

4} Some stead fast true friends may not know how to act.  Once they know there is an age difference, especially one over 10 years, they may choose to distance you from their couple get togethers.  This may hurt.

These people don’t know how to relate. Especially when an older woman amigo brings a younger lover to the tribal circle, men seem especially uncomfortable when their wives treat the younger man guest like a celebrity.

 

5} DEFEATING SELF SABOTAGE may occur in some women when dating younger men.  They search the eyes of their lover for shame, when inviting them in the company of a pretty young woman.  Insecurity of breaking the “Age-Norm” unconsciously makes the older partner jealous and ACT ugly.  Don’t question and compare yourself.  Your own insecurity may ruin a perfect union with a man that finds you beautiful and fascinating.

 

MY CONCLUSION ON OLDER WOMEN / YOUNGER MEN

 

My mother always told me that women age slower then men in interests and passion.  Sadly she would sit next to her older husband who stared at the TV completely set in his ways. She would say,  “Honey, if a woman marries a man at least 10 years younger then herself, she should be about equal in life span and energy level to him.  Add to that a desire to stay fit and trim, 10 years equals 1 year in male/female age difference.

 

 

 

Published Monday, July 23, 2007 9:53 AM by SisterOthelia

Comments

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Monday, July 23, 2007 8:20 AM

Great blog!  I too married a man 10 years younger than I am and we went through the societal "frowning" also but we have been married 30 years so it was right for us.  He is the guardian of my heart and my best friend and I am thankful I was brave enough to close my eyes to all the taboo's of "older woman-younger man" propaganda!  

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Monday, July 23, 2007 10:53 AM

excellent, mine is 12yrs younger than me, thank God i took care of myself all those years so i don't look so bad. lol
great blog!!!!!

sunset

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Monday, July 23, 2007 1:45 PM

I LOve this blog! you made my day!! My husband is 15 years younger than myself~ we connected from our souls and have been together 4 years now~ Beautiful family and lots of pureness in us~ and I had gone through all those situations you layed out above~ I am getting better at it:)

God Bless this Blog!!!!
Much Love,
Donna

Donna Carvalho

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Wednesday, August 15, 2007 5:44 AM

I have just started a very passionate relationship with a man 16 years younger than me. Most of my friends don't know yet and the ones that do think I'm crazy. He's the most romantic man I have ever met and glad to say we have the best sex ever. Sooooo however long it lasts we're both going to enjoy it!!!!!!!!!!

Cindy

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Monday, August 20, 2007 5:49 PM

Ilove older women because they are mature and knw what they want in a relationship.All my lfe have been dating women older than me.Now am planning to settle with an older woman out there who wants to have a healthy relationship

george

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Friday, October 19, 2007 12:30 PM

I have been married for 6 years I am 10 years older I can not express in words our love that we have for each other I loved reading your blog as I smiled at everything you wrote anyway thanks for the good read.

kelly

# re: please help :OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Thursday, August 07, 2008 7:26 PM

I have a beautiful pleasant pure loving relationship with a guy 10 years younger than me, since 1 year. And it is mutual, we talk about everything, no fights so far. he is 22, i am 32. We appreciate each other and accomodate at all times. I do feel sometime I am older or may look older than him. But have felt very good with him and forgotten about it. But recently he moved to a different place for his career and says that he can decide about marriage only after few years after his studies and career. He feels sad and he doesn't want me to wait for him and lose my chances of getting married to a nice guy. Also he wants to date few girls before he can make that final decision. I am confused. I am ready to do anything for love and take it further and build the relationship. I dont feel like getting close, or date any guy now. He has started looking and I fear I will lose him or atleast our pure love will not be pure anymore. What is your advice for me.

sue

# My Gypsy lover @ Friday, September 19, 2008 3:54 AM

Recently I met a man 11 years younger. I am 56, he is 45. I actually think I look younger than he does! He's of Gypsy descent and I am just crazy about him. He is so different from any lover of any nationality I have had before. He makes me glow and sparkle all over. He has this mystique, this multi-layered personality - I'm smitten. Your article has helped me stop feeling a tiny bit ashamed.

Maggie

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Friday, March 13, 2009 7:03 PM

I, too had a relationship with this man whose 17 yrs. older than me,he taught me how beautiful life was, we enjoyed good things in which i never had since i was seperated with my husband long before.I am not ashamed to be with him,I had the best sex with him, but still am afraid that i might lose him someday, He's the best guy i had in my whole life!!!!!!

lou67

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Monday, May 04, 2009 7:19 PM

Hey how about sexual relation? My guy is 5 years younger then me, Can 47 yr old lady satisfy 42 yr old man?

Sosasi

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Tuesday, June 02, 2009 12:07 PM

I am unhappily married and recently met and started dating a younger man, I am 41 he is 26 and yes, its true, he is the most loving adorable person I have ever met.  The love he gives is intoxicating.  We cant stay away from each other.  The sex is "OUTSTANDING" and he treats me like a queen.  His family loves me, and no one looks at us strangely.  I look much younger than my age though.  He notices everything, and knows just what to say and how to say it all the time.  I am seriously considering leaving my un grateful husband who pays no attention to me, and seeing what this man has to offer.

Rossalind

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Wednesday, September 16, 2009 3:05 PM

I've recently started a relationship with a guy 16 years younger - he chased and to my surprise i responded.

It's a bond and the sex is sensational.

However long, neither of us is counting, just enjoying.

Laura

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Monday, December 07, 2009 12:03 PM

im wondering if a 60 year old woman who looks every bit of 60 can be in a long term relationship with a 45 yr old man that likes to party and drink and do other recreational things hes also broke do you think theyre relationship will be succesful ? i dont

baby doll

big baby doll

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Monday, June 14, 2010 11:22 AM

I am a woman, mid forties, secretly seeing a man 20 years younger. we connect and are openly/publicly best friends! Sex has not come into our relationship yet. We have also not shared a passionate kiss either. We hug and both can feel the sexual tension! But, we both resist. I think in fear of ruining what we do have! Just to be in the same room or speaking over the phone is so satisfying for both of us. we have an underlying acceptance of each other, which translates into the feeling that we are free to express our spiritual & imaginative sides without fear of judgement in each other's presence. It's like an unconditional love, which is very rare in romantic partnerships...and something neither of us have ever experienced. It's hot romance without sex!

KeraLily

# re: OLDER WOMEN WITH YOUNGER MEN...WHATS GOING ON? @ Monday, September 10, 2012 11:45 AM

I have been with guys younger than me, but never one 11 years younger than me. He and I hit it off great and most of the time see eye to eye. He questions my knowledge on things in life, but that's okay I have a right to my opinions and understandings and so does he. We have been together over 6 months and it's been great up until the last month I really don't know what has come over me. I have been expressing insecurities and I'm not usually an insecure person. I tell him and hurt his feelings and make him mad. How do I stop doing these things? Before these feelings it was me trying to run from him loving me and had to hold on to him dearly. Now it's I don't want to run him off. So I pray we get thru all this and I can come back on here with a life story of a great everlasting relationship someday. SO any advice is welcome. Be stern if you feel u need to....I'm a bit of a hard head.

TCMomma

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