WHY DID HE CHANGE? {Guess what? It was you!}
One day a woman who had always dated bad boys found the perfect man on a dating site. He was handsome, had a great job and was sensitive. Soon she wrote home she had finally found Mr. Perfect. And then he became needy.
Suddenly SHE started behaving all the ways she hated guys to treat her. As her “special man” got closer she began to get paranoid. Was he taking too much of her time? She did an internet back ground check and found nothing bad on him. One day, not familiar to all the attention, she told him not to call so much. Wounded, he stopped calling all together.
Now she was scared! What had she done? Analyzing her actions, he determined she needed a jerk...like he read women are attracted to in the magazines. He started acting evasive, giving answers that said nothing.
The worst part is he proved those magazines right! As he distanced himself she began to call and email more. Soon she started telling him how much she cared about him. He would just shake his head and say, “I don’t know what to say.” That familiar anxiety she had mistaken for "love" before, surfaced in her soul.
Now she was confused and convinced he didn’t care about her. Instead of giving up, she went in to a pleading voice asking "What was wrong? Did he care about her? Had she done any thing wrong?" HE became hopelessly in love with his new power and got better at it daily. His new behavior and her response was beginning to make him feel like a real stud muffin.
ADVICE IN DEALING WITH AN ARROAGANT MAN
1} Stop rewarding his arrogance. When he suddenly distracts by acting uncaring or cold, refuse to notice it. Treat it like a dance. Do anything but watch him, or acknowledge his behavior with worry.
2} Remember when you start analyzing his arrogance as your fault and plead for explanations of what you have done wrong, you are playing right in to his game.
3} Do not ask him if he cares about you, or tell him you love him after he has given you an evasive reply. Follow his lead. Stop telling him how you feel for him altogether. If he was nice to begin with, he will most likely panic when you play his own game back.
I have found that ignoring a mans arrogance will sometimes change him in just one night. If it takes longer don't give up! Give it a month. If you have had a history of bad boys you know that you will stay around that long.
But now here is the important part. Be consistent and keep it up. Its the only way it will keep him from reverting back to arrogant behaviour. Even nice guys can become jerks if they see it works.