Make the Most of Each Day
"I wish I had been kinder"
"I wish I could tell her I love her one more time"
"Why didn't I give him a hug when we last saw each other?"
Statements like these are so common after tragedy strikes. We think about how we could have made a little more effort and shown a little more love, compassion, care etc. if we had only taken an extra moment or two.
Life gets so very busy and we find ourselves wrapped up in the tiny details of life.We become concerned about the little things in life. In some sense they are important -- we want our spouse to not leave his dirty underwear on the bathroom floor, our children to wipe their feet before they come intothe house and our roommate to not eat our leftover Chinese food.
It is also true that it is important that our spouse realize he needs to not live like a filthy frat boy who expects a maid to clean up once a week, our children need to slow down at times and remember to be easy on the carpets, and our roommate need to be respectful and not eat food she didn't buy.
These small things can lead to BIG arguments and those heated exchanges can involves words and actions we may regret.
We may refuse to hug our child, kiss our spouse or we may think about throttling our roommate.
But what is the extraordinary and unusual happens and while separated that day, that other person is seriously injured or killed. Or if that does not happen, we take the negative vibe of that conversation and let it affect the remiander of our day. Our day and/or night goes downhill.
I urge you, to put things in perspective. Say something about the issue and try to work out a plan to live together and not drive each other crazy -- then drop it. Do not take the negativity into the next moment. Intentionally saerch for something good to say and/or think about the person and focus on it. Tell that person you love her, give him that hug and gently and jointly decide how to handle the communication between the kids and you.
Focus on something good in that day and take it with you. Make the most of every day you have because you never know how many days you or the people in your life have. Your next moment could be your last memory, so make it a good one. And when you awaken the next day and all is still secure in your world, be thankful.
To your success!
Barrett
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L. Barrett Powell is an international coach and cultural trainer/consultant with an academic background and experience in psychology, theology and journalism. Barrett's focus is on Success Coaching incorporating the Law of Attraction. She lives and works with individuals and inter-cultural organizations in the USA and Europe as a coach, coordinator and trainer. Contact her by email.