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Thank You..GREAT!!!

Well Steve, once again a remarkable story about the concept of respect; so as you give so shall you receive.  Although simple in saying so, why is it that I have to be reminded of the events in my life are often brought about by my own doing.  To coin my phrase "we are often victims of our own circumstances".  Thank you for pointing out the obvious for us to ponder as well as practice!

Can't hear it.  Just see a blank page and done written at the bottom of the screen.  Tried it on Netscape as well as Internet Explorer . . .

Very well spoken and articulated Steve. I'm pretty good at this with the men in my life but I fall down flat with my 14-yr-old daughter who is an expert at getting under my skin. Or, I should say, she's an expert at getting me to look at how I allow her comments to push me around. She's probably being a normal teenager. I, however, get reduced to a blithering idiot at times because I'm so hurt by her sharp comments. Smart girl, knowing just what will hurt. What works every time is remaining calm, continuing to be respectful to us both and stating what's real and what I need. Thanks for reminding me!!

Very nice.  Keep these pep talks coming.  I love to hear them.  Very good point....

The simple things that it seems so few have anymore.  Wonderful sentiments as always

HUHHHH! I loved it. I listened to your message with my eyes closed and a big grin on my face. Ah, yes, respect, funny thing it is.

That was a very nice piece. Your wife sounds awesome.
You put the whole story together in a very interesting way.

Well Steve, another great "editorial", lol, however, in my case, respecting D didn't do me any good either, he still ran. I just don't get it. I do the right thing and he ran, oh well, he'll be back, you always reassure me, so it's okay.  Guess he'll eventually learn to accept me for the person I really am & realize that he does deserve my respect, admiration & love. Hey, at least those missed phone calls were a start, right? And believe me, I am thankful & will show him the utmost respect by keeping my mouth shut about the whole thing. It's better to move forward than dwell on the past as you have told me time and time again.  I will take your advice, I promise. Can't wait to let you know you were right so you can tell me "I told you so".

WOW!  I needed to hear that one!  I loved every bit of it!

Once agin you hit the nail on the head. If everyone respected each other wouldn't we live in a better place.
Thanks Steve

Respecting others is for me always tied into my own self respect.  I have to remember this when those I respect do not return respect for me.  I can continue be respectful when others are not because I respect myself enough to not allow them to corrupt my values.
I recently gave my 2 weeks notice at work, after 3.5 years working for them.  I work at a treatment center which, 20 years back, gave me life.  It always felt like being back to the place where I grew up and I always felt this kind of love and respect for it.  

This they cannot take back from me.  I feel that because I would always go the extra mile they started taking me for granted.  Because of my self respect, I had to always be direct about my thoughts, and feel that I stayed true to myself through these years.

But it came to a peek the other day and I realized, its time to move on.  I wrote a respectful letter, aknowledging what they have done for me and others and explaned my dissapointment for how myself and others have been treated.  It has been such a relief to not result to anger, yet it sad and I will be grieving for a while.  

It feels so empowering to treat others with respect even when they don't.

Thank you Steve!

That was really nice Steve!  First blog I have heard of yours.   I appreciate you so much even if funds keep me from calling all the time.  That was very helpful.  Thanks you.   Alison

Thanks for sharing your thoughts...Steve, you have so much to teach us!

God bless you and your family Steven.

That's exactly the thoughts of a hurting woman as me 41 was for62 man I admired but disheartend with lack of compassion .always who thinks more act less critical. Even being in long distant lover , thank you Steve . U managed to put livend up ma heart. Gratitude.

That's exactly the thoughts of a hurting woman as me 41 was for62 man I admired but disheartend with lack of compassion .always who thinks more act less critical. Even being in long distant lover , thank you Steve . U managed to put livend up ma heart. Gratitude.

Think ...its perfectly fine!