Dear Storm,

I am having a major problem and I am even scared to call about it, so I thought that I would write to you instead.  This is really embarrassing to me and it upsets me more that my mother is encouraging it.  I am 8 months pregnant, and my husband has asked that I select a date to have the baby, so that it does not interrupt with him playing an online video game called, “Everquest”.     My mother feels that because he is the major bread winner of the family that I should just schedule the delivery around his schedule so that I do not upset him.   Would you please offer me some advice?  How is this marriage going to work?

Thank you for considering this email.

Sincerely,

Cecily in OH

 

Dear Cecily,

Ouch!   Many people would read this and wonder what is wrong with you, but I am more concerned about what is wrong with a world that would allow anyone to even think that this is permissible.  It is amazing to me, because I have been working on a new lecture serious called,  “The Politics of Stupid”, and this is a perfect example of this mentality.   First of all, exposing a new born to chemicals that are not even necessary is just abusive in my opinion, yet also could be very damaging to the child if the child reacts to it in a bad way.   You wonder why so many children are running around with ADD in this day and age, when parents are electing to do this stuff because “it is convenient” – as if there are no CONSEQUENCES to that? 

As far as your marriage is concerned, I feel that you are enabling your husband to continue with an addiction (in this case video game) at the expense of your new born, and surprisingly enough you’re Mother has also elected to enable him, because she fears for your personal security and financial well being.   If you want this marriage to work then you are going to have to make some aggressive changes and do it NOW.  Otherwise,  I am feeling psychically that is going to become more controlling and more the “child” in this relationship as he demands everything that he wants.  He is treating you like his personal servant and baby maker.    If this path continues you will get more and more upset and eventually he will leave the relationship, because you are resentful, angry, and bitter.   If you want this relationship to work then you need to put your foot down now.  Although, I do feel that he will become upset and throw temper tantrums in the beginning he will turn around, you are just going to have to teach him that you are not going to tolerate this.  

DO NOT PLAY THE POLITICS OF STUPID!  

With Light,

Storm

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