Banging Your Head Against A Brick Wall Won’t Make It Change Into A Castle.
Look it’s simple really, if you cannot change what is going on around you (and you can’t if other people are involved because it would mean they have to change and you can’t change them only they can change themselves), then doesn’t it make perfect sense that you have to change the way you approach the situation or stay the same and remove yourself from the situation.
Instead of asking how to make the brick wall into a Fairy Castle, ask how you can best protect your head.
Blessings.