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# re: Happy Wednesday! @ Wednesday, April 04, 2007 10:29 AM

I enjoy Debra's emails tremendously and this latest one about re-creating the lessons we need to learn definitely hits home for me. I echo Debra's words about past relationships and trying to fix him or the situation instead of fixing myself. My current situation has not been easy but it is teaching me the value of being true to myself and respecting myself. One day it will manifest into a beautiful, loving, healthy and balanced relationship. Thank you Debra for being my inspiration with this journey. xo

dragongirl08

# re: Happy Wednesday! @ Wednesday, April 04, 2007 11:06 AM

I echo Spiritualseeker 66's words.(And Debra's of course!) It is a very hard lesson to go down a tunnel and meet yourself coming back, and not liking who you see! Lessons have been shown to me over the past 12 years..a repeat lesson. At first I judged others, and could not see my own faults and how I manifested the result. I did not honor myself, but rather blamed myself. I look back on those experiences now with a new knowledge, and a new perspective. Debra has guided me and encouraged me into valuing myself fist and foremost, as the light worker I am slowly becoming. Just as Debra before me and many others, my natural need of " over caring" has to be channeled into "caring " for myself first. It is sometimes a hard lesson to learn to love ourselves first, against all teaching drummed into us as children. But I now see the reality, without first loving ourselves, how can be possibly love another. truly.

Child of the Rainbow

# re: Happy Wednesday! @ Wednesday, April 04, 2007 12:00 PM

This seems to be a common problem with caregivers/lightworkers and out of curiousity are a higher percentage of them women? For years I gave and gave when it came to my relationships and what I have to show is two failed marriages and several failed
relationships. With Debra's help, I am finally becoming more stingy with the giving to others and focusing on giving to myself. It has been a long journey and "monitoring" is a definate. Because of that "monitoring" I am quickly realizing in my current relationship that in order for it to work I need to pull back and do my own thing more. Not be as understanding and flexible, as hard as that is in my nature. The bright side of this is that in the last year I am not doing it as much and seeing it more quickly. I have finally learned that his happiness with me does not equate to my happiness with myself or the situation. I don't need to make everyone else happy to be happy with myself. We are gods children and we are all special in our unique ways and are loved by the one who truly matters. Oh, and of course loved by Debra (LOL) : )

Susan

# re: Happy Wednesday! @ Wednesday, April 04, 2007 1:20 PM

This one defintiely hits home for me as I have just repeated a situation I had gone through back in 2001.  With Debra's help I can see that not being true to myself this time around has brought me back to this place.  I am definitely a care giver but I am slowly learning to take care of me and to realize I cannot fix things all the time. These are hard lessons for me and I thank God every day for Debra.  She has helped me to grow spirually and let go of what I do not have control of. I just love Debra! She is a gift from God to help all of us continue on our path and live more fulfilled lives.

Marie1216

# re: Happy Wednesday! @ Wednesday, April 04, 2007 9:25 PM

It seems so hard to love ourselves sometimes. The lessons have been hard for me, but time, faith, PATIENCE and DEBRA have brought me to a point in my life where if I don't see what's best for "ME" and love myself before hand... I will not be loved or appreciated by another. I too have had MANY failed relationships... As a matter of fact, I've never had a sucessful one... I am just now learning to love myself.  

Looking4Hope

# re: Happy Wednesday! @ Thursday, April 05, 2007 9:18 AM

My situation is a little different I guess- I had several relationships where I was so busy with my own thing, they came, they went and it didn't matter. Callous as it may seem. I cared for them but something else always came first. My studies, my friends, work...it was always something.

Then I hit 28 and met the most frustrating man on the face of this planet. I have taken baby steps to try to regain myself. I am so used to catering to his needs I forget my own. I have become a part of him and yes I have become his doormat. I am tired of it. I love him with all of my being but I have to love me too. Which is where I am at. Debra has given me a lot of validations she is superb. I have yet to see her predictions manifest....which is where I am skittish because a part of me fears letting go. I am trying to gain the strength and with Debra's patience and help I should get there. Any suggestions or advice? Thanks to all for your postings:)

fulloflove22

# re: Happy Wednesday! @ Thursday, April 05, 2007 10:53 AM

In answer to Fulloflove22:-

It is only fear within our selves of losing the object of our desires, that make us overwhelming in love... to over protect, to over care and indeed, to over love.. if we do this we stifle the life force and learning process in others. These lessons in others (that they were ordained to learn in this incarnation), are NOT our responsibility, much as we want to help them and speed up the process for them. Try to view yourself as a bystander...standing strong and patiently by with love and light in your heart. Nobody learns life lessons at the same rate, some lucky ones are given the chance to learn them early..(just as you do at 28) ah me! Some have to wait almost a lifetime to absorb and learn... (me!) All pupils in "a life class"all graduating at a different age.

I believe we chose our incarnation this lifetime... at our birth we made a contract with God to learn and manifest the lessons we didnt get right in past lifetimes. That is why souls we have known before manifest again. We have many soul mates, each serves a purpose and  a lesson in each lifetime. A soul mate does not necessarily mean a lover...it can be any relationship...but know and trust that each serves a purpose towards your higher self.
My personal lesson is of learning to let go, and not controlling/overwhelming another..to allow their pathway and lessons in their own personal time. This is very hard for me, as all spiritual lesson are. But..they are ultimately the most rewarding when achieved. I am still on that rocky road! LOL!

I wish you luck and love...fulloflove22
xox

Child of the Rainbow

# re: Happy Wednesday! @ Thursday, April 05, 2007 12:28 PM

I think Hawaii7 summed it perfectly and I can't think of anything else to add to it other than a bit of my own personal experience.
I understand the desire/wish to have someone see things from your perspective, especially when you love that person so dearly. I did this as well and the results were a disaster because he was not ready or willing to see things the way I saw them, plus we all have our own realities.
Have faith that if the connection is a true, spiritual one, then karma will turn around in time. (not our time frame but when the Universe knows it's the right time) This is where letting go and continuing on the path to being your true self is crucial, because as we learn to love ourselves more, we will bring into our lives what's the best for us.
Have faith and God Bless!

dragongirl08

# re: Happy Wednesday! @ Thursday, April 05, 2007 12:56 PM

WOW...I have to say something! This is meant with all good intentions...and LOVE! I am so proud of you all.....how you are writing and responding....and I see our readings have penetrated!! I LOVE it!I LOVE MOST OF ALL THE SHARING AMONGST YOU!What a besutiful thing! And of course I LOVE all of you!!  

WhiteLightAngel

# re: Happy Wednesday! @ Thursday, April 05, 2007 5:22 PM

If I may also say thank you to the lovely people posting on this forum for their powerful and inspiring words.
I am blessed to have 'met' you. Thank you Debra for creating a blog of healing and love. xo

dragongirl08

# re: Happy Wednesday! @ Thursday, April 05, 2007 5:36 PM

Yes DEBRA...All pupils in your life class..what a wonderful example you are to us all.... cant wait for "graduation day" This life time or the next?...ssshhh tut tut is that cynicism or what? No- its impatience..and we know how that is "rewarded"  ergo:-another lesson of staying after school to re-sit it! LOL!

Child of the Rainbow

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